Honorary Bridesmaid
So I'm not exactly sure what an honorary bridesmaid is, but I think I get the idea. If someone can explain that and give advice, that would be great:

My roommate was originally going to be my fourth bridesmaid, but she has a bit of a track record for backing out of things last minute. Mostly small stuff, but I don't want to stress out about it. Also, she and I have been fighting a little bit lately. Before I got engaged, I told her she would be in it, but nothing official, I guess. I was wondering what exactly an honorary bridesmaid is, what she does, etc - and I was thinking of maybe moving her to that and asking a different friend to fill her place. I do want her to be in the wedding, and every friendship has bumps, but I don't want to make rash decisions. I'm getting married in October (Halloween!!), and need to decide soon - but if things don't get better between us before I need to decide, I'm not sure what to do.

Married: 10/24/2009
Posted On: Feb 23, 2009 at 5:26 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Stella & Dot
Feb 24, 2009 at 12:27 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
The principal bridesmaid is the maid of honor if she is unmarried, or the matron of honor if she is married. Then you have junior bridesmaid is a girl who is clearly too young to be marriageable, but who is included as an honorary bridesmaid.

So you can just give a bridesmaid status period and put her at the end of the line or not.

I had my best friend as my maid of honor and my cousin that I am very close to and she is married as my matron of honor. I have my husband's sister as my bridesmaid (he has 3 sisters, I just pick one I am closed to and I get along with well) and 10 year old god sister as my honorary bridesmaid.

Married: 2+ years ago
Feb 24, 2009 at 10:51 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My honorary bridesmaid will be my younger sister. She will be in her third trimester for which she won't be able to fly for the wedding and I'll be announcing it on our wedding website and our wedding programs. So, in other words, I see the honorary bridesmaid as someone who just couldn't make it because of circumstances, not because I simply don't want her to be a bridesmaid. You can ask for friend to be an usher or do a reading so that she doesn't feel left out, if that's what you're worrying about.

Married: 2+ years ago
Feb 24, 2009 at 11:23 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm asking all of my female cousins to be my Honarary Bridesmaids, simply b/c I don't want a large Bridal Party (6 is good enough for me, My Maid and Matron of Honor being Mom and Sister) and having only 2 friends and both SIL's by my side and I have too many cousins to leave anyone out. I'm going to let them wear one of our colors in our scheme and save the row behind the Parents, Grandparents, BIL and twin nephews for them. I'm also going to give them a single rose since I'm not using bouquets.
Feb 24, 2009 at 12:13 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Honorary Bridesmaid is someone that cannot ACTUALLY be a bridemaide for a legitimate reason.. ie expecting, just delivered the baby, out of town etc... If she is available then either she should be included or not... Sorry.. no easy answer for this one.. (:

Married: 09/25/2010
Feb 20, 2010 at 7:10 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
***** BUMP ****** from a forever-ago thread....

ok, i thought i made up the term honorary bm.. LOL Guess not!!! ok, so this is not exactly what i was tlooking for, maybe saying "Honorary" before BM isn't what i wanted.. what else could i say? this girl has been my best friend and has helped me with wedding stuff.. but in essence, she may not be able to afford/have time to be an actual BM but i want to ask her and see if she wants to take it on.. it'd be up to her.. Can anyone offer advice on this?? pleaseeeeee?

Married: 10/10/2010
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Aug 10, 2010 at 3:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I am getting married in Mexico in October. Two of my closest girls are going with me and some can't make the trip. I have two question:
1. For the girls that are going, I don't want them to stand up front because they are 1/4 of the audience. Is it rude to have them travel all that way and not stand up there? Should they still plan to match and not stand at the front?
2. For the girls that aren't going - I still want to honor them as if the wedding was at home. Should I send them "Honorary Bridesmaid" cards? Is there another way to let them know that I want them to be apart of this day?
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