Would You Sign a Prenup?

I wouldn't. It just rubs me the wrong way. I know some people would disagree and I know "things happen" but I don't want to enter a marriage thinking about divorce.

I agree with Allie. I would never sign one.

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I understand your perspective.

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If you were really "well off" would you want your spouse to sign one?

Completely agree with PPs! FH and I have already discussed that we would never do one because we don't think divorce is even an option. We think part of "becoming one" is sharing our finances and possessions.

View Quoted Comment Still 100% no. I wouldn't go into a marriage expecting to get divorced. I know that we can't predict the future and I'm not going to arrogantly assume that I will never get divorced but I place a very high value on the sanctity of marriage (and would only marry someone who feels the same way) so I think it's unlikely. why put things in place that make it much easier to get divorced? It seems bizzare to me

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This is our stance as well!

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Thank you for sharing.

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Thank you for clarifying.

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I completely understand. My husband and I discussed a prenup as well and felt that it was not necessary as we plan to be together forever.

We didn't but I would. I plan to be with my husband forever but I'm not naive enough to think that something won't happen. If I had family money or visa versa there is nothing wrong with trying to protect that.

No one goes into marriage expecting to get divorced, but life happens....

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I don't think it would be "naive" not to get a prenup. I think it would be going into a marriage with the best of intentions. I have read studies in the past that showed a large number of couples with prenups eventually used them because they felt they had a safety net and admitted to not really trying to save the marriage. If I can find the studies again I'll post it.

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I don't think it's naive to not get a prenup either. That's not what I said. I think it's naive to think that there is zero chance of divorce.

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Thanks for clarifying.

We were planning on having one written up and both of us were happy to sign it. However, my financial advisor told me that it wouldn't be necessary and suggested instead that we both sit down close to the wedding and list out the type of assets and the amounts we both are separately bringing into the marriage. This would apply to the usual things like 401ks and savings accounts, but also our cars and any other large ticket items. I thought that it was a helpful way to document things in case we get divorced.

I would aha. I dont mind at all about if he wanted to protect his assets and if I wanted to protect mine.

I wouldn't. I do understand why it can be beneficial for others, but it looks like you're already planning on your separation.

We aren’t planning to, but I definitely would. Every divorced couple I know went into their marriage thinking that they wouldn’t get divorced, and guess what? I hope that my FW and I last forever, but things happen and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with protecting your assets.

I would and am getting a pre-nup. Not only will it protect assets both FH and I have had since before we got together, it also includes language about my child that I share with my ex-husband. My divorce from my previous husband was ugly and a lot of things he swore he’d never go after when things were good, he ended up going after because he didn’t care anymore. The divorce rate in this country is over half. You never know what could happen. That doesn’t mean I think I’m going to end up divorced.

Absolutely. Sure we don't *plan* on anything happening but if the worst happens I want my ass covered!
If you have property before you get married it can sometimes be sold in a divorce, I've had friends that have had it happen, it varies by state. I'm willing to give up my money, my cars, my retirement, nearly anything but I will not give up my home. My fiance agrees that we hope we never need it but after seeing the friend get screwed over he agrees it's better to make one.
So I would say unless you have property, a LOT of money, or some other complicated circumstances you likely don't need one.