Bourne Mansion

500 Montauk Highway, Oakdale, NY 11769 Map · Phone number · Visit website
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About Bourne Mansion

Bourne Mansion is a historic wedding venue located on Long Island in Oakdale, New York. This Vanderbilt mansion is a turn-of-the-century work of art that offers couples and their guests gorgeous views of the 205-acre property. You can exchange your vows on their breathtaking lawn, then dance the night away in their Grand Ballroom. Bourne Mansion, a Lessing’s Hospitality Group venue, prides themselves on their manicured gardens, amazing cuisine, and impeccable service.

Facilities and Capacity

Couples can accommodate up to 1,000 guests at this luxurious, private estate. You can say your “I do’s” on their great lawn which overlooks the Great South Bay. As you and your partner take unforgettable pictures around their spacious property, your guests can sip delicious cocktails in their beautiful courtyard patio, featuring stately columns. For your reception, you and your loved ones can celebrate in their Grand Ballroom. This elegant space boasts 40-foot vaulted ceilings, a decorative glass dome, crystal lighting sconces, and gilded plasterwork. You can impress your guests with the knowledge that Vanderbilt’s daughter, Consuelo, married the Duke of Marlborough here in 1895.

Services Offered

This full-service venue is only 90 minutes from New York City but feels worlds away. They only host one wedding per day, in order to give you the time and attention you deserve. Each couple will have a mansion coordinator, who will work with you one-on-one from beginning to end to ensure your wedding is everything you dreamed it to be. On the day of your celebration, you’ll also have a personal maitre d’, an attendant, and an event captain to make sure your event flows smoothly from start to finish. Tables, chairs, and linens are included in their rental fee, along with china, glassware, and flatware. There are rooms for you and your wedding party to get ready in, as well as plenty of parking for your guests. Additional services include:

  • Cleanup
  • Event rentals
  • Lighting and sound
  • Preferred vendor list
  • Setup
  • Valet
  • Wedding cake

Cuisine

Couples may select from multiple wedding packages, based on their individual tastes, preferences, and budget. Bourne Mansion's talented, in-house culinary team offers elegant buffets, scrumptious stations, mouth-watering plated menus, delicious desserts, and fun late-night snacks. They’re also happy to accommodate any dietary requests you may have, such as creating a kosher meal for you and your guests. Sample stations include:

  • Asian station
  • Gourmet mac and cheese station
  • Mediterranean station
  • Smoke and spice BBQ station
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65 Reviews for Bourne Mansion

Recommended by 96% of couples


4.8 out of 5.0
  • Quality of service 4.8
  • Professionalism 4.8
  • Flexibility 4.7
  • Value 4.8
  • Average response time 4.8

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    Priyangi J. · Married on 05/15/2021

    5.0
    • Quality of service:
      5.0
    • Responsiveness:
      5.0
    • Value:
      5.0
    • Flexibility:
      5.0
    • Professionalism:
      5.0

    Perfect day thanks to an incredible event and staff

    I got married at the Bourne Mansion on May 15, 2021 and it was perfect! I was a Covid bride who had to unfortunately reschedule the big day from 2020. As soon as we went to Bourne for a site visit, I completely fell in love with the vintage glam environment and envisioned myself as a bride there! In the beginning, my only concern was whether the food would be amazing or not because they do not do any tastings beforehand – word to the wise, THE FOOD WAS AMAZING. Our guests are still raving about how professional the team was and how incredible our cocktail hour, dinner, and Viennese dessert room (do it, it is completely worth it) was! Working with Miriam was one of my favorite parts about this venue. She was so helpful and a complete pleasure to work with and bounce ideas off of even when we had to postpone our wedding due to Covid. She has such a warm personality and had the best suggestions for our best day. Then our maitre’d for the big day was Steve who was equally amazing! Let me tell you what surprised me the most about the Bourne staff leading up to and especially on the day of my wedding, they all actually cared about making it the most seamless and perfect day for me. You would think that they would be over it since it is weddings all the time, but that is not the case. Steve was so excited for us and took our day so seriously to make us feel extra special even with the covid rules that was still in effect at the time. Even as there was a minor flaw in the evening (no one else noticed aside from the two of us) by the DJ, Steve was already on it. Also, we had a few cultural elements in our ceremony that the venue happily accommodated. The support that we received from the entire staff and the seamless execution of our big day was unmatched. I highly recommend Bourne Mansion for your big day!

    Sent on 07/02/2021
  • Richard

    Richard · Married on 03/14/2020

    5.0
    • Quality of service:
      5.0
    • Responsiveness:
      5.0
    • Value:
      5.0
    • Flexibility:
      5.0
    • Professionalism:
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    A partner, not a vendor!

