Why does nobody Rsvp?!??

People just suck at RSVPing. Unfortunately, I was one of those people before I started planning my own wedding....I had no idea! We invited 245 people, and got less than half of the RSVP's before the deadline. Several of them trickled in on the deadline day and a few days later. Afterwards, we had to do follow up calls/texts to gather the rest.

Ugh! I'm so sorry! If it makes you feel any better, we sent save the dates (10 months out), invites (3 months out) AND included stamped/addressed RSVP envelopes IN ADDITION to the online RSVP option. We have 12 days left, and still have to hear from 90 people. I'm pretty confident we won't hear from all of them in under 2 weeks, since it's taken 6 weeks to hear back from the first 143 people.

I've already split up the "reach out" list between me, my fiance, my mother, and my fiance's father, so we all reach out to the people we are closest with. I left myself 10 days between our RSVP date and when we need our final headcount for transportation/bar!

I hope the reach out process goes smoothly & you have help from your fiance and family!

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Honestly, same. Prior to planning, I was SO bad at RSVPing. Now I'm going to be the first to send them back haha!

Some people just don't understand all the hard work that goes into planning a wedding! I'm sorry you're having to go through this. People, ugh!

People suck, in general! Especially so about RSVPing for events of all kinds.
That being said wedding websites are still new, I am the only one of my friends who has had one, I think some people just don't know that you do have to put in put into the website.

This is hilarious! Not the situation, just that I was going to post this exact thread almost word for word! My wedding isn’t until Aug 23 but it’s a destination wedding and we set our RSVP for June 1, sent out the invites a month ago. So far 0/28 guests responded and we did the same, website all set up with them only needing to input their information and click send. Fiancé is currently texting family to kindly remind them that while “we should know they’re coming” we would like them to RSVP. I think it’s so RUDE (family or not) for an event like a wedding with the time put into invites and all the rest and money, people can’t take a few seconds to send back the RSVP.

I don't understand either; especially if/when you make it easy for the guests to RSVP.
We mailed our invitations on May 2nd with a RSVP due date of 7/10.
We've only heard back from 57 out of 181.
I hope that we don't have a ton of people to contact in July. Fingers crossed!

Omg we had he same number of invites and same issue. I started reminding people the week prior just to try to increase response rate and spread the messages out lol.
I had a cut off of several days after and I sent messages the day after (I also had online ravp) that said something nice followed by “if we don’t hear from you by xx date we will mark you as a no and catch up another time.”
we had to do that to quite a few. I’m 23 days out and still having people cancel and try to add. So infuriating and inconsiderate.
apparently they don’t think they need to respond. This isn’t a Facebook event where you can mark “interested” or might go. May be it’s too much commitment lol!

If people are RSVPing to his mom, perhaps they’re older and/or less tech savvy? I know quite a few people on our invite list who would be bamboozled by online RSVPing so we’re doing both online and paper to catch as many people as we can.

Did you send them instructions on what they needed to do?

View Quoted Comment Thank you - I’ll recruit my husband & family members to help with the reach out process! Even the thought of having to reach out to almost 200 people by myself is overwhelming me!

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The good thing is, you won't reach out to 200, just the households of those 200. So we have to reach out to 90 people, but really only 40 households.

View Quoted Comment I feel like it’s super rude too! And I know logically it’s nothing personal, but I have to admit that I’m definitely taking the lack of RSVP personally. I’m over here thinking, “Well, nobody cares about us I guess. Maybe we should just cancel the whole thing..” 😂

View Quoted Comment I wrote the website link on the invitation, and gave super clear instructions on the website. Maybe I needed to give the instructions on the actual invitation as well??

View Quoted Comment Ah! That’s a great point. I didn’t think of that. 😂

View Quoted Comment That’s a good point, although some of the people that RSVPd to his mom are young families that you think would be tech savvy...

View Quoted Comment Did people tend to respond quickly to follow up calls/texts? My fear is that no one will respond to a follow up either!

View Quoted Comment It’s definitely infuriating! That’s a nice way of wording the follow up messages though, I might say something along those lines.

View Quoted Comment Best of luck to you that people will continue to RSVP!!

View Quoted Comment It’s funny, for a world so centered around technology, you think more people would be able to figure out a wedding website! Lol!