Writing vows that won't make you cry while you read/say them.

My advice, as always.

Four short lines about what you love about your partner

Four more short lines about what you promise to do to keep your marriage strong.

The end.

And I find that guests love personalized vows (and ceremony). At least that's what they tell me. ...Almost every week.

I've never been a fan of non personalized vows.

I don't like the idea of using someone else's words to express how we feel, so that's why we want to write our own.

I definitely want to keep them short, and I've got some ideas flowing now that I've started thinking about it. I have plenty of time though, 125 days!

For those who don't want to write their own vows; one of my couples told me they wanted to use very traditional 'repeat after me' style vows (minus the obey part and the death part) in the middle of their fairly untraditional wedding ceremony. They felt that repeating words that couples had said through antiquity added a note of gravity to their ceremony.

Just a thought.

Probably 3/4 of my couples use the traditional vows (minus 'obey').

We had Vows to say I do to but then my husband said special VowS he wrote and I copped out entirely I played a song by the 80s band survivor Called in good faith I decided that was perfect