Young brides?

Don't let the negativity get you down.

Unfortunately, it's the opposite for us. I'll be 30 and he'll be 36 when we marry. Most of my family thought I was a "spinster" up until the engagement.

I was 22 when we got engaged and will be 23 when we get married! Although he is older. I haven't really experienced any comments, thankfully, but even if I did, I know in my heart that this is what is meant to be! Just ignore those who comment negatively, as much as you can!

I got engaged when I was 21 and our date was when I would have been 23. I got negative comments but also it was a mistake and I broke it off. Now I’m 29 and I’m one of the last ones to get married and people think I’m old. You just can’t win. You can’t time meeting the right person at the exact right moment and time your relationship progress/steps exactly perfectly to fit everyone’s expectations.

I wouldn't stress it. I met my FH when I was 22. We got engaged when I was 23 a few months before turning 24. FH just turned 25 back in April and I will be 25 two months after the wedding. There is a stigma for low success rate for young marriages and thats mostly because of our day and age its so easy to do things (like cheat). The digital age is hard. Back in the day people got married young because they were saving themselves for marriage and lets be real a lot of the time they just wanted to do it.... lol there are a lot of long lasting marriages of people that got married when they were "young" and there are a lot of failed ones. But the same goes for people who waited till they were 30. We live in a very different day and age. If you know you're ready for marriage and you found your person it shouldn't matter your age in my personal opinion. When you know you know!

I'm getting married at 23! And FH is only two years older than me. I haven't necessarily gotten any negatively about it, but I always hate the joking "you're too young to get married!" comments lol. Everyone has their own timeline! And 5 years is a lot.

We eloped in 2017 when he proposed to me with a $10 ring from Wal-Mart. I was only 18 and he was 20, and he was still in the Navy at the time so I had moved away so we could actually live together and our relationship wouldn't get beat down by long distance anymore. Now I'm 20 and he's 22 and we're happier than ever getting into our careers and working really hard on getting a house, and planning the wedding we've been talking about since 2015! Don't let anyone bring you down under any circumstances. Only you can make your life decisions, and only you and him know your relationship in and out. The only time we had issues is when we let other people influence our decisions. Just keep things between y'all and everything will work out how it should!

Yes! I'm 21 now and will be 22 when we get married - same for FH. My mom is supportive, but at first suggested we wait until we're older because "what's the rush?" The rush is that we love each other and want to start our life together!! We're also waiting until marriage to live together, so that's another push towards it!

My first engagement I was 19 and we got lots of “what’s the rush?” comments, but we had only been together about a year at the time. I called it off before we got married because I realized we wanted different things and ultimately wouldn’t make each other happy. You are definitely not rushing into things after 5 years. I know people who got married at 19 and are still happily married and people who got married at 30 and divorced within 2 years. Don’t worry about the naysayers! We get plenty of flack for having two kids before getting engaged or married, but I just remind myself that it’s our life not theirs. To be honest, time changes everyone, and while I was different at 20 than I am now at 30, I’m sure I’ll be different at 40 and 50 too. It’s just as easy for two forty year olds to grow apart as it is for two twenty year olds, and over five years you’ve both seen each other grow and change a lot already. Best wishes! Happy planning!

I am having the same problem. I was 21 when we got engaged and will be 23 when we get married, he was 23 when we got engaged and a month after the wedding he turns 25 we have lived together for the past year and a half and the beginning of this year moved 4 - 6 hours away from our family due to his new job. My family feels we are too young to be getting married (My Mom and Dad got married at 22 and she was 5 months pregnant) and they said we wouldn't make it when we moved in together. His family is supportive, mine not so much. I feel marriage has no age restrictions and no one wants to be a forever girlfriend.

Don't let it get you down! My fiancé is 21 and I am 23 and will still be when we get married (NEXT MONTH!!!)

You two are old enough to decide y'all are ready for this step. It's obvious you're not rushing into it!

I’m 23 and he’ll be 29 at the wedding. We haven’t gotten any comments at all actually, but I live in a more rural area where it’s pretty normal to get married at a younger age

I am a young bide! I am 21 and getting married in 7 days. My family is encoring of the marriage they love my FH same with his family. We both work full time, live together on our own, we are very mature for our age. we both are 21. Ive gotten the negativity from coworkers and other people when they find out my age and everything. they say things like oh well you'll just end up on divorce, or you are too young to know what you want.

People are always gonna have something negative to say. It seems like you're either married too young or too late, no in between. Thank them for their concern and don't let the comments phase you! It's not up to someone else deciding if you're ready for marriage - only you are!

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I can't believe your coworkers actually said "oh well, you'll just divorce". That's so rude of them!

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This! My sister got married at 22 last summer, after dating for 4-5 months and a 6 month engagement. I started dating FH in 2014, but we are both overly cautious people and had a couple things that we really wanted to figure out before getting engaged. So, we're getting married at 29 this fall. Somehow, a few people thought it was okay to say things like "finally!" when we got engaged, or make jokes about my sister beating me down the aisle (as if it's a competition?). Everyone's timeline is different.

View Quoted Comment There’s just people who can’t be happy for others! Like just because you ended in divorce doesn’t mean I will

My fiancée and I are both 23 and will be when we get married next month!
A lot of my coworkers have made comments about how “that’s so scary” and “they could never get married that young” (a lot of them are my age or a coupe years older and not the most responsible people). At the same time, my another coworker who is 2 years older than me just got engaged, and everyone is reacting with “finally!!” 🙄
Try to brush it off, you’ve been together for years and marriage is a big decision, you and your fiancé put thought into that and that’s all that matters. It’s tough but just remind yourself that you don’t owe anyone else an explanation!

I was 19 when I got engaged and will be getting married next year at age 21! None of my family was very excited, in fact my immediate family never said congratulations or asked how he asked. Friends were more supportive, which was slightly disappointing but ultimately I know that whoever wants to be there for me on my wedding day, will be and I’ll be happy to celebrate with those who are there to support me and my FH.

I got engaged at 20 and will be 22 when we get married; my fiancé was 20 when we got engaged and will be 23 at our wedding. I haven’t many negative reactions yet, but younger people I know have said some side comments. Where I’m from it’s very common for people to get married/engaged young so I think that’s why not many question it.


Side note: My grandparents got married when my grandma was 16 and they’re still together 40+ years later, I think it’s kind of odd how many people think young couples won’t stay together when many of our own grandparents did it and it was the norm.

My friends consider it young because I guess in millennial timelines people don't really get married til later on.
Don't let it get to ya - only you know what's the right time