Why I won't lose weight for the wedding!

So much yes!!!!! I didn't diet or lose weight for our wedding either. Of course, I watched my intake to avoid gaining weight, but that was for the sole purpose of making sure my dress still fit well.

Edit: I also agree with O&S in that one should never lose weight for an event or someone else. If you feel the need to lose weight, it needs to be on your own terms.

I didn't read the article as being justifications for not losing weight. I saw it as an argument not to lose weight for an event. It goes against the trends and so many people were in awe when I would tell them I wasn't on a diet for the wedding. It's silly.

I think a lot of people want to lose weight before the wedding because it'll make them feel happier. If that isn't your jam then no big deal, but I personally feel better physically and emotionally when i'm eating healthy and exercising.

To each their own; a woman should do what she wants to do go feel confident and beautiful on her wedding day. And I agree about the part about looking back and not recognizing yourself. But I say AMEN to this line! "I think the whole bridezilla thing is bullshit (planning a wedding is very stressful, especially for the person who does the majority of the planning, which is usually the woman! So maybe cut them some slack and knock it off with the bridezilla B.S.?)". I wasn't even planning and just basking in the gloriousness (yeah I made up a word) of my engagement when people already started asking me if I was going to be a Bridezilla. Seriously?!?

Some people need a specific event to motivate themselves to become healthier. I know looking at myself before I started trying on dresses made me realize that I am doing this for me and my confidence. But if someone loves how they look and feels great then good for them and congrats!

It's so hard not to buy into the idea that being a bride means being toned and thin. I try to fight it, but sometimes it does get the best of me. The good news is that FH loves me at any size.

Uh yeah. Has this person planned a wedding? Some of these reasons make no sense. You can taste at your tasting for example. It's called a tasting not a gorging. Also I reached my goal a month out and then had to STOP losing weight because of my final fitting, so I was not a "starving lunatic" on my wedding day.

I do agree that no bride should feel pressured to lose weight for her wedding because a bride can be beautiful at any size. I just don't like this article lol.

Having to wear my dress & take photos I'll likely look at occasionally for the rest of my life have been motivators to get healthy. I'm not looking to drop a crazy amount of weight but I definitely want to start my marriage off on a healthy note! It would be pretty extreme to become "unrecognizable". I feel like this article was a little dramatic for what it was.

I'm annoyed at the idea you can't want to improve/change or be a better you and still love yourself and be okay with how ever you are the day of.

It's like the two things are mutually exclusive. You either become enslaved to some random idea got have to 'look perfect the day of' and it means it shallow and vain... Or you have stay as you are to love yourself.

Because clearly no middle ground exists where you can love yourself and still want to make changes.

So annoying.

@JoRocka

I think if you want to start married life with healthier habits, that's awesome and an excellent goal. Crazy punishing workouts and fad diets/starving yourself or crash diets are always stupid. Doubly so when they make you miserable and unwell leading up to what's supposed to be a wonderful day.

I've been asked several times "How's your wedding diet going?" "Are you shedding for the wedding?" and told "I can't believe you ordered your dress before you got to your goal weight." Ummm... I'm not trying to be a particular weight for the wedding. To me that's entirely too much pressure. If I want to eat healthy and lose a few pounds it'll be for myself - NOT so I can have pictures of me looking skinny. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look your best or feel your best on your wedding day, and I'm not putting down any brides that do specifically diet for their wedding. That's just not for me.

I have to agree with O&S and DesireeCox. FH and I decided to make a lifestyle change a year ago. The wedding was our motivator to loose weight, but not our main reason. I have a calorie goal I aim to stay under. If it's someone's birthday and I want cake, I eat it. I just factor it into my calories for the day. I definitely don't starve myself by any means. I know I won't be at my goal weight for the wedding, but I plan to continue to loose after the wedding until I hit that weight.

I do agree the article sounds more like justifications as to why a bride doesn't need to loose weight. If you are happy with your weight, I don't think there is any reason to go on a diet. But if the wedding gives you an excuse to make a lifestyle change and get healthier, then I think that a good thing.

Eta: words to make this make sense.

Wow I never saw the negative to this article. Personally I loved it because I feel like everyone feels like a bride should "sweating for the wedding". A seamstress I contacted was confused why I wanted to come in early because most brides want to lose weight. What? That made me upset. I'm happy with the way I look. Im a smaller person but when I had my daughter I had some body changes that weren't there before. I've grown to love my body. I don't think there's anything wrong in with wanting to be healthy. It was just nice to come across something that wasn't pushing "ways to lose weight before the wedding".

@Staci - I dunno about your tasting but MY tasting was a gorging! hahaha I felt sick, I ate so much. It was so good though!

@JoRocka - yes!

It sounds like the writer of the article has no idea how healthy diets work. Most encourage you to eat regularly. You're SUPPOSED to have lots of healthy and nutritious snacks and you're definitely NOT supposed to starve yourself.

Really, it's not even about dieting. It's just about eating healthy and staying active, but some people need a little more structure and guidance than that. Hence, diets. Nothing wrong with that!

I'm losing weight for my wedding and you can bet your ass I'm looking forward to the tastings. :-D But I definitely won't be hangry from starving myself so I can get skinnier. That doesn't even work. If you're *really* doing that, get help. That's not the right way to lose weight.

I think it is totally up to any bride whether she wants to lose weight on not as long as she does it on her own terms and for herself. I have watched what I eat because I am a hippy woman. My dress measurements were taken off my hips and I want me mermaid dress to fit perfect so the last thing I want is to gain more hip before my next fitting. I most walk a lot due to a shoulder injury that's keeping me from my other workouts at the moment.

I'm losing weight for me - the wedding was just the kick in the pants motivator that I've needed after I put it all on 6-7 years ago. Getting back to the old "me" and feeling good in my skin again has been an awesome experience.

@becomingamrs..Then say that. I told the plastic surgery people at the bridal event straight up. They were like we aren't improving obviously you're good looking we are just making what you have even better....

I turned slightly so she got a full side profile of my luscious ass and said I love the way I look right now. It doesn't need improvement. I'm great like I am. But thanks. No thanks.

I could get married tomorrow and be 100% fine with the way that I look. That being said, yes I'm trying to lose weight before the wedding, just because I want to lose weight in my normal life and having a deadline helps to motivate me. I don't feel like I should be treated like I'm a crazy, vain person for trying to lose weight.

Lol @Mac. Sure you COULD gorge yourself. But you don't have to