wording my invitations to not sound like a jerk

Its safer to say 2 seats have been reserved in your honor. If you number it people should get the idea. Good luck

Wow i really like that idea thanks!

Not rude at all! Tons of couples ask for no kids. It is very common. Although plus 1s can be a controversial issue, I'd say if you can't afford it that you just have to not offer it on your invites.

I found some wonderful suggestions on this page. Hope it helps.

http://www.magnetstreet.com/wedding-blog/truly-engaged-adults-only-wedding-wording

How about "Due to the nature of our small wedding, we are only able to accommodate the guests named on the invitation"

Hey sweetie,

On my RSVP's, there's a little disclaimer at the bottom that says:

"Since we are blessed with so many people who love and support us, we ask that you limit your party to invited guests only."

I think the # of seats have been reserved is a great idea!

Also on my RSVP card I have number of Adults attending.

You can also incorporate the wording of Intimate Ceremony, hopefully reinforcing the idea of limited guests.

Best wishes.

I'd put adult reception somewhere in there so that they know and fill out the number of guest that are allowed. It's YOUR wedding! YOURE paying for it if they don't like it then hey ! lol

We put “adult reception to follow,” on the invite to clarify adults only.

And I attached what we did for the RSVP card…

No issues yet!

I vote for "We have reserved __ seats in your honor."

Anything else, I think is rude because it very plainly assumes your guests will be inappropriate. So I wouldn't put, "Invited guests only" anywhere, no matter how politely you phrase it.

If anyone sends back an RVSP with additional guests, call them up and say, "I'm so sorry for the misunderstanding, but the invitation is for [guests] only." If anyone threatens to decline if they can't bring the uninvited guests, say, "We're sorry to hear that, and if that's the case, then we will miss you."

So I know a lot of people get offended by something like this because it isn't "proper"...but I decided I didn't care and this is what I did...I had an additional insert which stated the no kids rule as well as the RSVP card saying we have X seats reserved for you

Thank you everyone! I just got them made and they are beautiful i ended up putting Since we are blessed with so many people who love and support us, we ask that you limit your party to invited guests only as Tatiana suggested i uploaded a pic of the front.. on the back it just says the address and the above. I blanked out our names because fh asked me to

Awww YAY I helped!!!! :-D xoxo

ETA: Love it!!!!

Ditto what Loren A Futr J said. That is exactly what we did, and we've had no problems so far. We're still waiting on "lots" of RSVPs, but no problems so far.

I literally wrote on my RSVP cards "Respectfully only named guests are invited please" and hand-wrote who I wanted to attend on the envelopes

If neither of you have a job, I probably wouldn't be planning a wedding at all. Maybe one at the courthouse, or a cake and punch at a park pavilion, but nothing where I'd worry about people bringing random guests.