Why are you getting married?

This is something that you need to discuss with your FH. Our reasons for getting married may have nothing to do with yours or his.

This is a VERY personal question. Please have a serious conversation with your FH. I'm not sure we can offer any advice.

@Kristin EXACTLY! Turn the question around. Why is he so nervous to get married?

I'm not trying to be rude... please don't think I am, but are you guys engaged yet? I noticed your wedding date is very far away?

I am getting married because my FH is fucking amazing! He makes me laugh, he picks on me, he makes jokes at my expense and sometimes I really want to kick his head off his shoulders but most of all he is the most supportive person and the absolute light of my life. He puts US first and makes me excited for the future. So when he put that santa suit on and gave me this nicey shiney ring, I said "abso-fucking-lutely" ...

I'm getting married because I don't see myself ever living without my best friend.

I married my husband because we are committed to a lifetime together. We both have shared our goals and vision for the future and we want to be in this shit forever. We want to be the crazy scientists that travel together, help raise our nieces and nephews, run insane races all over the world, celebrate holidays no one else does (we sing happy birthday and have cannolis to the Mars rover every year [partly because I bawled my eyes out when I heard it sang it to itself and even more so because the scientists programmed it to stop because there was no scientific benefit], we celebrate summer/winter solstice, the autumnal/vernal equinox, and Tesla's birthday).

We are our own weirdness and we wanted for formally have it recognized. We also wanted the protections marriage creates since we have invested so heavily in each other over the years.

I didn't think I'd feel any different than before (we're living together for 5+ years); but we do. Everything one does effects the other (decisions, finance s, health, etc) n we are just more conscious of 'us'. Never doubted our relationship really but just feels more like we are in it for the long haul.

We got married because we couldn't imagine a life without each other and we wanted to officially declare that to each other and in front of our family and friends.

I got married because I love my husband and wanted to declare that love in front of all our family and friends, and because I love the permanence of it. Yes, of course I always had dreams of a big, white wedding, and we were fortunate enough to have had our dream wedding, but that's not what it was about. I simply just want him to be my person forever.

You need to have a serious talk with your FH...

Couples counseling sounds like a great investment in your future

I feel like he is worried I'll change once married because of his last marriage. But there are days were he has no doubt in his mind he wants to marry me and be with me. We both got extremely lonely and sad when he had to go out of state for work for a week. So I know I can't live without him and he has accepted all my baggage and I love him to death. I just get worried when he says that He is worried I'm only in it for the title. We didn't have an argument or anything he just said it very calmly and with a bit of concern I told him that's not the case and he smiled like he was reassured but he admired that every now and then he worries

Because we want to spend the rest of our lives together. It's way more then the title of wife/husband. I told him he was stuck with me after we got together. But I agree with pp have a heart to heart talk.

Sounds like he has lingering trust issues from his last marriage. I think counseling would be a good start.

That is an interesting question posed. You have my curiosity. What does he think the wrong reasons are?

He comes to my therapist and we do couple counseling at least twice a month, but we haven't brought up our worries in marriage, definitely worth bringing up next time we go

We also been living together for over a year now but know each other for bout 2+ some years now. We are engaged we have discussed out moving the date closer since we don't have a venue yet. But I don't want to push it closer if he isn't ready

Bout 3 years, me met shortly after his divorce while I was working.

Sometimes I wonder if he felt like he had to propose and that's why he gets worried every now and then.

We both expressed how much we love each and what we want in the future and our relationship and really we both want the same thing, so to me I feel like it's moving in the right direction, but what I really want is to be with him and if we need to wait then we can wait

@Laureline I think it's a really good idea to bring this up at your next session. If he thinks you'll change perhaps you discuss what he believes you will do...

I think tonight, after the kids go to sleep I'll have a heart to heart talk with him

Mine ask me all the time and i ask myself the same thing lol! So here's how i think you can answer that question... when your in bed or have alone time just you... close your eyes and imagine he isn't there anymore... how does that make you feel? What will you miss?