Whose fiancé works opposite shift

Ugh, totally understand. I work night shift 7p-7a M-Th. My fiancé works day shift 6a-5p M-Th. So we typically only get an hour each evening to eat dinner together, and then Friday night-Sun together (since I usually sleep all day Friday). It’s stressful but I’m so thankful for our weekends

Yes, been doing it 6.5 years now. It’s rough. My FH has worked various night shifts since we started dating, and we have two kids. I worked 8-6:45 for several years and there were weeks I felt like we barely said a dozen words to each other. I quit my job to finish my degree and at this point it makes more sense for me to stay home with the kids because daycare costs are insane. Even with me being home, it seems like our schedules are always pulling us in different directions. Even if I only have a few minutes before I need to go cook dinner for the kids, I try to lay down with him when he goes to bed because it’s the only moments we get alone and can talk.

I mostly work mid day to nights. At the latest, I would get off at 1030, getting home around 11 or so. During the week he is already asleep. He works 8a-4p. Mondays, Tuesdays and Thursdays, I'm lucky enough to work with him. The rest I work my other job and sometimes work doubles. It's exhausting.

View Quoted Comment I am trying not to talk so he can sleep. Usually we get 630-1100 togather we are ten minutes from how work. So he can leave at 1050. He will normally talk to me as I cook
and I try to do 30 minute meals.

I know the best we did is have a routine he comes home eats takes me to work since I don’t drive. Showers then goes to bed so when I am
home we can spend the evening till he goes to work together.

Yes, my FH works 12-hour rotating night shifts, and I'm mostly at home with our toddler. I do work part time, two days a week. Wednesdays are super hectic for us. On the majority of his work days, we only see each other when he comes home from work for a few minutes and then as he goes out the door. It can get really hard at times, not going to lie. I'm proud of him for doing what he has to do for his family, though. Right now we're both doing our own thing, sitting next to each other.

I work 1st shift 6am-3pm M-F and my FH worked 2nd 2:35pm-10:35pm and it was usually 7 days a week unless he asks off. Now he has a new job which is still 2nd shift (not sure of the exact times as this past week was his 1st week and he’s been training on 1st as he will next week as well) but it will be a M-Th and then every other weekend. So this is new to us as we have both been on different shifts majority of our relationship. But it just works for us. Every minute I get with him I cherish.

Same here. When he comes home I'm sleep and when I get up in the morning to get ready he's sleep. By the time I get home from work he's already been gone an hour, so we never really get to spend quality time together.

My fiancé used to work opposite shifts of me and it was super hard making plans and going out or spending time together. Hang in there. It is not easy but it shows a strong relationship to work through it.

I work your typically M-F 8am-5pm and he works 48 hrs and then is usually off 96 hrs, however he tends to end up with extra shifts a lot of the time. The life of being with a firefight 🤷🏼‍♀️ There times I don’t see him for 5 days straight because of work. What makes it easier for me is chatting via text throughout the day. The hardest days are when I don’t see or talk to him.

I work 5p to 5a and my fiancé works 5a to 5p so there are stretches of days we don’t see each other and when we are together our schedules are off. Parts are hard but the nice thing is that we each get our “alone time” so at least for me I feel like I can enjoy my time with him too! It’s hard, sometimes my snuggle time is watching movies in bed and he normally falls asleep pretty quick...it’s the effort though

I completely understand how much that situation sucks. My fiancé is a firefighter so he works 24hr shifts and his days off are rarely, if ever, on a weekend. It’s sometimes hard to make time to see each other with our schedules :/

FH gets up at 3:35AM. He leaves for work at 4:30ish, and comes back home between 12-1PM. Unless he has to cover a game for his 2nd job, then that throws afternoons and weekend mornings into the mix.

I leave for work at 3:45PM, and get home around 11PM or midnight. I don't even go to bed until he gets up, because I'll just get woken up by him getting ready for work. So, I get up when he gets home. (This is why nearly all my posts are made at 2:45AM on the East Coast.)

We spend our afternoons and my evenings off together, and Sundays, since we both have those off.

We have the *weirdest* schedules.

I work 11pm-7:30(ish)am 5 days a week. My schedule isn't consistent. My FH doesn't work because he got injured in Iraq and is on disability. So he stays home and takes care of the house and kids while I'm sleeping during the day. It feels like we don't get too much time together somedays, like if he has plans, but other days we spend what time we can together

My FH works 2 jobs. 4-11. Then 11-7. We rarely see each other so days off are usually scheduled together

I totally get this! My fiancé works swing shift so he works 6am-2pm , 2pm-10pm & 10pm-6am. & they bounce him around all the time so even when his schedule is set it still changes and he works 12hr shifts a lot. It’s so hard to plan things cause we don’t ever know what he’s working.

I work 8-330 M-F. He works 4p-12a T- Sa. It’s struggle. We spend most of our QT on Sunday’s and Monday evenings. We talk and FaceTime a lot through out the day. Some nights I will wait up for him or he will wake up early to get our son ready. We have decided that in April he will switch to an 8a-4p shift. My sleep pattern is non existent trying to get that hour of “us” time 1am. Sucks but when life gives you lemons. Make lemonade.

We both work days but I work weekends. I usually only get a day off with him and sometimes that doesn’t happen if I have to cover shifts. During the week I leave before he wakes and by the time he gets home I’m about an hour away from bedtime.

We used to both work the night shift but then we started working in the school district and then he managed to get a night shift as a custodian so over the summer I work 7:30-1 and he works 10a-7p
During the school year however I work 6a-3p and he works 3-midnight
So we really only have weekends together but I'll try to take a small nap when I get home so I can push dinner a few hours so we can still eat together

Though we don't shift work, our travel schedules sometimes suck..... This month, he left at 3:30, gets back Saturday evening. I leave Sunday, get back late Thursday, he leaves again Sunday gets back Friday this time, then I have a short trip all day Monday, like fly out and back in one day.