Would you be offended is you weren't a BM for your sister in law?

I am not going to pick my FSIL to be my BM, even FH's grandmother want me to. I don't care if she will feel offended or not, it is my wedding and I have a right to choose who I want. If FH want to include her in our bridal party, she can be his groomswoman.

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I don't think you should worry about having his sister-in-law in the wedding. His sister makes sense, but his sister-in-law is only by marriage. If She didn't include you in anything with their marriage and you guys arent close, I wouldn't worry about it.

It's up to you! She just recently married into the family, so that's fine. It's whoever you want!

Your wedding is years away. Way too early to be picking your bridal party!

Absolutely not. It's supposed to be YOUR nearest and dearest.

I honestly hadn't even consider including mine. My fiance's brother just got married this summer, and they live a 6 hour plane flight away and I have only met her twice, once before their wedding and once at the wedding. My FH's brother will be in the wedding but I will not be including her. I had a hard enough time narrowing down my own good friends and family

I was just in my brother and sister in laws wedding as a bridesmaid. I kinda returned the favor of having her in my wedding. BUT If you are not close with her, you are not required to put them in your wedding.

Remember, you will be looking at these pictures for the rest of your life. Put people in them that you love.

I did not ask my brother's fiance to be in my wedding party and she is not asking me. My brother is my only sibling. My FH only has brothers, so no issue there. FSIL and I are not close and just barely speak when around each other. My brother is one of my best friends. He is not in our WP either. Just because they are siblings, doesn't mean they have to be in the wedding party. But that's just my opinion.

Do you only not want to include her because she didn’t include you? You weren’t engaged then, so I don’t think you can be salty about it. If I were her, I wouldn’t have included you either. DH’s brother’s wife didn’t ask me to be a BM in their wedding because we weren’t engaged then, but I asked her to be in mine because we’ve become much closer since and she’s family.

I wouldn't care

They are your BM so you choose. She is a sister in law not the actual sister. She will understand.

Please do not invite people you don't love and can't imagine your day without!

I wasn't even a BM for my actual sisters and I didn't care one bit. We all know we love each other.