Friends that get engaged soon after you
I dont know if this is happening to anyone else but I thought it would be a good topic of conversation. Back in May when my fiance and I got engaged his cousin and my bridesmaide told me something interesting. She said to me "Ashley watch in a couple of months one of your girlfriends will be engaged and you will see jeliousy like you have never seen before." She went on to tell me stories of her friends and relitives that got engaged or hitched before the bride they were bridemaides for. Well my cousin dawn couldnt be more right. not only have I seen jeliousy but like she said one of my friends is now engaged she says she will be married in 2011 but we will see how it goes. Im not mad at all i love them both I just think its too funny not to share and see if anyone else had this happen to them.

Married: 10/10/2010
Posted On: Feb 3, 2010 at 12:06 AM • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Married: 05/22/2010
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Feb 03, 2010 at 12:11 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My brother proposed to his girlfriend a month after I got engaged and they're having their wedding in Hawaii 4 months after my wedding. I'm super happy for him but it definitely put a damper on my budget and it's stressing my parents out. To add to everything; a few months after my brother proposed to his Fiance; her sister got engaged and is getting married 4 months after them and they keep talking about how frustrating it is that she "did that" to them. I think it's all really funny and a little jealousy is healthy/normal.

Married: 03/27/2010
Reviews: 2
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:11 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
this is exactly how i feel..so funny you brought it up!

Married: 10/10/2010
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:14 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
wow thats too funny its like a cold that everyone catches lol

yadayada
Married: 10/30/2009
Reviews: 5
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:15 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hmm nobody got engaged after me. My brother was going to propose to his gf two weeks before my wedding and I nearly flipped. But I managed to contain my bridezilla and I didn't say anything to him since I knew I only get ONE day. I'm not gonna lie though, I was relieved when he decided to propose during the holidays instead.

mayo
Married: 2+ years ago
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:21 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
It happens.. I don't really like the people that get enaged and think everyone should make plans around their day. I have seen girls complain because their friend will be getting married a month before or after and it's such a bad thing.. blah..
It is funny if you can see the outcome that you have one day and it's ok in the long run and you're not one of those that are complaining due to it.
Like Ashley-You have a super great mind about, the other wedding saying "sure it's cutting our budget but we'll deal" That's awesome you can stand your ground like that..
I have not had this happen. Althrough, my best friend may be getting engaged very soon. And Knowing her all my life, I know she wants a winter wedding and I just have that feeling she will definitally put it together within a few months of getting engaged. So, I think she'll end up being my matron of honor instead of Maid of Honor... I am just bad to assume I'll be in her wedding.I know I shouldn't but I am. Shame on me!

Tori♥Nick
Married: 06/11/2011
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:36 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm the one that got engaged right after my best friend...She was apparently in on the whole thing though.I'm her MOH and she is mine...but we are getting married a little over a year apart.So right now I'm helping her with hers and after this July when she gets married she will start helping me with mine.Everything seems to always happen to us at the same time...

mayo
Married: 2+ years ago
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:41 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Same with me Tori.. We've been friends forever.. and my wedding is Oct. 15, 2011 and she is not yet engaged... But her BF has a ring for her. Just not sure when he's giving it. I just know know her very well and wouldn't surprised if she'd get married by the end of this year. And I know we'll still help each other.. I'm just afraid that I'm assuming that I'll be in her wedding as she is in mine...

Married: 02/27/2010
Reviews: 6
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:45 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My friends bf is about to pop the Q. I think it's wonderful! I'm so happy that now I'll be able to share it with somebody who ain't get tired of hearing it! Plus she deserves it!

Tori♥Nick
Married: 06/11/2011
Feb 03, 2010 at 12:50 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Jamie...exactly!It seems like she is the only one besides when I'm on here that I can talk to for hours without them getting tired and we are constantly bouncing ideas off each other!

Mayo-hopefully since you've known each other forever you will be in her wedding!I could see why you would be hurt if you weren't

Married: 10/10/2010
Feb 03, 2010 at 1:24 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I got engaged in October last year and then not even two months later, my friend asked her boyfriend to marry her. They are supposed to get married sometime this spring when her divorce is final.

Married: 07/30/2010
Reviews: 8
Feb 03, 2010 at 1:37 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Well I was engaged almost a year after my now moh (I was also her moh) and she was married a few months after my fh popped the question. The peopblem is after planning her wedding with her and her weddig was in may 2008 then trying to switch to wedding planning for myself, I'm kinda wedding out of it and I just wanna cancel everything and go to the jop. The only reason I don't is because I can't get out of 3 of my contracts. Ahh I'm just over it.

