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Lavender Oaks Farm is a 60-acre country estate located in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

Imagine a timeless setting with all your favorite people on the most magnificent 60 private acres located less than 5 miles to downtown Chapel Hill, NC, very close to all the hotels, restaurants, and only 30 minutes to RDU Airport. Plus, Uber/Lyft come to our farm as a convenience for your guests!

Wedding Planning & Wedding Day Coordinator INCLUDED! We provide full service wedding planning and an event manager (wedding day coordinator) with our fee. The average wedding budget our couples spend including our venue fee is $35K to $45K. At first glance we look expensive, but since we provide so much for our couples we know we provide an incredible experience within a fantastic budget.

Included:

  • Wedding Planning
  • Event Management
  • Graphic Design (Design & Printing of Save the Date, Invitations, and all Wedding Day Signs
  • Decor, Furniture, Lounge Sets
  • Tables, Chairs, Bars
  • Outdoor Furniture
  • Linens
  • And More

At Lavender Oaks Farm, your guests arrive through our stone gates along a majestic tree-lined drive to a breathtaking view of our two historic timber frame barns that have been lovingly and meticulously restored. Our Main Barn, circa 1900, is designed after European chateaus and is rustic, yet refined, 7,000 sq ft, temperature controlled, and includes our beautiful Dressing Suite, large entry area for welcoming guests, two 10' long Bars, a separate room for specialty vendors such as photo booths, a gourmet kitchen that caterers love, spacious restrooms, and our Lavender Oaks Farm Boutique. Walk outside our Main Barn and enjoy our 3,000 sq ft outdoor patio with our stone fireplace, wrought iron gazebo, all overlooking our 4,000 lavender plants. We faced our Main Barn east so the outdoor patio gets all the afternoon shade which is the perfect lighting for your event. Our covered outdoor Pavilion Barn circa 1865 is the perfect location for your ceremony, cocktail hour, or as a rain contingency plan. We rent our barns for weddings and special events year-round and include all your decor, tables, chairs, centerpiece items, dried or fresh lavender (seasonally), graphic design services, and we're here to help every step of the way. We provide a private online planning guide for our couples that is pertinent to our venue, plus we provide a welcome meeting to hear your overall vision and budget and recommend the best vendors to create your dream wedding. We do require you to hire one of our wedding day coordinators from our preferred list.

We rent our Main Barn and grounds 9:00 AM-11:00 PM on your wedding day. We invite you to schedule a tour to see all the beautiful items and services we include with your rental fee to make your day spectacular!


Facilities And Capacity

Lavender Oaks Farm accommodates up to 250 guests in our Main Barn, and we offer multiple areas for your ceremony, cocktail hour all in a timeless and private setting. We allow you to bring in your own alcohol, drop things off a day or two before your wedding, and come back the next day to pick up items. Our 60 acres is surrounded by a majestic forest, and since we are secluded your DJ or Band can play late inside our Main Barn!


Services Offered

Included in the venue rental are our a full service in-house Wedding Planner, plus a Wedding Day Coordinator, two historic barns, graphic design services, all your round tables, plus some farmhouse tables, white Chiavari chairs, white resin folding chairs, centerpiece items, bridal suite, groom’s retreat, cake table and pedestals, sweetheart table, assorted lanterns, candles, many glass vases, easels, photo frames, apothecary glass jars, rustic wood bars, a “floating table,” wine barrels, and assorted outdoor furniture.

Other Amenities:

Lavender Oaks Farm include:

  • Dressing Suite
  • Log Cabin for additional dressing suite
  • Wheelchair access
  • Outdoor Fireplace
  • Hispanic or Latinx-owned
  • Woman-owned
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Frequently asked questions

Which of the following are included in the starting site fee?

Bridal Suite
Chairs
Event Planning
Linens
Parking
Set Up
Tables

How many event spaces or rooms does your venue offer?

1

Describe your venue:

Barn
Farm/Ranch
Garden
Historic Building
Park

What kind of settings are available?

Indoor
Covered Outdoor
Uncovered Outdoor

Which of the following wedding events does your venue service?

Ceremony
Reception
Bridal Shower
Engagement Party
Elopements
Rehearsal Dinner

What event services do you offer?

Accommodations
Clean Up
Event Planner
Event Rentals
Get Ready Rooms
Liability Insurance
Outside Vendors
Pet Friendly
Wifi

What event items are available?

