Alright ww family, I am going to be completely real with you. I know this discussion about asking for cash, for money for a honeymoon has always been a hot topic with much discussion and much controversy.
I am that guest you want at a wedding. Why? Because I give very generously. I am child free, make 6 figures, no debt, oh and I give anywhere from $300-800 minimum for a gift. No this isn't bragging, it's just the ideal situation for someone that has the ability to give large gifts. However, I do not give to Honeyfunds, or any other request for cash. poem. jar etc. You invite me to you wedding and dictate what I am allowed to give? You might get a nice piece of Fiesta Ware.
Why am I being hateful? I am not... I am sick of being probed for money. Every time I turn around, someone is asking me for money. I am a target for it, it's my own doing. Sometimes I give in (especially for animals), generally I don't. You want money for your honeymoon, have your MOH tell me. You want cash for a new stove, be modest and discrete. I am happy to give as much as possible to people that aren't asking me for it, with the justification that they are getting married. Sorry, lots of people get married...we can't suspend manners for us all. Lastly, I don't want to give money to some unknown company on the chance I am paying for an "experience". I work in network security, and their policies around privacy are iffy at most.
Look at it from another perspective. Your friends who are cash fund gung ho....are they giving hundreds of dollars? Or are you stuck in the $25-$50 dollar donation rut. That is the financial amount people feel "ok" to lose if a transaction goes bad (overdraft fees anyone?). Imagine how much more you would have gotten if you hadn't made a Zola cash registry a choice. TBH I had never heard of Zola before all this. As a guest, I certainly would not have given them money to be transferred to you.