JJ
Married: 2+ years ago
Reviews: 6
Feb 03, 2010 at 1:45 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yes, my friend who was a bm got engaged after me. It was fine. I was all for it and hinted heavily to her now FH because I could tell there was a green eyed monster waiting to happen. She was kinda jealous because she thought she would be proposed to before me. So did I, but her FH was not ready and mine was ready before I was prepared for it! ;p Anyway, I was mad because she told me basically that I could not pregnant and take the attention away from her---so I could not be her bm, if I intended to get pregnant. OMG! What a gal. This coming from her-when she was my bm, she and her FH made a gooey spectacle of themselves posing and being all lovey dovey and so my photographer would take pictures of them and guests could say they were so cute. *sigh*

05.01.2010
Married: 05/01/2010
Reviews: 8
Feb 03, 2010 at 7:37 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
OMG!! Let me count it in my head....4 people got engaged right after I did. My best friend got engaged a month after me and is getting married a month after me. My other friend was engaged three months after me and is getting married 3 months after me. My other friend was engaged 7 months after me and is getting married only 2 months after me. And the final friend was engaged 6 months after me and is getting this month! It didn't bother me as long as none of my friends picked the same day I did which of course they wouldn't do. I just thought it was funny that we went an entire year from the last person who got married (oh was the ONLY one who got married that year) and as soon as I got engaged everyone started buying rings.

Officially His Mrs P.
Married: 10/09/2010
Reviews: 8
Feb 03, 2010 at 7:39 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
After after my betrothed proposed, two other friends got engaged & were supposed to get married the May before mine......both relationships are now on the rocks & neither of them know if they still want to be married...so sad...but as far as the jealousy, I havent seen nor do I want to see that.

ladylee
Married: 06/05/2010
Feb 03, 2010 at 8:46 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Well wait just a minute. Am I understanding correctly that no one should get married before you if they are part of your bridal party? Anyone who gets engaged after you is just jealous and trying to compete with you? It's not at all possible that these people are just at that point in their relationship? Why not be happy for them like you'd expect them to be happy for you? Must be great to think so highly of your "friends". *SMH*

Married: 05/07/2011
Reviews: 6
Feb 03, 2010 at 8:49 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Let's see, I got "officially" engaged November 16th. My cousin got engaged less than a week later, one of my MOH's got engaged November 20th, another cousin got engaged the beginning of this month, and my sister got engaged about 3 weeks ago. And all but one are getting married before me (one cousin this august, my sister this september, my MOH this november). The other is getting married about 2 weeks after me. It gets frustrating sometimes before I feel we were first and now we are last. That no one wants to hear about ours, you know? But the only reason ours is almost last is because that's how long it will take to pay for it. Oh well. Lol I deal with it.

Married: 10/09/2010
Reviews: 5
Feb 03, 2010 at 8:53 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My FH asked me to marry him a few months after our friends got engaged Her Wedding is September ours is in October. I think she's jealous because we are planning everything and booking venues and her FH doesn't want to do anything but go to the courthouse then have a bbq.
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Married: 10/09/2010
Reviews: 5
Feb 03, 2010 at 8:58 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I also think that my sisters are in a war for attention and usually put my parents in a financial bind. My older sister got pregnant for my other sisters wedding. I truelly believe she planned it since my sister booked her wedding two years in advance. Well foward 2 more years my other sister finds out shes pregnant then wow my sister bumps up her wedding by 7 months.

Unique
Married: 02/11/2010
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ladylee
Married: 06/05/2010
Feb 03, 2010 at 9:14 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Seriously?! Who would really get pregnant on purpose JUST to upstage someone on their wedding? What type of friends do you guys have?!

I think sometimes people can save themselves a lot of frustration by just shutting up a little bit. My dad sent me $5000 for my wedding. I've only shared that fact with my FH (obviously) and a couple of my very good friends. I didn't tell my Mom and I made it a point not to tell my sister for the very simple fact that if it ever comes down to time for her to get married, if my dad is not able to help her financially, I wouldn't want her to feel slighted. If dad chooses to tell her that's his own personal business. But I don't see that happening. The moral of the story is, competition can often be avoided just by shutting the hell up.
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