Why does nobody Rsvp?!??

View Quoted Comment Thank you! “People, ugh” is exactly how I’m feeling!

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Yes. I had my final count within a few days. If you think they won't respond then give them a second deadline like "if I don't hear from you by (enter date), then I will go ahead and mark you down as a "regretfully decline."

I would have to say, the RSVP portion is the most ANNOYING part!!!! At a certain point, I felt as though I was harrassing people! I don't get it either!

I had e-vites. I would remind people in person and sent out reminders the week before :-P I know it's a bit unconventional and (probably) pushy, but we had all but three households RSVP by the deadline.

Did you tell people on the invite that they needed to rsvp on the website? If it doesn't, my guess is a lot of people haven't even looked at the website to even know they needed to rsvp there, especially if they're older or not tech savvy. I'm pretty sure my grandma doesn't know how to turn on a computer, haha.

I FEEL YOU. i did the same with my website and sent out paper ones to older adults [who also do not speak english]. even to the young people who have access to electronics, they do not bother rsvping. we had a lot of people also verbally tell us and our parents of their rsvp. it's so annoying because people do not realize that maybe we want something to refer back to for our planning purposes. it is much harder to track all these verbal rsvps. we had a ton of people after our rsvp deadline not reply and some people told us why because they needed time to figure out their schedules or whatever other issue, but most people just either didn't or they verbally informed us.

i do not mind if they're a bit late, especially paper ones, but i do think it's rude when they don't even bother and you have to ask them about it.

You are preaching to the choir!!! I have the same RSVP date as you. All I ask people to do was to text me or email me. I cannot even tell you how many people have text me about everything else but the RSVP... nor have they mentioned that they have received the invitation. I am so disappointed in how people are these days. And honestly after this I don't think that I will be dealing with a lot of these people if they can't even take out the time to come help us celebrate our marriage. I am just outdone. I have heard from about 65 people out of a 130. Mind you most of the people I have not heard from our my direct family members. And I am just not going to sit here and call them and ask are you coming to my ceremony. Because honestly if they can't take out the time to text me and say Tina I got your invitation and yes I will be at your ceremony...then a don't care enough about me and in that case I don't want them there.

And know that sounds dramatic but that's how I feel at this point of period... lol. My honey's family immediately RSVP'd and are excited for us and I know they will actually come there and be there for us. My family and other hand just pretty much sucks.

Plus I've read some horror stories on fb that tons more ppl showed up then rsvpd and vice versa. Best advice I've seen is to not give out the venue address until AFTER they RSVP that way they have to actually contact you as opposed to making your invite an open invitation. wish l knew that a month ago. 👍😉

View Quoted Comment Oh ikr!!! Lol.

View Quoted Comment It is really hard not to take it personally!! But don't cancel. I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Ppl are just lazy jerk faces anymore. Lol😑

View Quoted Comment Yes, giving instructions on the paper invitations would have been the way to go, in my opinion. "Please RSVP on our website, www.ourweddingwebsite.com or call Mrs. Somebody at 123-456-7890 by June 1st, 2019."

When my aunt told me that she was sending out Evites for the bridal shower, I told her I was concerned. I know for a fact that I have at least two friends who are computer illiterate. They are my age and while they know how to post things on Facebook, they aren't good at navigating their email boxes. At my request, my aunt mailed out paper invitations to my guest list.

For my bachelorette, which was the night before my shower, my sister only sent out Evites. Two of the three women with computer illiteracy couldn't make it. Each of their mothers RSVP'd on their behalf for both the bachelorette and the shower. For the third one, I had to walk her through the RSVP process, step by step and show her how to respond in person.

For the rehearsal dinner, my FMIL sent out invitations on Minted. I gave the same friend instructions over the phone. FH just told me that she had RSVP'd, but she did it incorrectly. Instead of clicking on yes or no, she had left a comment saying that she was excited to come. From there, his parents figured out that she was a yes.

"Some of the people that RSVPd to his mom are young families that you think would be tech savvy."

"It’s funny, for a world so centered around technology, you think more people would be able to figure out a wedding website!"

My three friends are all in their thirties and each have at least one active Facebook account. For various reasons, they are just not good at computers. I have three wedding guests with this problem. Only three that I know about and they're all my age. We need to remember that not everyone is going to know how to do something just because we expect them to.

People are crazy but that's no excuse. It takes all of 10 seconds to check the box and be on your way.

Ughhhh. I'm not looking forward to this part of the process. I just don't think people understand how important RSVPs are.