Would you bring a gift to an engagement party?

I've been told you don't need to bring a gift to the engagement party. That being said, I've only been to one and they put the registry information on there. So I brought a gift. But everyone I told thought that was very strange.

Yeah, I would. Maybe something small like a bottle of wine and a card. I just hate showing up empty handed

@Rebecca They put the registry information on their engagement party invite? Yikes.

Let me guess...they were hosting their own engagement party?

If they were close friends I would. My standby for engagement parties and housewarmings are a nice new blender, couple of margarita glasses, bottle of tequila, margarita mix and a container of margarita salt and put together a fun gift basket

Maybe a congrats card, but no gift.

I don't think engagement parties are gift giving occasion. Maybe bring a bottle of wine or something.

If its a close friend I would bring something like a botttle of wine or a picture frame or something. if not at least a card saying congrats

@C&S, they actually didn't host their own. But her family so excited about the engagement that everything was a little over the top for a while. They've all calmed way down since then. Even the bride-to-be was surprised by all the gifts. I'm guessing she didn't know about the invites.

I would bring a card and something like a bottle of wine or nice bottle of alcohol. Even if the card said "best wishes only", I would still want to bring something.

I would bring a card, and maybe a bottle of wine if I am close to the couple. Gifts are not typically given at an engagement party, and especially if they even made it clear on the invitation. Have fun!

Card and wine!

Maltese! Will you come to MY party? Lol

Hahaha! sure!!!! But the only rule is that the gift has to be opened and broken in!

At our engagement party, we specifically requested no gifts. A few people brought them anyway, but it was very unexpected. While they were very much appreciated, logistically, they were slightly problematic.

Although I'm not usually someone to show up somewhere empty handed, I probably would not bring anything if the invitation said not to.

Yes I would. the only time I haven't just brought some type of gift when at my husband's aunts 90 birthday party. but I did call and ask her daughter about it.

her daughter said they didn't want anyone bringing gifts because she felt like it was too much fuss as it was, didn't want to overwhelm her. told me not to bring a gift card because she'd just spend it buying a gift for someone else.

we did decide that a empty card was ok though.

my mom would at times bring a gift just to make sure she wasn't the only one that didn't. then make a big fuss over how she 'felt that occasions should always have a gift!' maybe she was just trying to make those she didn't like feel silly-

I would probably only bring a card and a bottle of wine. To me gifts are more appropriate for the shower or the wedding. When we got engaged we didn't have a formal party but a lot of people gave us cards and I appreciated the gesture.

We ran into some confusion with this. We were invited to an engagement party via facebook and the message said "If you wish to bring a gift, please make it something that will fit in an envelope". I didn't think it was a gifting type of event.

I ended up asking directly if there was something we could bring, and it worked out well for us to bring a couple of bottles of wine and a card for the couple.

It depends who it is. If it is somebody I am close to I would bring something small. I wouldn't want to make anyone feel bad for not bringing something so I wouldn't do anything extravagant. I think it's pretty standard to not ask for gifts at an engagement party but that doesn't mean they wouldn't enjoy getting a small gift. Maybe a bottle of wine? Also instead you can ask if there is anything you can do to help them with the party like bring a dish or go early to help set up.

Nope. I'm already likely to get them a shower gift *and* a wedding present-- a present just for getting engaged seemed absurd. I've only been to one engagement party and no one brought a gift.

I've only been to one and it was for one of my closest friends. I brought them a small oil & vinegar set from Carter & Cavero. Nothing fancy, but thoughtful enough I thought. I personally don't even believe in them and don't plan to have one.