Activity for Elizabeth

I don't mind having kids at our reception as long as I don't end up being the babysitter....which tends to happen. Is it too tacky to put out a disclaimer? I was thinking something funny like "We are not responsible for any swear words or dirty...

We both have divorced parents. Mine get along well, his do not. Is it too much work to correlate group family pictures with each side of the family? I'm debating if I want to include all of the cousins, etc or not just because it would be each side...

Are save the dates worth it? I've seen mixed reviews. What's the best place/way to do save the dates/invites cheap while still looking classy?

I'm thinking that I want my MOH in a long dress and the rest of my maids in short. But I'm on the fence!

I'm really torn on whether or not to invite kids. We have friends/family with kids but some of them can be unruly...and I always ended up babysitting them instead of the parents. I don't want to have to babysit them on our day. However, I want to...