“why can’t we bring our kids? Just make an exception.”

Etiquette rant.

Well, I’ve read about it on here, and agreed with how ballsy and (frankly) tacky it is to do this, but I’d really hoped none of our guests would ask this question.

We addressed our invitations to specific guests, filled out the “__ seats have been reserved in your honor” line on the RSVP card, and multiple family members knew by word of mouth that we had to make a guest cutoff at first cousins to keep numbers down. But, FH’s uncle wants his grandchildren to come to the wedding. He called FFIL today to ask him why they weren’t invited, FFIL explained the cutoff and that no second cousins and no children of friends (we both have a ton of second cousins and a lot of our friends have kids) can be accommodated and we wanted to be fair by drawing a line and sticking with it. He wants us to make an exception. We aren’t going to, for anyone.

There’s a good chance he, his wife, their daughter and her husband may not come now because of it 🙄 It’s unacceptable to make an exception for one family and not for every other family we’ve invited, and we just won’t do it. We’re going to stand firm on our decision, but FH’s family is so important to him and I know them not being there is going to make him (and FFIL) sad. I hate that people can’t just understand and accept the no kids thing, ESPECIALLY when they know how expensive weddings are and how tough it is to manage guest lists.

Sorry there isn’t an actual question for this post, I just needed to vent somewhere I knew people would understand how frustrating it was to hear about this today!