Guests inviting themselves?

Wedding crashers..haha.

A guy I work with (who I had no intention of inviting) has asked me THREE times if he is invited. And he isnt the first one to say that. I think its so rude! So I rudely reply "Sure, if you wanna buy me a gift, I'll feed you"

Oh yes, about once a month I visit my mom 3 hours away for the weekend. Whenever I go to church, everyone comes up and congratulates me on the engagement and says, "can't wait for my invite!" I don't know about you, but I don't think they think it's just a public affair, and let me walk in like it's a local high school musical and I'm bored for the night, but they just assume they'd be invited. I know for these women they've been a part of my family's life since my mother was born and probably just assume. It's extremely flattering but gets super awkward. Fortunately for me, our wedding will be a hike for everyone who is coming so only our die hard fans will be attending.

Haha Julie... I haven't had someone at my place of work ask me--- I've only been here a few months so I kindly explained I would only be inviting my bosses. They all seemed completely understanding (they are nice normal people).

My FH on the other hand had a guy ask him THIS WEEK (our wedding is Sat) if we had room for him (and a date!). Really?? How embarassing.

I also had one of my friends moms invite herself many months ago... she assumed she was invited when I didn't really want her there because she's extreamly judgemental and it's not like we are close and her daughter is not in the wedding...

It happens more often then you would believe or planner told us to add 5 additional places for guest who did not return their RSVP, who RSVP'd no and who were not even invited.

I've been to a wedding where someone too it upon themselves to invite an extra guest (without notifying the bride & groom) and it was VERY awkward. A guy brought 2 girls as his guests. The two girls had their own chair and the guy - literally - kneeled on the floor throughout the dinner. When the bride and groom came to greet our table it was very clear that the bride was irritated with him (which made things even more awkward at the table). I just don't understand people who do this.

@southerngirl: My mom is the same way! She's been talking up our wedding to her friends and acting like they're invited. I don't even know these people! My dad also wanted to see our invite list to "make sure I got everyone" Well, if I thought about them, then they're invited. If I haven't thought to put their name on the list, then obviously they weren't the first people to cross my mind to invite to MY day! I feel awkward though confronting them about it since my family is very traditional in bridal affairs and will foot the bill for just about everything.

@kimi: How thinks to bring two guests?!

That has happen to me since I changed my status on FB. I have people that I haven't seen since Middle School sending me messages.One girl was even bold to say " I can't wait til your wedding and I will be bring my BF. But if he has to work I will bring somebody else. " WTF ! I'm like gurl please I haven't seen you in over 15 years.I only chit chat with you on FB . Now FH understands why I din't want to change my status, but he insisted.

We have been getting that a lot. I keep hoping everyone will get it out of their system in the next few months and then quit asking lol

I doubt I will get that lucky though. I just kinda laugh when they say something about coming and say something about us barely being able to afford for our families to come. Not totally true but I think it gets the point across.

Lol I had the first person do this to me this weekend! a girl I used to work with... not really friends anymore (more like aquintances) was like hey! wheres my invite! lol I was like oh they are not out yet... but inside i was like AHHH! EFF YOU! lol i already have 300 guests invited and now u!

So apparently it's a problem for most brides...... I wish people weren't so rude or so full of themselves that they assume they are invited!!!

We are having a buffet (the norm in my area) so it's not a big deal if we get a few extra people- and we were counting some that aren't able to make it now, and a few maybes. It's just a matter of being rude....

God bless you gals who have to have a hard head count for a seated dinner.

Oh yes it's very commom, I've dealt with it a number of times. I actually had one guy from church who I talk to once in a blue moon, he called me on my cell, when I answered, no Hello no how you doing, how you been, he went straight to the point, "I thought you were gonna call with my invite", I was like "excuse me?" he quickly changed the subject.

I even had an incident with my MOH, she added her sister as a BM (hah), invited her grandmother and her aunt that I've only met once because she was around when I came to see MOH once. Are you kidding me?

A lot of people are dropping hints here and there, I just ignore them now. Oh one of my coworkers that I do not plan on inviting came to me and promise to behave at my wedding, lol...that was something

Wow, I thought I had problems...... at least I didn't have BMs & singers inviting themselves to those duties!!! HAHA

I have heard it happen and have seen it. But I'll have someone at the door. If your'e not on the list then you are dismissed. If you were invited and didn't RSVP then you S.O.L.

I have people ask me all the time on FB or at work or whereever, "hey are you inviting me and so and so to the wedding" or "Have you considered invited people from work" I was like thinking to myself ummmmmm if you get an invitation then you are invited, if not it's probably because i haven't talked to you in years or we're not friends outside of work.

I just got defriended on Facebook the other day for this reason!

Rude Aquaintance: "Yo, am I invited to your wedding?"

me: "hahaha. How's so-and-so?"

Rude: "...for real...am I invited? I want to come party!"

me: "Uhm....."

Rude: "Seriously? Can I come?"

me: "Ok, seriously. That's incredibly rude to invite yourself to a wedding."

Rude: "But, can I come?"

me: "I didn't want to put you on blast like this but no, you cannot come. You are not invited."

Rude: *defriended me*

Moral of the story--People are insane.

Wow, what an a**hole!!!! You def named that person correctly!

Seriously! Some people have no shame. I don't even understand why anyone would want to go to a wedding where they don't know the bride, groom or any other guests.

My dad's boss wanted to be invited to my wedding and he wanted to bring two guests! I've never met or talked to my dad's boss. My dad hasn't even been working there for more than a few months.

The nerves of some people.

I am so happy to see that I'm not the only one dealing with this! I cannot believe how rude some people are! It is SO bizarre!

My wedding is going to be small. I am having about 10 guest of my own choosing at the most. Husband will probably have like 15 at the most. So, all together, we have about 45-50 including the guests' guests (1 per person). I doubt there will be even that many, but yknow, I could be right with the original numbers. Close friends and family mostly. A girl I am just now getting to know said she was coming. I didnt argue, but knowing me, I might end up uninviting her.