Bourne Mansion is a historic wedding venue located on Long Island in Oakdale, New York. This Vanderbilt mansion is a turn-of-the-century work of art that offers couples and their guests gorgeous views of the 205-acre property. You can exchange your vows on their breathtaking lawn, then dance the night away in their Grand Ballroom. Bourne Mansion, a Lessing’s Hospitality Group venue, prides themselves on their manicured gardens, amazing cuisine, and impeccable service.
Facilities and Capacity
Couples can accommodate up to 1,000 guests at this luxurious, private estate. You can say your “I do’s” on their great lawn which overlooks the Great South Bay. As you and your partner take unforgettable pictures around their spacious property, your guests can sip delicious cocktails in their beautiful courtyard patio, featuring stately columns. For your reception, you and your loved ones can celebrate in their Grand Ballroom. This elegant space boasts 40-foot vaulted ceilings, a decorative glass dome, crystal lighting sconces, and gilded plasterwork. You can impress your guests with the knowledge that Vanderbilt’s daughter, Consuelo, married the Duke of Marlborough here in 1895.
This full-service venue is only 90 minutes from New York City but feels worlds away. They only host one wedding per day, in order to give you the time and attention you deserve. Each couple will have a mansion coordinator, who will work with you one-on-one from beginning to end to ensure your wedding is everything you dreamed it to be. On the day of your celebration, you’ll also have a personal maitre d’, an attendant, and an event captain to make sure your event flows smoothly from start to finish. Tables, chairs, and linens are included in their rental fee, along with china, glassware, and flatware. There are rooms for you and your wedding party to get ready in, as well as plenty of parking for your guests. Additional services include:
Couples may select from multiple wedding packages, based on their individual tastes, preferences, and budget. Bourne Mansion's talented, in-house culinary team offers elegant buffets, scrumptious stations, mouth-watering plated menus, delicious desserts, and fun late-night snacks. They’re also happy to accommodate any dietary requests you may have, such as creating a kosher meal for you and your guests. Sample stations include:
Recommended by 95% of couples
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Michelle · Married on 03/23/2019
Perfect March wedding!
My husband and I got married at Bourne Mansion on 3/23/19 and I cannot put into words how perfect it was, but I will try. We visited a ton of venues, but knew from the beginning that Bourne was "the one."Sent on 04/07/2019
Venue - obviously beautiful, but we liked that it also has character and uniqueness - definitely not "cookie cutter." The backdrop is gorgeous and while we got married indoors (which worked out well), we made sure to take lots of pictures both indoors and outdoors. The ballroom is one of a kind and was plenty spacious for our ~200 guests.
Food - delicious. They have a wide range of options for cocktail hour and we got a lot of compliments from our guests about the food (especially the filet mignon), some even saying it's the best food they've ever had at a wedding! I highly recommend adding on some sort of late night "snack." We had hot pretzels on the way out and they were a hit!
Staff - spectacular. From the very beginning, Miriam was incredibly helpful and genuine. She guided me throughout the process and was very responsive to my many questions. I honestly couldn't have planned our wedding without her. When we met Steve (our maitre d), we knew we were in great hands. He helped set the run of show, kept everything running smoothly throughout the day and made sure we (and our parents) were taken care of the entire evening. My bridal attendant Catherine was excellent. She made sure I had everything I needed and helped with my dress, flowers, cake, etc.
All in all, magical! We will never forget our perfect wedding day thanks to Bourne!
Christina · Married on 06/08/2019
The perfect venue
My now husband and I weren’t sure what we wanted when we started thinking about where we should get married. But after our first meeting with Miriam and touring the Bourne Mansion, we knew we found the place to say our “I do’s”. Miriam over the course of our wedding planning was so, so helpful. She answered all my silly questions, constantly provided me ideas, and was just as invested into every detail as we were. On the week of the wedding, we met with Steven (our maître d’) and boy were we blown away. It was evident that he knew exactly was he was doing, and we knew we were in good hands when it came to our wedding day. No minute went unaccounted for, and it was clear that the day would run smoothly. And sure enough, it did. From start to finish, Steven was by our side - organizing our bridal party/family/guests, grabbing drinks for us through the night, to overseeing all the staff and every other detail imaginable. I also had my bridal attendant, Desiree, who kept me calm and was the perfect helping hand. She was always there to make sure everything went smoothly. We truly felt spoiled. As a whole, the Bourne Mansion was a perfect venue for a dream wedding. I would highly recommend them to anyone. Thank you again for everything!!Sent on 06/11/2019
Jeanine · Married on 04/06/2019
I’ll Always Smile When I Think of The Bourne
Review for Lessing’s Bourne Mansion:Sent on 05/12/2019
We got married on 4/6/19. I loved the Bourne and I’m very happy I was a Bourne bride. Miriam Aronson and Steve Melita were fabulous and a huge help throughout the process. Katherine is a great bridal attendant as well. Their professionalism, care and attention to detail was nothing short of fabulous. I thank them all and will forever be grateful.
The space is so grand and makes you feel like you’re in a gatsby mansion for sure.
The staff are very organized, and they help you to make sure you have thought about all of the little details as well.
The day of the wedding went very smooth, and I was very happy with that.
I would absolutely get married there all over again, if I had it all to do again. I just wish the reception lasted about 8 more hours. like everyone says, it goes too fast. Some of my fondest memories will be watching all of my loved ones dancing the night away in that grand ballroom. Oh, that ballroom.
The food was excellent and everyone said so. Get the short ribs!
We had them make egg sandwiches for everyone on the way out and everyone raves about them. I was told a number of times it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to and that tickled me for sure 😊