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Super July 2017

Why are seating charts a thing?

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wifeytobejuly17, on March 7, 2017 at 4:02 PM

Thinking of not doing a seating chart. (Hear me out). When I have been to weddings in the past I ALWAYS get stuck at a table that I do not know a single person. I think people think since I am an extroverted introvert and they do not believe me when I say I am shy- they stick me with people thinking...

I guess I just 1) Don't want the stress of this 2) Don't want my guests to feel the way I did 3) tend to seek reasurrance from friends and i KNOW i'll end up saying "I am thinking of seating you with____". Our dinner is very relaxed- so I am not sure a chart is even appropriate.

Is anyone else not doing this? What is your deciding factor? Will this be a total bust or since dinner is very informal with really no waiting period- should I be okay?

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VIP May 2017
Miranda · on March 11, 2017 at 12:06 PM
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We are doing a seating chart. We are having a plated dinner with the guests choosing their entree on the rsvp. So we have to have assigned seats so the waiters know who gets what. But I think it is a good idea either way. It avoids chaos and people getting split up from their group
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Devoted September 2017
MrsBobby · on March 11, 2017 at 12:19 PM
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Assign seats may not be necessary but assign tables absolutely are. Honestly, I am shocked this is even a debate.
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Master December 2016
Nancy · on March 11, 2017 at 12:21 PM
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Very big in Scotland.
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Savvy August 2017
megan · on March 11, 2017 at 12:42 PM
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I just was at a large wedding last weekend (I'd guess around 200) and it was an appetizer reception without seating charts. It was a blast party and everybody was up dancing and moving around and being social. When we wanted to eat we just sat down and made friends. They did have several tables reserved for the bridal party (a few were pregnant) and close family. Honestly I think you need to just think about your guest list-if you are friends are relaxed then I think it will be fine. I am not having seating charts at my ceremony but the tables are small (restaurant) and the event is low key. I have been to several weddings, for sit down dinners a seating chart has been nice (although I have been in the situation where the "friend group" is split up), but I don't think it is needed for all weddings.
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Master July 2017
A. L. · on March 11, 2017 at 12:44 PM
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@megan, no. Your 88 year old Trump loving grandmother does not need to make friends with your transgender best friend. You need a seating chart.
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Expert September 2017
Donna · on March 11, 2017 at 1:38 PM
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My cousin didn't have a seating chart and it resulting in my FH, my grandma, my sister and I having to sit outside because there were no seats together.
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CMC · on March 11, 2017 at 1:42 PM
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^ that is why you need a seating chart. Can this thread die now?
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VIP October 2017
Kristen · on March 11, 2017 at 1:52 PM
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Before I joined WW, I thought seating charts were for extremely formal weddings or tv weddings. Not once have I been to a wedding with a seating chart, and not once have I struggled finding a seat with my friends. However, these weddings have had several extra chairs and tables; like there would be 2-3 tables for 8 that only had one couple sitting at them.
If you really want to order spend the extra time and money for more tables and chairs, you'll be fine without a chart. I will be having one because people would inevitably be split from friends and family if we didn't. If you're like me, having room for 150 people and inviting 142 guests, have a seating chart.
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Dedicated September 2017
Britten · on May 17, 2017 at 9:05 AM
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I am having this dilemma as well. So, I am doing a seating chart with assigned tables only. I had thought initially about just putting "Reserved" signs on tables for family and bridal party, because we are doing a sweetheart table, but I have a lot of people from out of town, and frankly don't want the stress of people not filling tables and my venue scrambling to set one up so some people can sit together after being split. No thank you. Stress now will save the stress on wedding day, that is my thought.
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