Worried about pictures

Chin on a shelf. Best thing I can tell you on trying to get rid of the double chin. Your photographer will also coach you through the photos, and a good one won't let you get by without smiling.

Try not to worry.

Thanks for the advice. I'm sure things will be fine, but I am always worried over something

I apparently get a "posey face" often in pictures when I try to hold my head at the most flattering angle. Our photographer during our e-session really loosened me and FH up ano I didn't even think about it. She made us so comfortable! The deciding factor to hire her as our wedding photographer was based on that.

I have a resting angry face too! Don't worry, your photographer will handle it! Try to remember that EVERYONE has insecurities and things they are worried about in pictures and it's the photographers job to catch you in the best most natural poses to make you look your best. You'll be great!

I get accused of the fake smile or cheesy grin in pictures. Hoping mine turn out good.

Thanks for the reassurance. I forgot about my fake smile too. My FH said that the photographer will make sure every picture looks good. I just need to stop stressing over this.

Are you doing an engagement shoot with your photographer at all? That's a good opportunity to learn their style and for them to learn about you guys, as well as to help you get comfortable.

I also have an angry resting face and have the same concern. I wish I had some advice for you, but I'm still working on an answer to this myself! At least know you aren't alone.

I too suffer from resting B*tch Face. However, I'm not super worried. When FH proposed, his father was there to take pics. And I looked naturally happy in them because I was happy!! I'm sure our engagement photos and especially our wedding photos will be the same.

Hopefully it'll be this way for you too. You won't have a million people saying "Smile, it's a sunny day." or whatever because you'll be smiling without really thinking about it.

I feel your discomfort. I have Bell's palsy, so half my face has muscle weakness from the nerve damage and I can't smile normally anymore. If I try to smile, it looks awful. So I have to practice a "relaxed" face. This is my biggest fear about the wedding--that I will ruin every photo we take. Very frustrating.

I didn't realize how offensive it was to tell someone to smile until a friend flipped her ever loving shit over it. and then i started to think about it and ... she wasn't wrong. also, while i don't have resting bitch face, i do have this thing where 98% of my pictures come back with me looking stoned because i invariably blink at the wrong time. my profile pic? one of thirty. THIRTY. I WAS TAKING THE PICTURE. how on EARTH did I blink 29 other times?!?!

your photographer is going to be genius and give you some very awesome pictures. try not to stress it

Here's the thing. Your photographer will take around 1000 pictures from the day. Yeah, some of them will suck. You probably won't even see those. You'll be fine!!

No worries. Your photographer will sift through all the pictures and the ones that s/he caught you off guard with your rest bitch face s/he will not edit it and put it out for everyone to view. There will be a ton of posed pictures with smiling happy faces. Most your pictures will be posed, with your photographer coaching you through it all. I'd also bet that you'll be so happy and busy with everything going on (you'll be on cloud 9) that your resting bitch face will be on vacation that day. Don't think to much of it. Relax, enjoy your day, HAVE FUN!

Another sufferer from bitchy resting face here. Ha! Your photog is a professional and will capture so many pics that I'm sure you'll have some wonderful shots from which to choose. Try to put it out of your mind!

I have resting bitch face too! I hate when people tell me to smile too! Well FH is allowed because I don't want to look grumpy at certain events (namely with his family) and I tell him to remind me when I start looking bitchy and I'll try to smile.

My biggest worry about photos is during our vows and how much I HATE my profile view. My nose is a slight bother but not as much as my neck. I don't really have a double chin for front pictures but it appears as though I have no jaw line in photos. I honestly don't know how a photographer will be able to fix this. Any tips from anyone?

I suffer from it too. Thankfully our photographer is great at making us laugh and makes for good pictures. I highly suggest an engagement shoot just to get to know your photographer.

I suffer from it too. Thankfully our photographer is great at making us laugh and makes for good pictures. I highly suggest an engagement shoot just to get to know your photographer.

A good photographer is going to coach you through this. Don't worry about it. Schedule an e-session with your photographer asap. It'll help get the butterflies out of the way, and once you see yourself in their photos, I think you'll relax about the wedding. Ask one of your bridesmaids (that you are getting along well with to stand right near the photographer and just talk to you. You'll loosen up and the pictures will be much more candid. If you're feeling stiff and "pose-y" tell your photographer - they'll switch things up. Talk to your FH, whisper secrets that will make him laugh (ask him to do the same). Have a sip of champagne (but not too much). Put on your favorite music in the background while you are getting ready.

It'll be great!

I have this fear as well and mostly I have an awkward smile. I hate my smile when I'm posing too much or straight on. Our photographer assured me that on your wedding day you are usually so happy and emotional that you cant stop smiling. He also hates really posed portrait style pictures so he said that we will mostly just be doing what were doing and he will get good pictures.

I know what you mean... I hate side photos, too, due to a thick neck (thatis why I chose this profile photo - thank you, jacket collars!) I also have a permanent muffin top thanks to abdominal surgery that shifted my weight around and healed oddly, so I hate photos of me sitting, too.

Our engagement photographer took around 600-800 photos, and sent us around 300 of the best. I was devastated the first time I saw them... I *hated* the way I looked. It didn't help that it rained partway through the shoot, and my hair became stringy and frizzy! I found about a half-dozen I loved.

I set them down, cried, and didn't look at them for a few days. Then, I looked again.

What I saw was an insanely happy, disgustingly in-love couple smiling back at the camera.

I stepped back and looked at the photos as someone who loves us would look at them - they would see the happiness on our faces, they would see the tenderness of the embrace, the beautiful setting, and they would not even register my thick neck, or the roll around my mid-section... they would saw "awwww! you look so beautiful!" and mean it. Because love makes us all look beautiful.

Do I love all the photos now? Nope. Do I enjoy looking at all of them and revisiting that day? Absolutely. And ultimately having a few dozen photos that I do love is really all I need.

But really - how many 'perfect' photos do we need?

Maybe if you set an expectation in your mind: that you will have 3-4 photos of you and FH that you love, and that's it, and you're okay with that, it will help you feel better about the photos overall. Set your expectations, so you don't assume disappointment and then make it a reality.

I've done photography myself for a long time, as a hobby. I took around 3000 photos in Mongolia, and of those I'd say there are about 350 that are 'print-worthy'. That's 1/10th of the photos. The reason a photographer takes thousand of photos is not so you have thousands of photos, it's so you have a few dozen, or a hundred if you're lucky that you love love love, and captures the joy of the moment.

A practical note on poses:

There are some poses you can request from your photographer, or possibly even do 'test run' if he/she is open to this... one is, photo of you taken over FH's shoulder resting your chin on his shoulder... Having the photog stand on steps and take profile photo of you and FH from the side from slightly above - the height will bring your jawline into sharper focus, so even from above you'll have a more refined jaw... photos of you and FH sitting down on the ground, taken from above for the same reason - see below). You may want to have a small but secure stepladder available at the venue, for your photog to use for staged photos, in case there's not going to be a staircase. This also lets him/her take photos of everyone from an aeriel view, without having to hold the camera over their head which means they can't really control the group/candid photos.