why can't a bride host her own shower?

View Quoted Comment Me either. I feel like it’s only older people that do. Younger people don’t care about etiquette😂

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You think only old people care when others are rude? No.

Traditions change all the time. Etiquette, defined as preventing a situation where something comes across as rude and inconvenient for everyone in a social setting, never changes.

View Quoted Comment That’s not what I said! I meant I think only older people care about proper etiquette. I know plenty of younger brides who threw their own showers. I even know a mom who threw herself a baby shower. Throwing yourself a party isn’t rude. Especially if I pay for everyone.

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Haha now I don't know if I agree with that.

I also did not know that it was considered bad etiquette for the mother of the bride to host the bridal shower; however, when my sister got married, the main hosts were our mom and the mother-in-law. That was my first wedding I was ever a part of (I was 20 years old), so I had no idea. Similarly, when my best friend got married 5 years later, and I was a little older, her mom offered to host the bridal shower at her house. Again, I had no idea.

It wasn't until my best friend (who is not "old") said that it is considered bad etiquette for the mother to host the shower, that I found that out. All I knew is that my mom co-hosted my sister's, and it was fine, and my best friend's mom hosted her shower, and that was fine. *shrug*

View Quoted Comment Exactly this.
Some younger generations feel like they can do anything they want and if someone else doesn't like it, too freaking bad. The other party is being too sensitive. They don't care about the bigger picture of who is being upset and why beyond their own immediate satisfaction.
Younger generations who do care about proper manners vs being rude had the ideas drilled into them early by parents/grandparents/others who knew that certain behaviors are not socially acceptable.

Just Throw the damn party!!!

I think humans are SO darn hypocritical!!

We can throw our own Bday party’s…(expecting gifts) our own baby showers (DEFINITELY expecting gifts) BUT… we can’t throw our own Bridal Shower!!!That’s INSANE TO ME!
If you have true family and friends… you can be honest with them and they will support you either way!! Whether you throw the party yourself, or your mom or the dog or you hire some one.
Go! Live life! Forget these old washed out rules and enjoy 😊

My MOH offered to plan one, but I turned her down because our registry is small (we just bought a house and would prefer to receive cash). It would be rude to have a "cash shower."

Lots of people don't have showers. It isn't a right.

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You should not be throwing any parties expecting presents, including birthday parties and - especially - baby showers!

View Quoted Comment Yes I can and I will. Don’t hate because some peoples family and friends love them