Would it be wrong to not invite my sisters husband?

Yes, it's wrong. He's married to your sister so he comes. She chose him.

Plus you'll be so busy that you won't have to deal with him. And if he causes drama at the wedding and you don't know about it until afterward - then who cares - you're still married and had a great time (hopefully).

In my opinion it would be wrong to not invite him. I suggest you speak with your sister about your concerns and maybe she can better handle the situation. If he causes a ruckus, simply request your sister handle it properly or ask him to go home early!

It doesn't matter who the sister "chose"; that isn't the bride's problem. You should probably ask your sister if she'd like for him to come. Or try asking him. He might say no.

I totally feel you about being reluctant to invite someone who cant handle themselves...but it sounds like you need your sister and her kids to be there. but you also want your cousin there. i honestly think when it comes down to it, your cousin will come. shes probably just saying that now to see if you'll uninvite your bro in law. i'd designate someone [like maybe your dad] to just every so often keep an eye on him and if hes causing any problems have him take care of it before the drama even reaches you. you dont need to deal with that on YOUR day. i swear if someone starts ANYTHING at my wedding there WILL be problems and i will not be afraid to tell someone to get the f- out. NOT spending thousands of dollars to have my wedding ruined by some douche. either way, im sure it'll all work out and hopefully they mature in the next few months and they come to the realization that this day is about you and your husband thats it. good luck!

It would be wrong to not invite him.

The most important is that your sister is there in your wedding. You can tell your sister your concern and let her remind her husband of good manner on this special occasion.

I agree with the ladies. He's your sisters husband and your sister + kids are in the wedding. But if his physically or mentally abusive then I would invite him. Speak to you sister & as long as he doesn't create drama on your big day. Speak to your family and seat them on opposite side of the venue there shouldn't be drama.

If they are married - they are a package deal and you have to invite him. Sorry!

I would invite him, put him in a spot hard for him to feel social and also make the wedding difficult on him in every way possible. And also make it sound like it is difficult for you having him around due to the fact he is not in the bridal party. If your sister's family is partaking roles then imply things he can help with, you know he likely is driving right? Lol hopefully if it is difficult he would say he doesn't need to be there.

I agree with him on the cousins loser boyfriend issue but he really needs to stay out of people business. He threatens alot. I tried to talk to him lastnight about it and he just got shitty with me so its whatever. If hes gonna cause a scene or anyone for that matter, I will tell them to leave.

I guess I'm in a similar boat. All of my family hates my sisters husband, but I don't think anyone would not come to my wedding if he were there. If my grandma or aunts or someone in my blood line said I am not coming if he is, I would consider not inviting him. I would rather have those people there instead. But I am going to invite him just for my sisters sake because I KNOW that would cause so much unnecessary drama if I didn't. I don't want him to be a GM and I know that alone is going to cause drama too.

Ahhh...weddings. Why is there always somebody who has to be a potential problem? Why can't everyone show up and behave, or just simply decline if they can't get with the spirit of the event?

I guess you realize the majority opinion is to invite him. It's good advice. If you exclude him, there will be repercussions, and they are likely to go on for years. If it turns into a major thing, your sister will most likely side with him, and that's something you don't really want to risk. If he acts up, someone will deal with him, and you shouldn't be bothered with any of it. Just enjoy your day.

They are married. You need to invite him. Your sister CHOSE to marry him so I'm thinking telling her that you think her husband is a giant @%&# and thus you aren't inviting him to the wedding would cause a bit of an issue between you and your sister.

Your sister is going to side with her husband (I would certainly think) just like you would side with your FH if a family member (or anyone) said they were only inviting you because your FH was "blah blah insert insult here." It is not going to be pretty.