Aisle Markers
Altar/Arch
Centerpieces
Chairs
Decor
Furniture
Lighting
Tables

What transportation and access is available?

Parking
Wheelchair Access

Reviews of Lavender Oaks Farm

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Lavender Oaks Farm is highly recommended by multiple reviewers for its stunning venue and exceptional service, particularly praising Karen's dedication and attention to detail. Karen's expertise in wedding planning and the venue's picturesque European chateau-style setting, featuring various ceremony locations like a pavilion barn and gazebo, stood out to couples. Reviewers appreciated the flexibility in start and end times on their wedding day and the convenience of having chairs, tables, and decor provided by the venue. Overall, guests were impressed by the beauty of the property and had stress-free experiences, making Lavender Oaks Farm a top choice for memorable weddings.

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Lavender Oaks Farm is highly recommended by multiple reviewers for its stunning venue and exceptional service, particularly praising Karen's dedication and attention to detail. Karen's expertise in wedding planning and the venue's picturesque European chateau-style setting, featuring various ceremony locations like a pavilion barn and gazebo, stood out to couples. Reviewers appreciated the flexibility in start and end times on their wedding day and the convenience of having chairs, tables, and decor provided by the venue. Overall, guests were impressed by the beauty of the property and had stress-free experiences, making Lavender Oaks Farm a top choice for memorable weddings.

Grace
Grace Sent on 02/16/2022
5 out of 5 rating

Absolutely Perfect

Lavender Oaks Farm is a fantastic venue and I wish I could give it more than 5 stars. I initially picked this spot because of the variety of space onsite - there is an outdoor pavilion, a back patio with firepits and a fireplace, an upstairs balcony, a bridal suite, and a groomsman cabin. However, what I ended up getting was far more than I could have ever imagined. Karen, the owner, is a wonderful woman with a heart for hosting and event planning. She is patient, gracious, so generous, and kind. Never once did I feel like I was bothering her with questions or asking for too much. She went above and beyond to make sure that our day was absolutely perfect, and in making sure that we felt like family all along the way.

If you're hesitating, book this place. There is a rain contingency plan, the accommodations to your wedding party are fantastic and unmatched, and you really feel like you're being looked out for. I had a vision for different things - a hot chocolate bar, a s'mores bar, and a large dessert area. Karen made all of these come to life with ease and grace.

Not to mention, the place itself is gorgeous. Karen and her team take great care of the barn - all of our guests were blown away by how classy and beautiful the venue was.

Karen also has close ties to incredible vendors in the area. She has preferred vendors who she works seamlessly with, and they are all truly excellent.

Our day was perfect, and that has a lot to do with this barn and with Karen's heart. Thank you, Karen, for opening up this space to us!!!
Moira
Moira Sent on 11/01/2025
5 out of 5 rating

The Most WONDERFUL Venue and Staff

I would recommend Lavender Oaks Farms over and over again! My husband and I had the most amazing experience with the venue and Karen as our wedding planner. Karen is the most passionate, resourceful, and caring owner - with an ingenious eye for design and detail. From start to finish she made our October wedding unforgettable. I could rave about her forever!
On top of Karen and her amazing staff to support all your needs. Her venue is absolutely stunning, one visit and we knew it was the perfect place to get married in front of all our friends and family.
My husband and I could enjoy our wedding day to the fullest because Karen was able to perfectly execute the plan perfectly and handle any small changes without us having to worry.
All our guests could not stop praising how gorgeous and perfect Lavender Oaks Farm! I highly recommend this venue for your wedding if you want the perfect wedding, amazing scenery and photos, and to have the best night of your lives!
Amber
Amber Sent on 07/12/2025
5 out of 5 rating

Wedding Dream & More 🥰

Karen and her team from Lavender Oaks Farm made our wedding planning process and wedding day so stress free and ensured everything was taking care of from our first call to our last call summarizing our wedding day. As an out of town couple, Karen made sure we knew the policies in NC such as getting our alcohol permit and marriage license for the wedding. Karen became like family throughout the process of my husband and I getting married. She took our visions of what we wanted for our special day into account and made it a reality. Her positive energy and excitement for our wedding was felt. It was so genuine! Our guests continue to rave about the details we had that they knew it took time to put it all together but we can’t help but to thank Karen and her team for making it the best day ever! 💜💜💜
J
John Sent on 12/08/2024
5 out of 5 rating

5-star review from recent Lavender Oaks Farm wedding!

