Worried about in laws meeting each other

No advice, but my FH and I are in the same boat. He's worried his family isn't "classy" enough for mine. I think it will be just fine though. Good Luck!

A past fiancé of mine had his parents meet mine. They had nothing in common besides us but they were both told that this was important so they managed. They talked about how shiny my parent's hardwood floors were for hours because they had nothing else to talk about.

OMG...that's exactly how my FH feels!

I do not think there's a way to regulate adults' behavior, except with law enforcement. Our families are very different too, but we counted on their ability to behave politely and focus on what's important - us getting married.

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FH's family and my family are really different. I grew up in more of a country environment (the first time he met my family he was out shooting skeet with my 14 year old cousin...) and his family is more city like and formal (the first time I ate dinner there we used gold silverware and real napkins...whereas my family usually uses paper plates lol).

But when our parents met each other, things went great. They got along amazingly and it wasn't awkward or anything. My advice is to just relax and try to enjoy yourselves. I hope everything goes good for you guys!!

I'm kind of afraid for the same thing. Mom says they have to meet first. His parents are very supportive and are very traditional and and I'm sure matts told them the issues I've had with my parents, so im kind of worried too.

Oh and mines not supportive at all. Moms everything's her way or no way and they'd much rather spend the money getting the patio torn out and replaced because she wants a bigger one than to do my wedding stuff...

Oh and mines not supportive at all. Moms everything's her way or no way and they'd much rather spend the money getting the patio torn out and replaced because she wants a bigger one than to do my wedding stuff...

Bring out photo albums of you and FH. That will keep the parents oohing and ahhing over what cute babies you were!

If they start steering into unwanted territory, start talking about the wedding (centerpieces, linens, other neutral stuff, etc.).

My FH's family and my family are close. My grandparents just celebrated their 50th anni and my FH family came to the vow renewal.

Don't worry you always think that the worst will happen but everyone will be on their best behavior

The only thing I can tell all you ladies is dh and I put it off all the way until the week of the wedding. We were so nervous because our families are total complete oppi. Probably couldn't get Any different and that made us very very nervous. We didn't think they would get

Along because of what my parents knew about dh childhood and how horrible of parents his were and what he had to put up with in his life. But when the day finally came it wAs beyond awkward and there were those

Silent moments that felt like an eternity but for the most part it was okay. Everyone got along

For us. And they probably will do the same for you! Make it quick though, nothin to long lol except for like the wedding and all!

The ONLY reason that FH's parents met mine before the wedding is because we were very careful to not let his mom know that my parents were going to be at our daughter's birthday party. Every time before that she found my folks were coming, she'd have something going on her schedule pop up the next day or so. She had to be tricked into meeting my parents. She hardly spoke to them, since there were so many people, but said she thought they were very sweet and polite (and she has no idea where I get my bossy rudeness from). hehehe Let's say my daddy was well behaved.

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I'm definitely nervous for FH family to meet mine but I'm sure they will be fine for the sake of you two! Me and FH families are definitely different...I can see my father and his father getting along but his mother and my mother....not a chance! His mom is too judgmental and so is my mom...wait they have that in common lol so I guess they will be judging each other quietly and we will hear about it later when they finally do meet

This is your chance for you to let your parents know that FH is now your most important relationship (if they haven't figured that out, already). You say, "Mom, I know you haven't met Fh's parents before, but they will be my family soon. I love you and I love FH and he loves his parents and we want to be able to spend special days with all of you."

Topics you might try are books, movies, TV shows, what you and FH were like as kids, how everyone reacted when they heard you were engaged (unless someone was upset or angry about it).

Good luck!