Why is it so hard for people to rsvp these days?

I can't honestly answer, but maybe they trying to figure out their plans. You did mail it out to early. You still have time. So try not to stress.

Forget them it's your day you have plenty of things to worry about than chasing down everyone. I know for a fact that I will not be trying to verify if people are coming because if they don't respond they will not have a seat and I mean that!!!

Everyone is saying that the invites went out too early. When should they be sent then? Maybe its because I am a teacher and teachers start planning their summers in November that I have been rushing to get my invites done when my wedding isnt until July... granted I'm only inviting immediate family so its more of a fun formality than out of actual need.

MrsMcFly, then you may very well have unexpected guests at your wedding and unexpected charges as well. If you stick around this forum, you will read stories about brides and grooms who didn't follow up with their guests who didn't RSVP and it turned out either they forgot to RSVP and showed up anyway OR their RSVP got lost in the mail and they showed up anyway.

Elle, invites should be sent 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Usually, final numbers are due by the caterer 2 weeks before the event, so most people make the RSVP deadline 4 weeks before the event. That gives them 2 weeks to call the people who didn't RSVP before sending in final numbers.

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You are hosting a party. You have invited people to that party. Sometimes it's not the guest's fault that you didn't get the RSVP. Our mail has never been as awful as when we were doing wedding invites. Out of the 5 people I had to contact to ask if they were coming, 3 had sent their RSVP WEEKS before I called. And I got them eventually but much later. People are generally not trying to stick you or screw you (I say generally because I did have one guest try to do that) and if the RSVP doesn't get to you in time it's an honest mistake or mail error.

Be a good host and follow up. If I showed up to your wedding and had RSVPd and didn't have a seat or a meal I would be extremely hurt. I had uninvited guests show up and I THOUGHT I would be really hurt and angry, but it did nothing to affect my day - I just had the venue move chairs around to accommodate from guests that did not show and it felt good to be a gracious host rather than cause a scene.

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This is where STDs and word of mouth comes in. My friends who have been married out of state have told us WAY in advance and we typically have our flights, rooms and cars booked months before the invites go out but the invites still go out about two months before the wedding.

We sent ours about three months before the wedding because we did not do STDs and people were getting confused about the date (10/7/17 - even I once argued with a vendor that it was the 17th.... it was not). It did cause more problems with the RSVP because people felt like they had more time than normal. That was our mistake so I would use word of mouth and STDs rather than send invites early.