Would You Sue??

I bet she wins. The court may look at it as a breach of contract (the engagement being the contract for marriage) and as such award damages. I love it

I would argue with him about owing me money but I would certainly never sue for it!! (although he would probably rightfully argue back that it was my choice to spend whatever on it; as the girls usually make those decisions.stereotypically speaking so really he would be right, not me)..honestly more than anything I'd be glad that it happened then instead of years down the line when it would be a looot messier!

Also, depends on the reason for dumping me (for another woman) ohh you bet the fangs would come out! :-F

Since he paid all the deposits... I might be the one in trouble!

But I bet she wins a judgement of half the expenses.

Most states have now outlawed breach of contract actions with regard to a contract to marry. Among other things, the old cases got pretty "colorful," to say the least. She would claim that she would never have surrendered her virginity if he had not promised marriage, and try to assign an economic value to that. And the fiance would claim she hadn't been a virgin when he first had sex with her, and bring half the male population of the town to testify in his defense.

It sounds like Illinois is one of the majority of states that has abolished the breach of contract action, and this lawyer is trying to bring it back under the guise of intentional infliction of emotional distress. I suspect that if it goes to trial, the defendant will win. However, the plaintiff is probably hoping that the defendant will settle before trial in order to avoid the expense of a trial.

Hmmmmmm...interesting. The way I would look at it is was there wedding insurance? That protects against these type of things. And was there an actual contract b/w the FW & FH? I think it depends on the state you live in if verbal contracts are put into consideration.

But completely understand & support suing him b/c DAMN! That's alot of $$ for a wedding.

Wedding insurance typically excludes damages due to either party backing out.

Emotional damage doesn't have a price but that wedding sure does. I don't blame her. I'd come at it from the "I spent all this money on this and he backed out so he has to ante up" instead of the jilted bride but then again, I'm not a lawyer.

If she's a lawyer, then she likely makes a good living. It doesn't say what her ex-FH did. But depending on a prenup and such, if he had tied the knot then broken it off 6 months later with a divorce, she could have ended up losing more! Sorry, you didn't pick a good guy to say yes to, or you changed a lot during the engagement (she does sound like someone who might have turned bridezilla). But if she had the dough to shell out for a big expensive wedding like that, she likely could have lost much more from a divorce.

Hells to the yeah. From what I gathered from the article, he didn't give a reason, and could of backed out at an earlier time. Think about it ladies, What is YOUR time worth? Think about all the time you put into planning a wedding and put a number on it, then add in the costs of paying for everything, and everything paid in full. The remark in the article about maybe it was a good idea that he ran, she is suing him after all, Yes, she is AFTER he called the wedding off. It's one thing to almost marry someone who is suing you after the fact you called off the wedding, and another to marry someone who would sue you after you had gotten married. And I don't think it should matter if she makes a living or not, A dollar is a dollar, 97,000 of them exactly. How would you honestly feel loosing 97,000 regardless of what income you had? Probably not the greatest. 97,000 is a hefty payment on a new house, for a fresh life and start.

No I wouldn't ... I'd figure out a way to get my parents back the money they spent and lost but no I wouldn't sue, I'd let him go ...

Exactly FMS!! All the wedding vendors consider their time into what we pay, why shouldn't we. Then on top of losing all the deposits that could have been repaid had he said something earlier um yeah I'd be getting that money back one way or another.

I read this when it was posted on facebook. Yes I would sue thats a whole heck of a lot of money. It sure would be emotional distress. Who is left calling all the guests to tell them he walked out? Im sure betting its her.

Shhhoooooooooooot. I would sue. This reminds me "b*&^ betta have ma moneeeeeeeeeey" lol. He could have been opened his mouth.

I wouldn't sue my fiance (mainly because our's is not nearly that expensive), however, if he left me for another woman. I would probably sue her for luring him away....a woman did that and won...and I would want to make sure that I could somehow ruin her life somewhat the same as she ruined mine. >

Eh but she didn't ruin your life ya know. If he can be lured away well then he isn't much and she actually helped you out. You can't take away something that doesn't want to be taken... I hate that women always gets blamed when there is an affair and men rarely do. When I was young and stupid, I got involved with a married man. I didn't mean to, I thought he was seperated and only a few days away from a divorce but then I was informed different when everyone started treating me like I was a barracuda. Men Lie!! but then so do women. All I'm saying is you never know the whole situation with an affair.

I dunno - I'm taking an opposing view and if this were the case I would say that every 'ex' of mine owes me money spent during our combined dating. All those long walks on the beach... cha-ching, cha-ching.

Yes, you're mad, yes, you want to lash out but seriously? Cut your losses and move on both physically and financially.

It's not worth it in the grand scheme.

I'm also not a big believer in the "luring him away" school of thought. I do not have a commitment from the entire population of the world not to hit on my wife. I do have a commitment from my wife to be faithful to me. So if there were cheating, she (not her partner) would be the one I'd blame.

My FH has a sort of similar situation. They took out a loan to pay for the wedding, but it was in her name. Four months in she cheated, but she wanted him to pay the loan. The judge ruled against her.

@Brian, I totally agree with you. There are signs, but at the same time, sometimes there arent. Sometimes the guy may act like everything is normal and go with the flow until he just left. Im just saying