Would you be offended is you weren't a BM for your sister in law?

Your BMs are people YOU are close with, so I wouldn't be offended at all if she was someone I wasn't close with.

I would not be offend. The people you choose for your wedding party should be the ones that you want to stand next to you. Ones that play a major part in your life. I say if you don't want her in it than don't. However if he wants her to be part of the wedding. Then maybe Compromise and ask her to give a reading at the ceremony or help direct guest to their tables.

I didn't have my hubs brother's wife in my wedding but had my hubs sister in it. I also was not in hubs brother's wedding so I didn't think anything of it. I did however invite her to hang out with us while we were getting ready morning of. It was a destination wedding for his family and since everyone else was in the WP, I wanted her not to be alone.

My SIL wore a white evening gown to my wedding so no.

No one should ever feel they are entitled to be in the BP. If they do it's presumptuous. Choose your nearest and dearest but don't choose just yet. You have over a year until you should be asking.

I'm not having my sister in law in my bridal party. She has done nothing with me before now, so I would feel super awkward about her standing up next to me. My brother is one of the groomsmen, and she is invited to the wedding still. So choose who you want in your party based on who you actually want.

Nope!

I wouldn't be. As long as I'm invited as a guest, that's all I need.

No

Ugh I had this dilemma a few months ago and was hurt when I wasn't asked to be in FSIL wedding. I really did believe that was just a part of the whole thing and as such, was going to ask her to be in my bridal party. But since there is no obligation just because they will be family you should pick who you want to stand by you.

I would be offended I wasn't because my SIL is my

MOH and my best friend. Lol. If things were different and we weren't close then no, I wouldn't care.

No!

So we're stalking about your FH's brother's new wife? No, I wouldn't feel upset about that.

I could maybe see myself being a little disappointed if my own brother got married and his wife didn't ask me to be in her BP, assuming this hypothetical FSIL of mine and I had actually become friends while they dated, but I'd get over it because I'd recognize that she wanted to honor closer friends and her own family. I could maybe be disappointed if DH had a sister and (provided she and I had a friendship) and she didn't ask me to be in her wedding. But again, I'd get over it really quickly.

In those two examples, we're talking about situations where the bride is marrying into MY immediate family or I have married into her immediate family. I would be either woman's SIL. I don't think it's a requirement to have FILs as a BM or GM, but it's something I would be willing to do for my new sister.

If one of DH's brothers were getting married and his FW didn't ask me to be a BM, I would not be upset at all. I would have had no expectation of being in her wedding. She's not becoming my in-law, she's becoming my DH's in-law. My DH's new sister. Of course, I'd be interested in getting to know this woman who will be sharing this family with me, and I would have every intention of developing a sister-like relationship with her, but that has nothing to do with being one of her best friends right away. If you don't have a relationship with her right now, she had no reason to ask you to be her BM and you have no reason to ask her to be yours.

No

Nope

Only include who you want to include. My FH has two sisters and only one is going to be a BM. His own brother isn't going to be in the wedding and that's his only full blood sibling. They aren't close. That being said, you shouldn't feel obligated to have ppl in your wedding party

Personally, I would not be, but I'm just not that kind of gal.

Although, FH's sisters are both a little bent out of shape about not being in our wedding. I have a group of 6 friends that I have been friends with between 15-25 years, and then my sister, brother and BIL, that are all standing with me on my wedding day. That's a lot of freaking people and I wasn't going to add anymore to the chaos just because they were going to be sad. I told FH that his sisters could stand with him if he wanted them in the wedding and he said no.

I don't feel that I should be obligated to ask someone to avoid hurt feelings. Not my problem.

My FH's sister got married in August. They had a bridal party of ten. I was not one of them, my FH was. I was totally fine with it since his sister and I get along well but we aren't besties. The only bummer was that I didn't get to sit with him or see him much during the wedding.

Please take this advice! Yes, she'll probably be offended. But this is your wedding day! DO NOT let anyone or anything change your mind about things. What does your FH say? The only person that should sway your decision would be him. You can't run around trying to please everyone else because when it comes down to it, the day is about you guys! If she's not a solid part of your life, meaning you have a significant relationship, leave her out. Not everyone will be happy with the choices you make, but they are YOUR choices to make. Do what makes you and your FH happy! Thats all that matters.

Honestly, my own sister barely made it into my wedding party so I definitely wouldn't be offended in your situation.

Wow, holy replies. Thanks guys! I think I'm going to have her do a scripture reading or something to be involved but not in my bridal party.

Thanks!