Worried about dancing or lack of...

@JennBell, this is my worry too!!! We have invited 60 people, and a mix of both our age and an older crowd. I hope and pray that the "our age" group will get the party started!! Our reception (including dinner) is from 2-6.. here to hoping!

I totally understand where you are coming from..

I have seen some RSVP cards that include "Will dance if you play ______"

This could be a good way of letting your DJ know what kind of crowd he/she is playing to! It also would get your guests in the mindset of dancing to envision a song they WOULD get up and dance to.

Ours is from 3 to 8. I'm really hoping that everyone has fun and enjoys the celebration. I'm also hoping that the fun songs like the macaroni (spelling?) Help. We plan to play a variety of music....but I still worry. Ironically this is the only thing that seems to be causing me to worry or stress.

This is my biggest fear. We have estimated 60 guests, mostly family. I'm hoping our younger friends get it poppin'

Addison: that sounds like a good idea. I know we can only have about 20 pre-requested songs, but it may give the DJ a better idea of what to play.

I went to a wedding last week where it was a bit of an older crowd and a handful of twenty-somethings. No one danced the first half hour with the pop music, the DJ did his job, figured it out and played the "right" songs to cater to the crowd and an hour later people were dancing! Have trust in the people you hire!

We had a smaller wedding (50 people). Had on our rsvp a spot for song requests. Also included a mix of top hits from previous decades. Everyone was dancing including my 89 year old grandmom.

I worried about this too (probably one of the main things I worried about) our wedding was also under a hundred ( 87 was total I think.... ) an older crowd mostly, a few younger and some in between and it was just fine! Trust me, you really don't worry about it as much as you think once the night starts as you're very busy socializing. Even if only few people dance and you are having fun....trust me you won't care!! :+)

I worry about this a lot too but I'm trying to just avoid the thought when it starts getting to me. I'm not big on dancing or parties to begin with but I really want to dance at my wedding and it will feel terrible for me if no one else is up and dancing too. We specifically requested 80s and 90s music as the main focus to try and make people want to dance as that is the music for most of our age groups. I think the best thing is to request music you know they'll want to dance to, and also to make sure you and BP are up and moving because that will help encourage a lot of others to do the same.

Thank you guys! I feel so much bettr, and relieved to know I'm not the only one that worries about this.

I'm doing trophies for best dancers. My family is competitive. They will dance lol.

OP you just took the words right out of my mouth. I'm also in the same boat...I'm glad someone asked. Thanks for the advice ladies

I second what Kate says, make sure you have a DJ who can read the crowd and has a good variety of music from the 50's through today. The Rat Pack / Motown can do amazing things and trite but true line-dance music can also help (Electric Slide, Loco-motion, Cha-cha Slide, Conga) and let people feel less inhibited. Harry Belafonte music seems to do all of the above for all people...and also Limbo Rock! Long live Chubby Checker.

People need to feel free to be silly. Find songs that let your crowd do this!

Don't underestimate the oldies!

I love all the suggestions! I know my bridal party will dance. FH'S Best Man swing dances for fun, so we thought Zoot Suit Riot would be fun. Even if no one else knows how to swing dance. I know our DJ has been doing this for a while and should know how to read the room. It's just one of those silly fears that grabs hold and doesn't let go. I really do appreciate all the great ideas!

I think lots of us have that fear Jenn. When I've been talking to friends who are attending my wedding, I've been making them promise they will dance! If you & FH are dancing, guests will generally follow and as I said, older people can get down too. Especially at a wedding.

This is my FHs biggest fear. I know my family and friends very well and they love to dance. The entire night. My FHs family and friends on The other hand are boring lol. We have went to at least 3 weddings in his family and no one danced. It was horrible. The first thing I told my dj is if no one is dancing switch the song

I thought about that too, but we will see in August

If you have the right DJ or band...they'll dance. Oh yeah, a cocktail helps too. Without either, guests don't know what you want them to do....part of the science is call to action. Often the best dancers I've seen are parents and even grandparents...

You're not alone! I've had the same fear especially since ours is a daytime/brunch wedding. All my friends love to dance though so if we are the only ones out on the floor, so be it