As a wedding GUEST are there things that you really do not care about or notice much?

Interesting question, since I was just thinking about this earlier. I was stressing over the little details, and I tried to remember details about weddings I've been to this year, and I was surprised by how little I remembered. I remember getting hot sauce as a favor at one because a) I love hot sauce and b) the bottle was covered in pictures of the bride in her bikini. I thought that was a cute idea (though I could have done without the bikini shots).

I honestly can't remember centerpieces at all. The only favors I remember were the ones that struck me as unique ("love spice" at my cousin's wedding (a BBQ rub) and the hot sauce). I think that if your decor is unique, people might remember it. Otherwise, as long as it doesn't stand out as hideous, most people probably don't even notice/remember it. Too bad I spent all this time stressing over decor!

I agree with you on centerpieces. I don't remember any of them. I do remember the cake/dessert. That's one of my favorite wedding things. I don't remember the invites usually.

Photobooths: yes

Favors: nah

Food/bar: yes, but not if it's rail or top shelf liquor, as long as it's all hosted properly

centerpieces/bouquets/decor: not really

programs; absolutely never

Bridesmaids looking exactly alike: i really only remember what bridesmaids wore at all in my wedding and ones I was in.

Overall, what do I remember: if I had a great time on the dance floor, food and drinks were good, I had an awesome time, OR the couple treated us like crap

What don't I remember: little details that, while often cute/awesome, aren't contributing to the experience (poems, bathroom baskets, etc. though poems aren't usually cute/awesome).

I have also been to a ton of weddings and in a ton of weddings. The two things that stood out the most were that two of them had lavish cocktail/desert hour, and one of them had a terrific band. Other than that, I couldn't tell you if people upgraded to chivari chairs, or specialty table cloths. I think people remember great food and good music.

I remember the decor, the flowers, the venues, the feel, the ambience, the food, the music, and the bar

am i drunk, did I eat good, am I having fun?

favors? cake? bouquet toss? garter toss? formal dances? NOPE

I don't pay attention to seat covers/sashes, programs, and favors.

I do remember the bar, food, and dj. Wanna PARTAY and for me those are important elements in the reception.

Good question. I surprisingly don't remember a lot of details either. I remember food, bar, dancing, Band from one friends. The recent wedding i went to in May i remember a lot more...but then again i was secretly playing my own "Four Weddings" show in my head. LOL

I only remembered the centerpieces at one wedding because they were full of water and drowned everyone's phones by the end of the night because the tables were way too close to each other. The only thing I remember about food is if it was cold or not. The dancing is really the biggest thing I remember from the last few weddings I've attended.

The last wedding I was at, they had MATCHES as favors. I definitely remember that because I thought it was so weird ! Who uses matches anymore?

I don't care about programs, invites, chair covers, slideshows, long-ass ceremonies that you can't even see because there's too many people in front of you, bouts, appetizers/desserts or lack thereof, etc

The things I remember - music and entertainment, what the bride looked like, the alcohol choices, the food, what the venue looks like, any special/personalized parts to a ceremony .... that's about it.

I remember the food (if it was really good or really bad) and if the dj was good, but I never remember or care about the bridal party, centerpieces, or alter decorations.

I've been to a ton of weddings, and I cannot remember the majority of the details (songs, dresses, cake). Other things I remember only because they stood out, as being cool ideas (like one wedding had goldfish as the centerpieces and gave them away as prizes) or because the people I was with made great memories. I generally remember favors, but usually only because I'm starving before the wedding and want to eat them right away ha ha!

@AugustBride - hahahahahahahaha. FH and I bought matches with our names on them for one of our favors. They were on crazy clearance on theknot, and we were early in the planning process. We are both pyros and love fire, so it kind of fits. But I'm thinking of skipping them for the exact reason you said.

Chair sashes, centerpieces, extra decorations, and favors. None of these make or break the wedding to me.

I remember most of the details of the weddings I have been to, but I don't care about them.

I remember the food, venue, music, if there was an open bar, favors and the overall vibe

I don't remember chairs, centerpieces, escort cards, program, the bride or bm dresses, speeches (1 do remember because it was horrible).

edit: flowers just realized i never remembered the flowers. I do remember unique things like photobooths, guests given instruments to play and dance with

I felt like a total fool the other day when FH was talking about a wedding he was IN and I could not for the life of me remember if they gave favors. He remembered them because he thought they were silly (go figure). But then I really started thinking - and for me, after the ceremony it is like all those weddings we attended were one in the same. I do not think I ever paid attention to the brides bouquet. Were the candles on the tables? I know we had appetizers but I could not tell you if they were fancy or bargain basement other than that they were food I ate lol. I am glad I am not the only one haha!

The only think I remember from any wedding I have gone to is dancing and food.

I've been to two weddings in the last year and I don't remember anything about their colors or decorations or even what the cake looked like. I remember whether or not the cake and food tasted good, the photobooths, whether or not there were favors (there were: One was a treat that the groom liked to make and the other was seeds for flowers), whether or not the dancing/music was fun, and of course how beautiful the bride looked. I don't really remember specific parts of the ceremony unless there is something different (like my FSIL's Thai water ceremony or the other couple's Vietnamese Tea Ceremony) or if something went wrong (FSIL's little cousin was supposed to escort the flowergirls and decided to bail out before coming down the aisle, at the other, the flowergirl had to be carried down because she didn't want to walk). So for our wedding, I'm just going to do what I want because nobody is going to remember much of it anyway.

Ditto Melissa: This was kind of why I asked this question. There are a ton of things that I am going to skip on because no one will notice/remember.

I can't help but look at the flowers and the centerpieces (and make a mental calculation of what the couple spent), but that's an occupational hazard.

What I remember about weddings (and no, before I went pro, I didn't notice the centerpieces unless they were truly spectacular) was: the bridesmaids' dresses, the wedding gown (she always looks beautiful -- I don't care who she is), the ceremony music, the mystique of the ceremony (I'm a sucker fol ceremonies), and the fact that there was an open bar and excellent food. I always appreciate the fact that a wedding gives me the opportunity to spend time with people I don't see enough, and I get to socialize with them in a party environment.