Why don't people RSVP!?

When was your RSVP date? Eee that's frustrating.

Because they are lazy and have no manners. There really isn't an excuse. How hard is it to check a box and put something in the mail?

I so agree! People RSVP for nothing anymore.

That would piss me off. I would let everyone know, if you didn't RSVP then don't come because there won't be a seat or meal for you.

I feel you!!!

I am still waiting on 32 of my RSVPs. There are four days left. You give people over a month, you give them a stamped envelope or postcard, how hard is it to send that thing back??? And the thing that really bugs me are all of the people who haven't returned their RSVPs that have gotten married in the past few years. Do they not remember how annoying it was when people didn't respond?

Yea, I think that is what I am going to do. I will say "Telling me verbally you are coming is not considered an RSVP, I am going to go through the mailed in RSVP's and take my number from that. Either mail yours in, or prepare to stand and watch others eat. I refuse to try to remember all of you who feel I should assume to know you are coming. Especially when I provided a very easy option for you to let me know."

I'm graduating in 2 weeks and my wedding is in a month...like I have TIME to remember this shit when I am writing papers/studying for exams/finalizing wedding plans. Oh, and working.

Because they're biatches... call some folks up! Check em' off. Only way you're gonna know for sure. It's a pain in the ass.. but we all eventually go through it and make this IDENTICAL post!

People think that the invitation is their license to just show up! It drove me bonkers for my wedding! The older people in my husband's family had no intention of RSVPing but were notorious for showing up to stuff. I had a sit down dinner and had to tell my caterer a number. Here is what I did and I hope it works for you. Your caterer makes extra plates, right? Ours made 10 extra. If the guest's name wasn't on the list then they got one of the extra 10 meal plates. Once the 10 were exhausted my coordinator told the guest they would be welcome to cake only. At the end of the day we ended up having so much extra food because people REALLY didn't show up. It was horrible. There were 25 wasted plates of food.

Ok..here's my advice...call/FB/do whatever you have to do to get the answers. (Make sure you get the spelling of the guests names and everything.) Put your SO and family on it.

I was an RSVP Nazi...I also sent mine out close to two months before (with the RSVP date one month before.) I told everyone, no RSVP-no seat. I made my husband be a dick about it too. Everyone laughed until I told them they would be getting a phone call at 6 am on a Sunday morning if I didn't get the RSVP by then. That threat actually worked really well. I guess I must be bitchier than I realize.

Anyway...you won't get 100 % of them back. If you know someone is definately accepting or declining start writing it down.

I know it absolutely sucks, and yes it is rude of these people. COMPLETELY. But you can't control what others do unfortuneately.

True, I think the threat of a 6am phone call might do the trick. Thanks!

I accidentally made my RSVP due date on a Sunday, so I am giving everyone until Tuesday before I start calling and emailing and Facebooking. My future mother in law says that people might be waiting to see what the weather is like. Umm...no. You either want to come or you don't. Any "maybe" or "I don't know" answer will be marked as a "no".

I'm up to about 100 with 60 still missing. I sent mine out on Halloween. I'm gonna start hounding people on facebook or text soon.

Cause they are fn ridiculous & inconsiderate.

I am so worried about this. Not looking forward to it at all...

Tell them there is a guest list...seriously! I went to a wedding and you had to RSVP to get your name on the list. There was a man at the door that would let you in, as long as you RSVP'd and were on the list....it was also useful because then they pushed the ceremony back a 1/2 hour because not everyone was there on time (including myself..it was in downtown LA and we got stuck in traffic)

It's hideously rude. I hate it.

HA and that is exactly why i put this question on my FAQ's page

1.) If I don't R.S.V.P. can I still come?

A.)Anyone who does not formally ( No text, social network messages: you must mail your response) R.S.V.P. by the deadline will not will not be counted in the final head count and may not have a place to sit.

Although I haven't gotten to the sending invites out but im letting it known no response no entry

I haven't sent out my invited yet but I already foresee this being a problem. I hate when people assume that I know they wouldn't miss it. Send the RSVP back so I know you got the invite and have all the info, have all of my numbers together, and so I don't pay for your plate when you don't show up or am not missing a plate for you when you come. We also have problems getting our mail. It goes to our neighbours upstairs and they don't always bring it down. I'm nervous for RSVP time!

Same thing here. people are just assholes. i cannot wait till they get married. karma is a beach.

Definitely was the most frustrating part of the whole process...next to those who said they were going to come and then dont!! UGH!!!