    When I first toured the Bourne Mansion I knew immediately that this was where I wanted to tie the knot. The venue was absolutely stunning and although we had additional venues on to tour, I knew we had our location. What we did not realize was how amazing Miriam, the Director at the mansion, would be. For the whole year Miriam was there every step of the way working with us and helping us plan to make every aspect of our night perfect. We were due to be married in early March and had to make the painful decision to cancel the wedding the week of(!) due to the pandemic... The weeks leading up to that decision were some of the most stressful and difficult I have had to deal with but Miriam was with us every step of the way. She let us know she supported any decision we made while also being as accommodative and flexible as a business could be to help us pull if off. As I said, we ultimately decided to cancel indefinitely as we had guests flying in from all over the country as well as a number of family who were especially vulnerable. Miriam worked with us through this whole process and was completely understanding. Right now we're still trying to determine when we can re-plan our wedding amongst all of the uncertainty but one thing is sure, The Bourne Mansion is our pick. I can't review the wedding night or any services we would have received but I can tell you that the venue and the grounds are absolutely beautiful and our experience working with Miriam was the next best thing. Planning a wedding is difficult enough, having a venue with someone who will help you with the tough decisions every step of the way is a huge benefit. Thank you Miriam!

    -Yumi

    Sent on 06/21/2020

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Bourne Mansion FAQ

  • Do you have a site fee for wedding receptions at your venue?
    Yes
  • Do you have a site fee for wedding ceremonies at your venue?
    Yes
  • Which of the following are included in starting site fee?
    Bridal Suite
    Chairs
    China
    Clean Up
    Flatware
    Glassware
    Linens
    Parking
    Set Up
    Tables
  • Which of the following are included in the cost of wedding catering?
    Cake Cutting
    Dessert
    Server(s)
  • Which of the following are included in the starting price for bar service?
    Bartender(s)
  • How many event spaces or rooms does your venue offer?
    1
  • Describe your venue:
    Banquet Hall
    Historic Building
    Mansion
  • What kind of settings are available?
    Indoor
    Covered Outdoor
    Uncovered Outdoor
  • Which of the following wedding events does your venue service?
    Ceremony
    Reception
  • What event services do you offer?
    Event Rentals
    Lighting / Sound
  • What catering services do you offer?
    Buffet
    Cocktail Reception
    Dessert
    Outside Cake
    Plated
    Server(s)
    Stations
  • What bar services do you provide?
    Bartender(s)
    Champagne Toast
    House Beer
    House Liquor
    House Wine
    Liquor License
    Open Bar
    Premium Liquor
    Signature Drink
    Specialty Wine
  • What event items are available?
    Chairs
  • What food and beverage items are available?
    Linens
  • What transportation and access is available?
    Parking
    Valet
    Wheelchair Access
  • What months are included in your peak season?
    March
    April
    May
    June
    July
    August
    September
    October
  • What months are included in your off-peak season?
    January
    February
    November
    December

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Bourne Mansion frequently asked questions

What items and services are included in the starting site fee at Bourne Mansion?

Bourne Mansion includes the following items and services for wedding events in its starting site fee:

  • Bridal Suite
  • Chairs
  • China
  • Clean Up
  • Flatware
  • Glassware
  • Linens
  • Parking
  • Set Up
  • Tables

At Bourne Mansion, what items and services related to wedding catering are included in the cost?

Bourne Mansion includes the following items and services in its wedding catering costs:

  • Cake Cutting
  • Dessert
  • Server(s)

At Bourne Mansion, what does the bar service starting price include?

The bar service starting price at Bourne Mansion includes:

  • Bartender(s)

What are the most important characteristics of Bourne Mansion in terms of venue type, style and location?

The space offered by Bourne Mansion for wedding events is known for:

  • Banquet Hall
  • Historic Building
  • Mansion

What kind of indoor/outdoor options are available at Bourne Mansion for wedding events?

Bourne Mansion offers the following indoor/outdoor options for weddings:

  • Indoor
  • Covered Outdoor
  • Uncovered Outdoor

What kind of wedding events does Bourne Mansion offer?

Bourne Mansion offers the following types of wedding events:

  • Ceremony
  • Reception

What services does Bourne Mansion offer for wedding events?

Bourne Mansion offers the following services for wedding events:

  • Event Rentals
  • Lighting / Sound

What furniture and decorations does Bourne Mansion have available for wedding events?

Bourne Mansion offers the following furniture and decor items for weddings:

  • Chairs

What percentage of users recommend Bourne Mansion and which are the most valued aspects of their wedding services?

Bourne Mansion is recommended by 95% of couples who have used their services. Their overall rating is 4.8 out of 5 with the following breakdown: 4.8 in quality of service, 4.8 in average response time, 4.8 in professionalism, 4.8 in value and 4.7 in flexibility.