Why We Disagreed on a Seating Chart

Do not go without at least assigning tables. Your reception will be a huge clusterfuck with people trying to walk around and find seats on their own. That to me would be even more awkward.

I at least recommend assigning tables.

Assign tables. do you have rounds?

Im in an interracial relationship as well. We are still doing a seating chart. But we are intermingling our families. Eta: Just to clarify, we are not intermingling our families just to avoid having things appear segregated. We genuinely want out families to meet and get to know eachother.

Another interracial relationship here. We assigned tables as well. Please reconsider doing a sitting chart.

Don't blame the seating chart for your decision-making.

At least assign tables. I've been to two wedding receptions without and they were a clusterfuck.

Could you assign tables in a way that mixes your family and his? Like maybe put a few couples (without kids) from both sides at the same table, etc.

FH and I are interracial and have put zero thought into whether or not seating would look segregated. Honestly, I don't think it matters at all. People will know which is the Bride's Family and which is the Groom's family and won't be thinking it looks racially divided. I also wouldn't mix tables with both his family and yours just to make it look racially mixed. People are going to prefer to sit with people that they know. FH and I, without considering race, assigned tables (not seats) and did a table, of his family, a table of mine, a table of his, etc etc. At least then people get to sit with people they know and the room isn't divided white people on one side of the room and black people on the other. Lol

Trex, I'm glad someone else realizes that it is, in fact, a clusterfuck!

I've also had this concern. I plan on mixing everyone up but trying to sit people with similar personalities near each other. Since our families are both from different states this is the one time everyone will be all together

@FutureMrsWhitmans idea is awesome. Have each person with tables of those they know and stagger the tables, then people can meet others and still be seated with those they know.

MsToMrsArmstrong - yup.

Wedding 1: My husband's niece. When we get to the reception, we see only four tables for family - and there are WAYYYY more family members than that. So we just kind of stand around, unsure if it's for immediate or us, too. But someone says it's for immediate only, and we go to find a spot. By that time, all of the tables on the bottom floor are full, so we go to the second floor/loft. None of those tables are even set. Meanwhile, the MOG is on the first floor, waving us to come down. We do, and she says we're to sit with them. By the time we sit and all that, we've missed the passed apps. And the people upstairs are still confused.

Wedding number 2: A coworker. After an outside wedding in July in Texas, we go inside to the reception. HOWEVER, all of the tables say reserved. So many of us go to the bar, unsure. I finally ask a waitress, and she said that the tables are for VIPs only and everyone else has to sit at the outside seating. We get there, and there are no reserved seats or tables, so we awkwardly stand until people take the initiative, count chairs, turn chairs over to reserve spots before going to the buffet, etc.

Confusing.

T-Rex- the second wedding story made me cringe. They basically said "sorry you're not important enough to me to have inside". How rude!

I am also in an interracial relationship - we will be assigning tables, even though it's a smaller wedding. We have placed some of our guests together that don't know each other so that everyone can get to know each other. There are a few tables of just cousins or just a large group of best friends, but for the most part, we're trying to encourage as much getting to know each other as possible. Try not to focus too much on it looking segregated, people will naturally mingle.

Have a seating chart. People will get to know each other.

My whole family is mixed. Mom's white, dad's black. All my brothers married white women, and at my Bros wedding earlier this month they didn't even realize their seating assignments had the room segregated. Our side of the family (which is mostly all my dad's people since my mom was adopted) was darker than my SILs side. My brother came over to me during the reception all worried that it looked bad. I hadn't even noticed until he pointed it out and no one else mentioned it before he did. I say all that to say, even if it is segregated, the likelihood anyone will be paying attention is very low lol. We were all focused on my brother and SIL, their dances and toasts. Once the dancing started we weren't in our seats much anymore anyway.

I have to say that after 1500 or so weddings, many of which were mixed races, I'e never even noticed this.

Do a seating chart.