We made the best wedding decision by choosing Lavender Oaks Farm as our venue. Our wedding was in October of this year and we’re still on cloud nine!

We had planned and booked a wedding abroad but due to events outside our control we had to completely pivot. That’s when we found Karen and Lavender Oaks. She took my wife under her wing and made her feel like everything was going to be ok. She even came up to NYC during the planning process and took us out to lunch.

Wedding planning can be overwhelming but Karen is a consummate professional. When you book at her venue, Karen will be your wedding planner and connect with you with the best team of vendors in the Triangle.

The venue itself is a styled after a European chateau with lofty ceilings, natural light, and sprawling grounds to walk on. You can choose from a few different ceremony locations including a pavilion barn, fireplace patio, or gazebo. We chose the pavilion barn and it was perfect for our wedding size of 115.

Another selling point for Lavender Oaks is that the start and end times on wedding day are flexible. She opens the venue for the bridal party early in the morning and will accommodate your desired end time. We chose to keep our party going till midnight!

Karen, thank you for everything! We can’t wait to visit next time we’re in North Carolina!

(Bonus pic of Karen comforting my very stressed out fiancée during wedding week)
H
Hannah Sent on 11/17/2024
5 out of 5 rating

Amazing Wedding Venue

The Lavender Oaks Farm is such a beautiful venue. Karen does a spectacular job of keeping the property looking very nice. The Farm and the Barn are both so gorgeous. We used Lavender Oaks to host our wedding and it went off without a hitch. Every time we went there for a planning meeting with Karen we felt more and more at home. We used the patio (Gazebo) as the spot for our ceremony and inside the barn for our reception. There was a rain plan in place, but thankfully we didn’t have to use it. We loved having Karen as our wedding planner, it seemed like she took all of the stress out of wedding planning. She was available at all times to answer any questions or concerns we had. The venue offers the use of chairs for ceremony and reception, cocktail tables, dinner tables, and a whole decor list. It felt like I didn’t need to buy anything for the wedding because Karen already had it available, which was great for our budget. Thank you Karen for helping us host a spectacular wedding!
Morgan
Morgan Sent on 07/26/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Simply THE best!

Karen and the team at Lavender Oaks are phenomenal! They took such good care of us and brought our dream wedding to life. This venue is fabulous because it includes many of the things you need for your special day in the venue fee. In addition, they have a great, comprehensive list of suggested vendors, which helps make the planning process so much easier. The venue itself is absolutely gorgeous. Lastly, Karen is such a joy to work with. She truly loves each and every one of her couples and her expertise will make you feel constantly at ease. I could not recommend this place enough! 10 out of 10!
M
Maureen Sent on 07/06/2022
5 out of 5 rating

Wonderful Experience!

We had such a wonderful experience working with Karen and her team at Lavender Oaks! The venue is so beautiful, and all of our guests talked about how much they loved it. The lavender was blooming, and I swear during our ceremony birds were chirping and butterflies were floating around the pavilion barn!
Working with Karen was such a dream-- from our very first meeting she helped us plan, staying organized, sticking to a planning timeline, and helping us with decisions we didn't know how to make (or didn't know we needed to make!). She also introduced us to the most fantastic vendors, who were so kind and amazing to work with, and she helped us find vendors that helped us stay within our budget. In the weeks leading up to the venue, she quickly answered texts, calls, and emails-- helping me sort through the bumps in the road that inevitably come up in those last few weeks. We had the perfect day-- from getting ready in the cabin and bridal suites, to seeing Karen and Jen and the nicest vendors setting up our wedding, to the ceremony and reception itself-- we had so much fun and we will be forever grateful! I would recommend Lavender Oaks to anyone looking for an idyllic wedding venue!
L
Lisa Sent on 08/19/2021
5 out of 5 rating

August 2021 Wedding at Lavender Oaks Farm

Karen at Lavender Oaks Farm did a fantastic job for our daughter's wedding! Such a beautiful venue and Karen goes above and beyond for her couples. We received so many compliments on the beautiful venue!
B
Burcu Sent on 08/09/2020
5 out of 5 rating

Mr. & Mrs. Lavender are gems!

