Piggyback wedding celebration

I think it is rude. Really out of all the weekends of the year they're going to do it that weekend.

ETA: for some reason I thought it was your FBIL. Now that I see its a cousin its not as bad depending on the overlap of family.

Will people have to skip yours to go to theirs? If so then yes, rude. If not, I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe a little tacky, but also could be very convenient for your guests if they were going to both to have them the same weekend.

How much family would overlap between those coming to your wedding and those going to their party?

Is that cousin and family members aware of your wedding?

If there is a large overlap and they were all well aware of your wedding then that is rude of them to make family choose.

If there is a small overlap and they were only told maybe once about your wedding then it will be up to those attending to decide which event since that's fair game.

I think it is very rude, unless this said cousin was not invited to your wedding. Then I kind of wouldn't blame them. :/

I would be pissed. I mean super pissed. While I understand that that you get one day, that's a huge inconvenience for everyone involved and just rude.

Count me in the I'd be rather irritated that they had to wait until then as well. There are five months between now and then to do the celebration. FIVE. pick another damn weekend.

So are they using your destination wedding as their celebration? I'm a little confused.

Yea I guess I shoulda been more specific! We are getting married in south Florida and all our family is flying in. She is invited and so is her now husband. She knows about the wedding and I guess her and her mom just decided because family is in town to do a celebration then. I haven't been giving on details if it's before or after! FH and I said we won't be going bc we will obviously be busy either with planning or honeymoon. I am just annoyed we plan for a year and pay for a wedding and she gets the benefit! I've also never even met her!

That would be super frustrating (although I kinda see her point if most the family is out of town) But she seriously couldn't do it the weekend before/after so that it wasn't on the same weekend??

I get that it's convenient but I feel so rude! My FMIL also invited a bunch of family I've never met saying "they'll never come" but she feels she has to invite them. Now I feel they will surely come since they have 2 wedding celebrations the same weekend same location on the same side of the family. And if I were to say this bothers me of course I'd look like a bridezilla haha

I understand how you feel, but as long as they are not overshadowing your wedding and the get together is after your wedding then it should be ok. It makes sense too if family is already together.

That is tacky But I guess long as they are doing it after your wedding like maybe a brunch the next day or something I guess its a little better (but not much).

Yes it's rude! I agree with you!

Super rude. tell them that if they do that then they are being assholes.

Ohhhh kay, I understand now. Yep, I'd be so frustrated! She chose to elope rather than have a wedding. She can pick a different weekend or not have a celebration at all, but picking your weekend is rude and insensitive!

I get why you're upset, and you have a right to be, but I think ultimately, this won't affect your wedding. They are being rude, but there isn't anything you can do about it . . . your wedding will be fabulous and hopefully they will have some taste and just do a low-key family brunch or lunch.

Totally get that you're upset, but is FH's family very spread out? Maybe they came up with this because it's financially difficult for them all to get together, so if they're all paying to go to your wedding, they'll already be together. Traveling for any wedding is expensive due to airfare, so I even offered to my FH's brother and his wife that if they wanted to have a church wedding the week they are in town for our wedding, and then have a small reception, we would support that because FH's family is all over the friggin' country and most are in the 50's or 60's, so it's hard for them to afford to do a lot of trips. That's not for everyone, i get it - but just wondering if there's more to it than just being tacky and thoughtless. Either way, she should've discussed it with you before she told anyone else.

Unless she has the celebration after your wedding, she is cutting into the time you have planned to do things.

If she tries to do anything before your wedding, just explain you already have something planned for your guests at that time.

I think it's so rude! She should've had the decency to at least ask you if you'd have a problem with it!

That's rude as hell and I would def let someone hear about it! They are ripping off all your hard work to get the family together for YOUR wedding? I would tell them to pick another weekend. They chose to elope, so they don't get to piggyback off yours!