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Bourne Mansion is a historic wedding venue in Oakdale, New York. This spectacular Vanderbilt mansion is a turn-of-the-century work of art, situated amidst 205 acres of picturesque grounds. The mansion is part of Lessing’s Hospitality Group. They're carrying on a proud tradition of excellence, and they invite you and your guests to enjoy impeccable service and a celebration you'll never forget.

Facilities and Capacity

Bourne Mansion can accommodate up to 1,000 guests. You can exchange your vows on the great lawn overlooking the Great South Bay. Your guests can then sip delicious cocktails on the lovely courtyard patio while you and your spouse pose for those all-important wedding portraits. You and your guests can then make your way to the Grand Ballroom for your reception. This elegant space boasts 40-foot vaulted ceilings, a decorative glass dome, crystal lighting sconces, and gilded plasterwork.

Services Offered

Bourne Mansion hosts no more than one wedding per day, so you can book with confidence, knowing that you and your party will receive all the time and attention that your special day deserves. The mansion's wedding coordinator will work with you one-on-one to ensure that everything is just the way you want it. Whatever your needs, you can count on them to be there for you every step of the way. A maître d', an attendant, and an event captain will also be on hand on the day of your celebration to make sure that your celebration runs smoothly from start to finish. Tables, chairs, and linens are included in their rental fee, along with china, glassware, and flatware. Bourne Mansion's talented in-house culinary team offers an array of mouthwatering menu items to choose from, and they’re happy to accommodate any special dietary requirements you may have.

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Frequently asked questions

Do you have a site fee for wedding receptions at your venue?

Yes

Do you have a site fee for wedding ceremonies at your venue?

Yes

Which of the following are included in starting site fee?

Bridal Suite
Chairs
China
Clean Up
Flatware
Glassware
Linens
Parking
Set Up
Tables

Which of the following are included in the cost of wedding catering?

Cake Cutting
Dessert
Server(s)

Which of the following are included in the starting price for bar service?

Bartender(s)

How many event spaces or rooms does your venue offer?

1

Describe your venue:

Banquet Hall
Historic Building
Mansion

What kind of settings are available?

Indoor
Covered Outdoor
Uncovered Outdoor

Which of the following wedding events does your venue service?

Ceremony
Reception

What event services do you offer?

Event Rentals

What catering services do you offer?

Buffet
Cocktail Reception
Dessert
Outside Cake
Plated
Server(s)
Stations

What bar services do you provide?

Bartender(s)
Champagne Toast
House Beer
House Liquor
House Wine
Liquor License
Open Bar
Premium Liquor
Signature Drink
Specialty Wine

What event items are available?

Chairs

What food and beverage items are available?

Linens

What transportation and access is available?

Parking
Valet
Wheelchair Access

What months are included in your peak season?

March
April
May
June
July
August
September
October

What months are included in your off-peak season?

January
February
November
December
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Reviews of Bourne Mansion

4.9 out of 5 rating
WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2024 Winner
4.9 out of 5 rating
96 Reviews
97% recommend it
  • Quality of service
    4.9 out of 5 rating
  • Average response time
    4.8 out of 5 rating
  • Professionalism
    4.9 out of 5 rating
  • Value
    4.9 out of 5 rating
  • Flexibility
    4.8 out of 5 rating
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Bourne Mansion is highly recommended by multiple reviewers for weddings. The venue is praised for its stunning rooms and beautiful outdoor grounds. The staff, including Miriam and Steve, receive high praise for their helpfulness and professionalism. The food is described as delicious, and the service is commended for running smoothly. Overall, reviewers had an amazing experience at Bourne Mansion and highly recommend it for a dream wedding.

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This AI-generated summary gives you a snapshot of the overall ratings and feedback from the reviews this vendor has received.

