Will I be missing out on the experience?

As someone who didn't want the big hoopla of the wedding we are having because we didn't want to spend the money, I don't think you'll be missing out on the "experience" at all. I just thought of this earlier this week as well. We wanted a small wedding, I wanted to get married in our families hometown, but I was convinced to have the wedding locally. Well.... let's just say, even though my parents have helped with half, and my FH and I have only spent $1000 above what we said we wanted to spend, it's still a hard pill to swallow. Yes, the day will be fun... but I have had a TON of anxiety planning this wedding because it's not the wedding I wanted.... I've cried a lot, I've been super overwhelmed, and I wish I would have followed my heart and not had this huge wedding at home. We still would definitely take the once in a lifetime honeymoon we are taking, but we would have rather had more money to buy a house and build a home that will have recurring memories as opposed to now having a smaller down payment on a house and not being able to get what we really want in that realm. I think if you both agree you want a small simple day, there is a ton you can do to still make it special. It's about YOU both not about everyone else. I'm a little over 2 weeks out from our wedding... and what kills me is that people who have no business being at our wedding because they haven't supported our relationship over the last 8 years or swore we wouldn't last are all asking to come to our wedding because 1.) It's a free party with open bar and a DJ and 2.) It's a free meal. It's sad to say, but it's absolutely the truth... I have people on his side of the family trying to use our wedding as their family reunion... asking to invite family on their side we don't know, have never met, or are in no way related to us... so basically we would be footing the bill for their event. (Sorry mini vent here).

Take the time to really think about is this what you both want? Keep it simple. Keep it simple. Keep it simple! The most simple wedding days are always the most memorable and beautiful!

Remember, it isn't a choice between a big blowout and a five minute no-frills at the courthouse. There's lots of in-betweens. Maybe a ceremony at a pretty but private location with your closest friends and family, followed by a restaurant meal, a garden party or a fun but intimate BBQ could be a good compromise for you both.

@kathleen well said! Love your response.