Wwyd? Sick father of the groom....

Obviously our biggest concern is his treatment and supporting him in this battle and anything wedding related comes in a far second.

I would do it much sooner than August. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, she was given 6-8 months with treatment, 2-3 months without treatment. Three weeks after she was diagnosed she began chemo treatment. She died two weeks after her last chemo treatment.

Each case is different. If he would want to see you and your FH get married, then do it quick. If he is too sick for all that to happen, then keep your original date. You don't want to have a wedding right after a funeral (if he makes it to July) because grief will takeover the happiness of your day.

It's all in your gut feeling of what you want. Life comes in cycles though an the doctors 'say' things all the time but who knows what will actually happen. It's not wrong to keep it as is. Sometimes if you have a happy occasion to look forward to it will help with the pain. If you can't imagine the day without him

Maybe have a small ceremony early so e can be a part of that.

I am going through this with my own father. He is fighting colon cancer and has had 3 major surgeries since May of last year. He is doing great right now (except for parts of incision not healing). FH and I decided when we got engaged that if Dad get's a no hope prognosis our wedding will be way sooner than later. My mother passed when I was 11 so Dad is all I have for parents. See how his treatments are going, if needed do something small so he can be there. Then evaluate moving the date back. Everyone I know would be fine with it if I had to do it that way.

I would move it up sooner than august if possible and if it's what you want. I would at least do a small ceremony that he can be a part of.

I don't want to move it up to before August because for the next several months we will be concentrating on him, his treatment and getting him home. We live in a small town and he is gone for at least a month to a hospital 4hrs away for treatments. Hopefully August will see him doing better. The Leukemia was caught extremely early through routine bi-annual bloodwork his family dr ordered so we are hopeful the treatments won't be as severe. It's also made us think about others we wish to share our day with that may not still be with us in a year 1/2. My grandmother is 83 and my grandpa 87 now.

I agree with Jocelyn... However, I just read an article where a daughter moved her wedding to the next day so that her mom could be there... Dr's and nurses helped. What I would do is not really nail anything anything down, aka no deposits anywhere, but have a contingency plan in case you NEED to move the wedding up to the next week. Know where an affordable, fairly easy venue would be... perhaps someone's back yard. You might wanna have an off-the-rack dress idea available, or purchase something cheaper and less expensive now. Get affairs in order, so you have a basic sketch of an idea IF it comes down to that. After reading that womans moving tale, I am sure that your husband would do a JOP if it meant his dad could be there. So sorry to hear you all are going through this

This is a tough choice, and I don't know what is right for you and your fiance, but one thing to keep in mind is that even if you move the wedding date up and he is still alive, there is no guarantee that he will be well enough to attend. And this may be true whether he is getting treatment or not. really sorry you are going through this-- I know it can't be easy.

What about two ceremonies? What if you had a secret, intimate family affair this summer, and got legally married with him present but kept the big wedding next year? That way he could be there and share your special moment but no one else would know but you and your (secret) husband..err, I mean fiance. And the affair this summer would be tiny and quaint, easy to plan and work around his treatment. Find a minister that can do it at both places ( it happens more often than you think) and you would eliminate confusion at the second bigger ceremony. That way you guys could have him see you get married, yet focus 100% on his treatment and not feel guilty or obligated to one certain thing. If he doesn't make it till next August, you and your fiance will have peace of mind that he WAS with you as you two became one. God Bless!

I agree with Melanie.

but considering all the attitudes out there about having a wedding after being legally married, I see no reason to tell anyone but those involved.

if for no other reason that it's no one's business but your own.

you could also do the reverse, have a private wedding with his dad there, but get legally married when you wish to on your terms.

do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

we had planned to have our wedding last halloween, but then got the call that my grooms father's cancer had taken a turn&there wasn't much time.

I asked him if he wanted me to come along on the trip to see his dad and have a ceremony, but he wanted to make it all about just seeing his dad and he wanted to do it alone.

I was fine with that, we had a visit earlier that year when his dad was healthier, and it was great.

we postponed because a wedding was too much right after his dad passing.

good luck!

Thanks everyone! The wedding plan for August 2015 was already a back yard BBQ, my dad/uncle are cooking BBQ roast beef and we are doing a couple big roasters of baked potatoes, a garden salad and macaroni salad. I am a cake decorator so making my own dummy cake and cupcakes for dessert, I already bought my dress (from a bridal store closing down),

The officiant is a friend of the family /and the photographer (although a professional) is also a friend. It would really be no problem to do this August rather than next. We were only holding off for my 4 mth old to be a little older and no longer nursing. We have been together for 6 years and 3 kids lol

If it was my Dad, I would go get married ASAP to have him there for a small intimate ceremony. Ask your FH what he wants to do and how important it is for his Dad to be there and ask his father the same thing. If he takes a huge down turn he might not even be able to be a part of a quick small ceremony.

I would move the ceremony up, even if you can't have the reception til August. I cannot see anyone not understanding the separation in this case.