would it be rude to tell the dj to avoid taking song requests?

DJs do what the bride and/or groom wants in terms of the music, so if you don't want guests to make song requests, your DJ will make sure of it.

My DJ is having us make a "no play list" for songs we don't want played at all. Your DJ should be open to working with your wishes, including having no open requests to guests. Talk to your DJ, they're the pro they read the room and they can give you better guidance on this.

I specifically told my DJ to take requests even if it was on my do not play list, and that did happen. Just because Bruno Mars makes my skin crawl doesn't mean I don't want my aunt Susie to be able to jam out to her favorite song. My guests enjoyment was way more important.

Our Dj said he uses his best judgement and reads the crowd if someone asks for a song it may come up just not as soon as maybe they would hope if it doesn't fit the current vibe

I plan to ask in that in that RSVP. A friend had that feature in hers & it was very fun. She mentioned "J promise to dance if you play.." That way, you can research the songs you don't know about & from there. A lot of work but its necessary if you want the DJ to honor your wishes while making sure they have a good time at the same time.

No it's your wedding!

This was actually one of the first things my DJ asked. Yes If you do not want request tell him not to take any.

I kinda think it's rude...I feel if you're guests are requesting a song(s) they're gonna dance to it; why not let them. Plus you can just ask your dj not to take request that are inappropriate or crazy. Your choice in music might be different then the next persons & the last thing you want is a boring party & guests leaving.

I think you could have it both ways with everyone coming out happy. If you let your guests know your theme or have a pre-approved list your guests can choose from, that way your guests feel as though they were a bigger part of your special night (because honestly most people who ask for a song just want to be a bigger part of the night or help make it something special). Good luck of your fh side toasts though lol.

No, that's not rude. That was one of the first questions our DJ asked us was whether we would want to take requests or not.

It's your day and if anything, I think the DJ would be thrilled to not be bombarded with requests during the reception. The one thing I would recommend is making sure the playlist contains a good variety, making sure to hit different genres that all guests can enjoy. If you don't mind requests, but don't want them the day of, you can also do what we are doing and put it on the invitation! We are going to have a line that says something along the lines of "I promise to dance if you play..." or "it isn't a party unless you play..." . Either way, the day is all about you and do whatever makes you happy

Our DJ said he wouldn't take requests from guests if it didn't flow right at the time (aka kill the dance party), or he would wait and play it later. I liked the idea, but I had bridesmaids and friends running up to me requesting me to ask the DJ for the songs because he refused to play them. Because they were the majority of our guests dancing, I had to keep requesting songs so people would keep dancing. So, in short, yea make sure they take requests within reason.