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Workplace Invitations WHAT TO DO?!?!

Shannon , on January 15, 2013 at 6:53 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I work in an area with app. 25 people. There are two areas, processing and the office. I work inside the office and two years ago, a woman from the office got married but did not invite everyone to the wedding. I believe she mailed the invitations individually (I was not invited obviously lol). Anyhow, I am working out last minute invite lists so that I can have it ready and I am struggling with the work invitations. I don't think everyone will come to the wedding even if I did send them an invitation, but unfortunately I work with a lot of women who love to talk and gossip (which is a problem in itself) and I know if I don't invite everyone word will get around. I thought about sending individual invitations to those who I am closest to, but then posting one invitation up somewhere at work. My FH said don't invite any of them (they aren't all very nice to me) but I really don't want to be "that girl." What should I do???

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Latest activity by Christina, on January 15, 2013 at 12:19 PM

Master March 2013
tiedaknot™ · on January 15, 2013 at 6:58 AM
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Do you do anything outside of work with any of them? If not, I would not invite any of them. If you do spend time outside of work with any of them I would send them an invitation. They will talk/gossip no matter what you do.
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Ashley · on January 15, 2013 at 7:24 AM
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I solved that problem by not inviting any of them. I work for a larger company but my program is very small and it would be very obvious if inonly invited a few of them.
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Mrs. S™ · on January 15, 2013 at 8:23 AM
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Obviously you aren't really close to any of them, otherwise it wouldn't be a dilemma. A wedding is a social, and for most people not a professional function. Don't invite anyone from work and all the problems are solved. Being "that girl" is actually going to be a smart choice.
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Shannon · on January 15, 2013 at 8:23 AM
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Well I am close to a few people that I work with, for the most part I don't consider everyone a "friend" but I guess at the end of the day, I have to decide who is important enough to invite or not to invite, lol. I mean I think more than anything I do want some people there and you are right, they are going to gossip and talk no matter what I do!
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We'llAlwaysHaveParis · on January 15, 2013 at 9:45 AM
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I am not inviting any of my coworkers. I work for a huge company though and while I have been invited to a few weddings, it's not typical. I just feel like I had to invite my entire dept or none at all so I'm going with none at all.
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WasSoon2BMrsSmith · on January 15, 2013 at 12:03 PM
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Don't invite anyone.
People understand a wedding is a personal thing. do you really want people at your wedding talking work not socializing with yoru actual friends and family.
I invited no-one from work. They still had me a little work shower and baked cupcakes and asked to see pics.

I also work with about 25 ladies (nursing office)
A few have gotten married and invited the people they hang out with outside of work. I don't hang out with any outside work.

If you are planning on inviting someone from work make sure it's someone you have an outside reallife relationship with.
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Married · on January 15, 2013 at 12:15 PM
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I would invite the coworkers that you have formed friendship with. I can relate to your situation. My department is about 25 people as well, and I invited 5 of my coworkers, which is alot after including their spouses! But I did not invite everyone, hopefully those who were not invited will be adults about it and realize that you can not possibly invite your entire office, that would just be crazy!
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Christina · on January 15, 2013 at 12:19 PM
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I am inviting 4 people from work; no one from my immediate team (I am a supervisor of 4 employees). The ones I did invite are three close friends and one former supervisor who I knew would be happy to come. I like a lot of people at work but I don't think anyone thinks twice about not being invited. If they do, oh well...I wouldn't expect to be invited if it was the other way around (except one of the girls I invited is getting married the same month as me and I'm going to her wedding too). But generally I wouldn't.
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