Bridesmaids Wearing Different Styles of Dresses

I'm doing the same thing actually. They know it's navy blue and from there they can pick a dress. I am going to ask for final approval, and I am asking for a soft style vs. a structured taffeta. As long as the dress styles coordinate then it will be fine. I have 3 bridesmaids and they have completely different figures so it would look weirder to have them all in the same dress.

I was going to do that same thing; but I didn't want all different shades of red standing next to me lol I decided to just pick what they were going to wear. But it is a great idea!

I told mine to wear whatever they wanted in black, and then gave them coordinating shawls and pinwheels. They were so happy to be able to wear what they already owned, and no one really noticed that they didn't match.

I am actually going to let them pick their own style as well! Even more so, they will be wearing different shades of purple/pink/lavender. It is definitely becoming a big trend lately

You know I will never get how "those BM rules" began. I guess I could google it.

I don't think there is an issue with it at all. More and more girls are doing it, and frankly, I would rather have a happy BM who didn't have to shell out circa $400 for a day's ensemble and everything else that goes with being a BM.

I don't even know what my MOH is wearing. I told her to show up in an earth tone.

I gave them all a color swatch from David's Bridal. I just requested that they get THAT color. I made them send a "picture" of approval, but ya, all my girls are different shapes and sizes, so I didn't want to put them all in the same thing.

I agree, it's becoming more trendy/popular for the girls to be in same color different dress..now if they are in a different dress, different color my consultant said it would take some attention away from you..not sure how true that is, but i see her point. As long as you get it from a place that has a color, and order around the same time for dye batch similarity it won't be an issue..For me I'm having my MOH in one dress and the other two BMs in the different dress (same). I don't like when BMs look like clones of each other lol!

I wanted to have all my girls in different dresses of the same color. I too gave them a swatch from DB and asked that it be a satin dress with no "bling" embellishments. I didn't want the dresses to look like a different color because of a different fabric. Ironically, two of my girls chose the same dress! But at least I know they like it and may even wear it again sometime. My MOH has a different dress. Hers is shorter and a different style, but the same fabric and color.

I am letting them do what they want with shoes and jewelry, as long as it is simple and not to flashy.

This way everyone (including me) is happy!

It doesn't look stupid! It's actually a new trend that I've seen in some bridal magazines, having your girls in the same color and length dresses but different styles.

It doesn't look stupid! It's actually a new trend that I've seen in some bridal magazines, having your girls in the same color and length dresses but different styles.

I have 9 BMs. I picked the designer, the material, the color and told them that it should hit somewhere on the knee (above, at, just under, whatever). Even my harshest crtics were pleased with the outcome. Each girl found a different dress. Since I picked black satin, all of the girls can wear the dresses again.

Tell your FH, that as long as the color and fabric are uniform throughout the dresses, it's really no big deal at all!

The one little piece of advice I’d give you is to make sure to have all of the girls wear the same fabric. Otherwise, BM #2 is going to stand out like a sore thumb bc she’s going to be shinier than everyone else. :o)

Well, now I'm a little nervous. Some of the fabrics are different, but there is the same amount of each fabric, if that makes sense. I really wasn't too worried about it because I didn't think that was something I would notice and/or care about.

That was my original plan...to have different dresses but the same color....well when we went to find the dresses all my BM fell in love with the same dress so now we are doing the same dress in different shades of blue!...I love the idea!

Thats exactly what I did ... I dn't think it looks stupid at all.. It was the best way to make sure everyone gets something that looks good on them .. I've been in too many wedding where I got stuck with a nasty looking dress not because the dress was really ugly but because I'm short with a large rack and its harder to dress my body than a tall thin girl, my girls are all different sizes and shapes and ages so it was just best this way for me.

My color is deep purple and black. i feel bad for my moh's (i'm only having two moh's..i couldn't decide between the two) to buy a purple dress and never wear it again.

so i was thinking having them wear a black dress but within the same fabric and different style is fine with me.

Times come and go. Back in the 80's, we all had to match...same style and color. My parents were married in the 1950's, and the girls wore their prom dresses...different colors and styles! Styles evolve. My niece's wedding in two weeks will have all her girls in black, knee length, but in the style of the BM's choice.

For my brother's wedding, all the girls picked their own dresses and the bride picked the color she wanted us to wear. I think it was nice, because we were able to choose what worked on us. I think the pics came out well too.

My daughters BM's wore matching dresses, but her MOH is a lady of larger size and could not wear that dress. So, she wore the same color, but a different style. It looked great.

No need match style, nor color, if you choose not to.

I'm doing the same thing. I picked out about 5 dresses that I liked that had my wedding color and told the girls to pick the dresses they like from those and try them on. That way I know the guidelines of the dress already and then everyone will leave w/ a dress they can wear again (my bridesmaids will be in the short-style dresses) within their budget. Its a new modernized way to do your wedding. Not tacky at all. Just try to explain it to him so he understands. Sometimes ppl get caught up in the old fashioned etiquette of how things used to be instead of changing w/ how the times are now! Plus, you're in charge of your bridesmaids and he's in charge of the groomsmen. As long as both sides come together perfectly looking well put together, then the other will have no worries!

I'm with your FH. I think it looks better if all of the girls wear the same style.