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I think it's about choice. I don't think there's anything wrong with them asking because of their vision. You have the choice to comply or not go.

I don’t think they expect people to go buy stuff either though? I’ve been to weddings where they ask for cocktail attire: men in slacks & jackets, etc. I think they know not everyone will have a full on suit ya know but it’s just something that kind of is like if you have it. Or please also try to dress nicer than normal. I asked for semi formal attire IF possible.


But it is what it is not everyone follows because they don’t have to. It’s just something preferred.

Is this maybe the dress code of the venue? I have been to a rehearsal dinner that required jackets and ties, just because that was the dress code requirements of the venue the rehearsal was held at.

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It's at a church so I can't imagine that church requires people to wear floral printed sundresses in light colors.

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I own plenty of nice dresses, but none of them are floral printed and light colors. I just think it seems a little too specific for just a rehearsal dinner.

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I could understand a wedding, but for a rehearsal seems a bit much. I am already flying to across the country several days before the wedding with my husband for him to attend the bachelor party while I hang out by myself so I would like to go to the rehearsal.

View Quoted Comment If you read it again, it doesn’t say the sundresses have to be floral print. There are commas after each listed item. So sundresses of any kind would be OK.

That doesn’t seem unreasonable to me at all, they’re probably just being specific because they want you to feel appropriately dressed. I just listed “semi formal” as our wedding attire and SO many of my friends reached out and were like “can you be more specific? Is this dress ok?” etc. Most women own sundresses so I don’t think they expected you to buy something new

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I don't own a sundress of any kind to begin with. The floral thing doesn't even make sense because they ask for sundresses and for guys to wear light dress shirts so I'm not sure where the floral fits in other than maybe them wanting floral sundresses.

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I unfortunately am not most women in this situation. I don't really like sundresses so I don't own any. I agree with being specific for a wedding, but for the rehearsal I think is unnecessary.

I think you are reading WAY too much into this. If you don't want to follow the rules, then don't go--no one is FORCING you. It's simple as that. BTW, the dress code isn't by any means unreasonable.

View Quoted Comment The rehearsal dinner is a photo op, and part of their memories intended to last a lifetime. I'm not lost on what you're already spending but if it was something you were passionate about you would feel a little different.

View Quoted Comment Do you not own a dress? I think the specificity was probably more just a guideline to help you fit in with the vibe of the dinner. Doesn’t seem like a demand or anything to me.

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The dresses I own are very dark colored because I don't really like light colors. They are also more business attire dresses rather than summerly or anything like that.

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I happen to disagree that what people wear to a rehearsal dinner is that big of a deal. I got married 8 months ago and never once did I care about a photo op moment for my rehearsal dinner.

View Quoted Comment Would you feel comfortable wearing those dresses to this dinner when everyone else is dressed in sundresses and such?


Like I said, I think the point is to avoid you feeling uncomfortable

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I've just never heard of being so specific for a rehearsal dinner. I honestly can't imagine being comfortable in a sundress as I don't like them so either way I would be uncomfortable.

I think it just means a more casual dress for girls and that guys don’t need a sports coat. We didn’t dictate attire for our welcome party but we had a ton of people ask us what they should wear. The guidelines you posted sounds like what most people wore to ours.

View Quoted Comment So then just wear what you want 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I am not going to spend a bunch of money to fly across the country not to attend. I personally don't think there needs to be a dress code for a rehearsal dinner that goes beyond like semi-formal or formal or something like that. I don't think you need to make it well we want everyone in floral or everyone in this or that. It's just a rehearsal dinner. I have no problem wearing whatever they want at the wedding, but the rehearsal should be a little more laid back.