Working with Karen at Lavender Oaks Farm was one of the best decisions we made in our wedding planning process. That was so incredibly clear that we kept saying it to each other in the months leading up to the wedding. She and her husband are incredibly hard-working, thoughtful, and just great people to work with. The first day we toured the farm Karen pronounced my wife’s Turkish name correctly. She had taken the time in advance of meeting us to ask a Turkish friend how to pronounce it in order to get it right. This is something that no other wedding vendor we worked with did.

From there onwards, Karen made us feel so well taken care of. She replied to emails promptly, patiently walked us through the various steps of wedding planning (many of which were news to us!) and went out of her way to help us execute our vision for our wedding weekend.

In addition to Karen and her husband, the venue itself is a joy and a beauty. We had our ceremony outside facing the fireplace mantel and the lovely tall trees behind it. The lavender fields are gorgeous, the barn is warm and inviting and scented with lavender, and the outdoor shelter makes for an extra special place for a cocktail hour after the ceremony. Unlike at other venues, we had access to the entire venue for the entirety of the weekend. We were able to drop things off during the week before the wedding, set up decor and have the rehearsal there on Friday, and pick things up on Sunday rather than trying to do it all the day of the wedding. This flexibility was so worthwhile and allowed us to actually enjoy the weekend.

We can’t recommend Lavender Oaks enough as a wedding venue. Unfortunately, a family emergency prevented Karen from being there in person the day of our wedding. While we were so sad at the time because Karen was such a big part of why we chose the venue, she more than made up for it by hiring us (free of charge) a very talented day-of-coordinator, Jessica, who had experience working at Lavender Oaks. She also worked with our other vendors to ensure they took care of us extra well on our big day. Plus her husband, Mr. Lavender, was there to keep everything running smoothly on the farm the day of. We can’t imagine having gotten married anywhere else other than Lavender Oaks!
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Haley Sent on 06/22/2020
5 out of 5 rating

Love in the time of quarantine

Words cannot express how wonderful Karen and her team is at Lavender Oaks Farm. From the second we set foot on her beautiful property, we felt welcomed, taken care of and listened to. Karen is warm, thoughtful, beyond talented and walks you and your partner through the ENTIRE wedding process in a non stressful way. The venue has endless options for ceremony and reception options. Karen offers her talents in graphic design and planning, she meets with you at regular intervals to make sure planning, budgets and decisions are on track. Not to mention she feeds you delicious snacks, and will never let you leave empty handed (lots of lavender goodies from the gift shop!) On top of how amazing she is under regular circumstances, when our wedding date was compromised due to COVID, she reached out to us multiple times to help us make tough decisions. She supported us unconditionally and helped us have a small ceremony and dinner at the venue on our original date AND reschedule our planned wedding celebration for the following year for no extra cost. She even put together a small bouquet/boutonnière, table decorations, and had her daughter bake us the best chocolate cake I have ever had for our dessert. Talk about going above and beyond for her clients. We were speechless, and so grateful. My husband and I feel like part of her family and we cannot WAIT to celebrate next year. This venue and Karen are well worth the price! I would recommend Lavender Oaks Farm to anyone and everyone considering!!
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Lavender Oaks Farm frequently asked questions

Lavender Oaks Farm includes the following items and services for wedding events in its starting site fee:
  • Bridal Suite
  • Chairs
  • Event Planning
  • Linens
  • Parking
  • Set Up
  • Tables
The space offered by Lavender Oaks Farm for wedding events is known for:
  • Barn
  • Farm/Ranch
  • Garden
  • Historic Building
  • Park
Lavender Oaks Farm offers the following indoor/outdoor options for weddings:
  • Indoor
  • Covered Outdoor
  • Uncovered Outdoor
Lavender Oaks Farm offers the following types of wedding events:
  • Ceremony
  • Reception
  • Bridal Shower
  • Engagement Party
  • Elopements
  • Rehearsal Dinner
Lavender Oaks Farm offers the following services for wedding events:
  • Accommodations
  • Clean Up
  • Event Planner
  • Event Rentals
  • Get Ready Rooms
  • Liability Insurance
  • Outside Vendors
  • Pet Friendly
  • Wifi
Lavender Oaks Farm offers the following furniture and decor items for weddings:
  • Aisle Markers
  • Altar/Arch
  • Centerpieces
  • Chairs
  • Decor
  • Furniture
  • Lighting
  • Tables
Lavender Oaks Farm is recommended by 100% of couples who have used their services. Their overall rating is 5.0, with the same score awarded for quality of service, flexibility, value, professionalism and average response time.
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