Why are sand ceremonies disliked? (updated w/pic)

Im doing the sand ceremony. It doesnt make sense to light candles outside for me either. Im also getting married outdoors. I think unity candles are done way more often than sand so...lol! I guess they are both overdone

People just think it is overdone and that it has lost its special meaning when it became very popular. I, personally, have never seen it done before. If I ever went to a wedding with a sand ceremony, I would still think it was special. If that is what YOU want to do, then go for it! If someone think it is "overdone" then that is their problem, not yours.

I see people use the colored sand and it reminds me of all those cheap kid crafts that you get everywhere you go. If it is what you like, the go for it. Personally, it's not for me.

It's just a matter of personal preference. If you want a sand ceremony, that's totally up to you!

Mines simple and I'm using beige and white sand like the beach. I didn't like the colors either.

Here are some of my ideas. What are you thinking of doing?

I think it's just a personal preference. We aren't doing any kind of "unity" ceremony. I just feel like the whole wedding ceremony is about unity so why add an extra step that I don't have any personal connection to? I wouldn't disapprove if someone else did it but my FH and I aren't the type of people who enjoy being the center of attention so pouring sand into a glass with him, in front of everyone, would just make us feel silly.

I don't think they're any more "over done" than the candles. I'm personally doing candles because I would rather have a candle in my house than a jar of sand & I have found the sand pouring takes longer during the ceremony. Nothing against it, just personal preference

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I have plenty of couples doing it, especially outside,and especially if they have kids to include in the ceremony. As I said in the other thread, we may all think it's overdone, but many people at the ceremony have never seen it before, and it goes over really well. My couples often pick sand from places they've been or where they're from, or colors that have meanings relevant to them (red; passion, green; renewal). I also tell my couples to give it a little shake on each anniversary; it will change as their relationship does over the years.

As a whole, I feel people don't like things people add to the ceremony that make it take longer, without any real reason. Tradition/religious practices are one thing, but new things are another. Just how I see it.

I also thought of using crystals instead idk. Last two pics

I thought the picture frame was cute but my wedding invites included pictures and I would feel silly displaying another picture of ourselves in front if ourselves at the ceremony.

I used to think they reminded me of the kids projects too until I looked at some examples. I think the key is to pair your special color with a nuetral one. Idk though, to each its own. I still think its perfect for outdoor and can be presented beautifully.

We did our sand ceremony over 2 years ago for our wedding..I never knew they were considered overdone. Our whole wedding took in the neighborhood of 15 minutes. So no, it did not add unnecessary time. Also I love looking at it still; I feel like with the candle you just blow it out so the actual process doesn't last..with the sand you have the whole symbol frozen in time :-)

I think the sand ceremony and the unity candle are both really nice touches to your wedding. Are they overdone, well probably, but so is, pew bows, flowers, centerpieces, anything that is related to your wedding. It's just become one of the things that people incorporate into their weddings. I personally like them and Celia, I love the idea of giving it a little shake on your anniversary. Makes me wish I would have done a sand ceremony instead of a unity candle.

I think I just don't understand it, how does pouring some sand into a jar unite you? With the vows you are making a promise to each other, and you have the symbol of rings already, why do you need an extra jar with sand in it? I think if I wanted something that looked pretty and was somehow a symbol of our relationship FH and I could pour sand together sitting at home at our kitchen table, not during our wedding ceremony.

But to each their own! I'm having a wedding full of lace and rustic and some people don't like that either!

I also want to point out the "overdone" line is a joke. I never even heard of a sand ceremony until I joined WW. The fact that a large number of couples are currently doing it doesn't make it overdone, most guests wont care. They don't go to weddings every day. My dislike of it comes from the fact that I hate cheesy things, and it just seems super cheesy. But then again, my first dance is to a Muppets song, so to each their own.

What Pezzy said ^^ "overdone" means they've seen it mentioned a bunch of times on WW or Pinterest. I think I have two guests that look at the wedding boards on Pinterest, I'm not worried that anyone will sitting at my wedding thinking, "lord this is sooo overdone", because they haven't seen the ideas 100000 times on the Internet.

Also, a Muppets song, I'm envious.

Melanie, when you say you don't get it, it's just a symbolic joining of two people, just like your wedding band is a symbol of your love and faithfulness. Can people get married without using wedding bands? Yep, sure can, they just chose not too. My unity candle is a symbol that's all. We plan to light it on our anniversary, give each other little kiss and and blow it out. That's it. Some people like the sand sitting on a fireplace to remind them of their lives as a couple. I think that's why I liked Celia's idea. As the sand changes so will our lives.