Bourne Mansion is highly recommended by multiple reviewers for weddings. The venue is praised for its stunning rooms and beautiful outdoor grounds. The staff, including Miriam and Steve, receive high praise for their helpfulness and professionalism. The food is described as delicious, and the service is commended for running smoothly. Overall, reviewers had an amazing experience at Bourne Mansion and highly recommend it for a dream wedding.

Weddingwire
4.9/5 96 reviews
Google
4.5/5 366 reviews
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Arianna Sent on 12/06/2023
5 out of 5 rating

My fairy tail come true

Better than I could have ever dreamed of! Miriam is absolutely amazing and walked me through each process with recommendations and answered my questions any time of day. Steve is beyond words! He was our maître d’ and I was absolutely blown away. We felt like royalty on our wedding day. Anything we needed, our entire timeline, helping with my dress, legitimately anything that could have been a worry was taken care of by Steve or Sam our bridal attendant. We are forever grateful for the entire staff at the Bourne Mansion not only for making our night the best wedding I could have ever imagined but for being able to work with such incredible people that I will never forget in my lifetime. Book your wedding here!
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Matt A. Sent on 05/13/2024
5 out of 5 rating

Spring Wedding

We had the perfect wedding day at the Bourne Mansion. Miriam and Steve were so communicative, friendly and caring to my husband and I throughout the planning process and on our wedding day. They made sure we would have the best experience possible.
Our bridal attendant Nicolette was with us the entire night to ensure we had everything we needed or wanted the day of.
The food and service was excellent on the day of. Our guests told us they had a great time and it was the best wedding they had been to. The Bourne Mansion is a beautiful space and if we could, we would not change a single thing about our day. Thank you to everyone at the Bourne Mansion for making our day so special. - Matt & Gina
Veronica
Veronica P. Sent on 04/20/2024
5 out of 5 rating

Amazing venue

My husband and I got married at Bourne Mansion on 4/13/24 with about 210 guests. I truly cannot say enough on how amazing this venue is—from the first time I emailed Miriam in early 2023 to our wedding day, everything was perfect. Miriam was a dream to work with and she helped us with planning every step of the way and was on top of our wedding timeline perfectly. She responds so quickly too! Steve was our maitre d on the day of our wedding and all I can say is WOW. He managed to keep the night moving perfectly on time despite us having a wedding party of 20+ people. He listened to what we had wanted to do in terms of our entertainment vendors and he made it happen. He took care of my husband and I throughout the entire night as well—I’m pregnant and he would literally find me on the dance floor and hand me a glass of water to drink. Nicolette was my bridal attendant and she was incredible as well!! Our guests were so blown away by the venue, the cocktail hour, the ball room—absolutely everything! It was the most perfect night and much of it was thanks to Bourne and its staff!
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Awards

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WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2024 Winner
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WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards 2022 Winner
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Bourne Mansion frequently asked questions

Bourne Mansion includes the following items and services for wedding events in its starting site fee:
  • Bridal Suite
  • Chairs
  • China
  • Clean Up
  • Flatware
  • Glassware
  • Linens
  • Parking
  • Set Up
  • Tables
Bourne Mansion includes the following items and services in its wedding catering costs:
  • Cake Cutting
  • Dessert
  • Server(s)
The bar service starting price at Bourne Mansion includes:
  • Bartender(s)
The space offered by Bourne Mansion for wedding events is known for:
  • Banquet Hall
  • Historic Building
  • Mansion
Bourne Mansion offers the following indoor/outdoor options for weddings:
  • Indoor
  • Covered Outdoor
  • Uncovered Outdoor
Bourne Mansion offers the following types of wedding events:
  • Ceremony
  • Reception
Bourne Mansion offers the following services for wedding events:
  • Event Rentals
Bourne Mansion offers the following furniture and decor items for weddings:
  • Chairs
Bourne Mansion is recommended by 97% of couples who have used their services. Their overall rating is 4.9 out of 5 with the following breakdown: 4.9 in quality of service, 4.9 in professionalism, 4.9 in value, 4.8 in average response time and 4.8 in flexibility.

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