“why can’t we bring our kids? Just make an exception.”

Kee&He: I am sorry you are going through this. Brokering peace with a guest list is beyond hard, beyond frustratting and it is shocking how entitled people act and how they want to use other people as negotiating tools!!!

I am expecting to have the same issue, and I don't care who feels a way...... I already told one of my cousins she can stay home with her kids if she's so mad about them not being invited. It's so disgusting for people to act this way and its not they money.

We are in the same boat where we said adult first cousins only, no exceptions and have had a lot of people decline because of it. Despite the drama, we are happy with our decision to stand our ground, and now we have seen the true colors of those who are being petty and not coming over a 'no kids' and 'no extended stepfamily' rule.

I find it particularly hilarious when relatives who had their own child free wedding a few years ago, and now have kids, can't understand why their kids aren't invited to our wedding.

While our guest list isn't solid yet, we agreed on no kids at all. We want people to relax and drink and have fun, and don't want to have to entertain children. We will be finding an hiring babysitters for our OOT guests as a courtesy because I understand that for moms and dads "if they cant I cant." however grandkids? I'm so sorry your FH's uncle is putting you in this situation.

I was asking my sister yesterday if she thought that my cousins would be mad if I made one of them bridesmaid and not another, and she said "well Sara has baby Katie so it would be better for her not to be so she can watch her during the wedding" and I said "Katie isn't invited we aren't having kids at the wedding" and she tried to say "well she's a well behaved kid and will be a toddler by then so you should at least invite her" (trying to make an exception) I re-explained to her why we aren't inviting kids, and she said "mom and dad had sara and becca at their wedding" as if my wedding should be the same as my parents! they were both about 6 when they got married anyways! I couldn't believe that she tried to compare and make an exception for our wedding. if we made an exception for Katie, we would have to make an expectation for alllllll of FH's brothers SIX kids , his cousins FOUR kids, and probably more all for one baby on my side!

I feel you girl, I was hoping I would never get this question, and it has already started without even save the dates!

Haha that sounds ridiculous!

Stick to your decision! He is being pretty petty about the situation. As sad as it is that they might not come, it's your day and this was your request for no kids. Stand strong.

Yep I agree - they now want to cart their little darlings everywhere!!! I am a parent and I do not get this - let me have a night out w/out kids. And most kids are so bored at weddings. They have to wear uncomfortable clothes, their parents are not paying attention to them and there is not much to do.

Stand your ground. I'm also not having kids at my wedding and I've already gotten FH's cousin saying they don't have anyone to watch their kids so they'll have to come, so then when we let them know we would help find a sitter -- silence. They haven't replied whether they would still be attending so we will see.

It sucks, but, honestly, his loss. If he cannot understand that no exceptions will be made and gets upset about it, that's HIS problem.

I really don't understand how people can think that they matter MORE than any other guest and the bride and groom + whoever is helping to pay can just shell out extra money and room for this exception!

So rude.

I'll probably get a few of these, but hopefully they'll understand. We don't have TOO many kids in our family, but I'm sure some people will astound me.

I am dreading for when this inevitably happens. The only kids invited are our first cousins, and they're all in high school or older anyway. It's all family or very close family friends, and there's one couple in particular that I'm fairly certain is going to make a fuss and I'll be referring back to this thread when that happens!

Stand your ground-it's a day for you and your FH and you get to make the rules for that day!

UGH I mean it's understandable if the cousins can't come because they can't find childcare. It's a bummer, but that's how it goes. Uncle is just being petty, not coming out of protest. That is 100% on him. #standyourground #teamnokids