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Amy
Dedicated December 2017

Who would pay for bridesmaids' manicures?

Amy, on October 6, 2017 at 9:54 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 24

I was considering asking all my bridesmaids if they would like to go get manicures with me the week before the wedding. Since it would be an option for them, not a requirement, would it be assumed they would pay for it or me? I am paying for their dresses and all other accessories, and they are all doing their own hair (I asked if they wanted it done by the lady who is doing mine, and they all said no). I really don't want to be tacky or insensitive here, so if I should pay for it, then please tell me and I will adjust accordingly. :-)

24 Comments

Latest activity by Sparky_B, on October 6, 2017 at 9:04 PM
  • BoudreauToBe
    Master July 2018
    BoudreauToBe ·
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    If you ask for them to all go at the same time they will probably be under the assumption that you will pay.

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  • MrsBeetoBe
    Super October 2017
    MrsBeetoBe ·
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    If it’s optional, you don’t have to pay, and just make that clear to your girls. “Hey guys, I’m going to get my nails done at X time. If you’re interested in joining, let me know”

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  • Ashley
    Beginner October 2018
    Ashley ·
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    It's a very nice offer but I wouldn't accept the bride to pay for me to get my nails done out of principle.

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  • Jillian
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    Jillian ·
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    The week before is a bit early. My sister invited all of her maids and we each paid for our own, neither of us assumed she would pay.

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  • Ashlee
    Devoted September 2018
    Ashlee ·
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    Personally, I think if it's an option and not a requirement, like if you wanted all their nails to match or something, then it's okay for them to pay. You could if you wanted to, but I don't think it's an issue to expect them to. Just make sure you phrase it in a way that makes it fairly obvious without saying anything.

    "Hey guys, I'm getting my nails done at (place) on (date). Anyone want to join me and get yours done too?"

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  • Amy
    Dedicated December 2017
    Amy ·
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    I will probably get them done on Thursday (wedding is Saturday). We'll be busy Friday decorating the ceremony venue, so I don't think I'll have time that day to do it. It'll be a cross my fingers and pray I don't damage them before Saturday. ;-)

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  • Mrswelch
    Master December 2017
    Mrswelch ·
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    I agree with the wording of PP and with the notion that if it's not required then you don't have to pay. If it were me and you worded it similar to the above suggestions, I would assume it was on me to pay. Especially given what you've paid for already.

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  • Winter Bride
    Dedicated January 2018
    Winter Bride ·
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    A week before is too early. Some hair stylists do manicures too I haven't thought if I will get my nails done by my onsite hair stylist on wedding day but will most likely see if I can do them before Like Thursday too! We're the same decorating on Friday and rehearsal Friday. Also I get eyebrows waxed the same time I do my nails generally. Lol

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  • KatieMBY
    VIP January 2018
    KatieMBY ·
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    For one, you should take them Thursday evening or Friday morning, no earlier than that.

    Also, make sure they know it's totally optional and ask the general question of who wants to join you. That way, you're not implying you'll pay. I personally wouldn't even want the bride to pay for my nails. I would rather foot the bill.

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  • Maria
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    Maria ·
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    I think it depends on how you approach it. Here the bride pays for that but I'm aware its different in the USA. Decide first if you want to/can afford to pay for it. If you are tell them you are bringing them would they like it done and does such a time/place suit. If not say to them that you will be going at such a time and would they like you join you that there is no pressure on them if they can't make it and that it will cost x amount. That way there is no confusion. Either way you are not wrong.

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  • Madison
    Expert September 2018
    Madison ·
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    I'm pretty much sending a mass text saying "hey guys, I'm getting my nails done at X-place at X-time on x-day - anyone else want to come? "

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  • augustlawbride
    Expert August 2017
    augustlawbride ·
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    My thought is if you require it you pay

    If it's optional (and truly optional like hey I'm going on this day if you want to join) then it's okay to have them pay on their own as long as they know in advance

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  • Tamara
    Super October 2017
    Tamara ·
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    Why a week before? too early imo.

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  • Nicole2017
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    Nicole2017 ·
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    I did exactly what Madison described above - about half my BM's came, and we all paid for ourselves.

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  • Meaghan
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    Meaghan ·
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    The last wedding I was in the bride said, "I am having my nails done at x place at x time. Let me know if any of you want to join, if so I'll schedule you an appointment too." We all assumed that we would pay for ourselves, and some of the bridesmaids were unable to make it. I would say same rules as hair and makeup though, if you are requiring a specific color etc. you should pay.

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  • Future Mrs M
    Super June 2018
    Future Mrs M ·
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    Agreeing with the week early comments!

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  • LaKesha
    Super May 2017
    LaKesha ·
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    Yes. Manicure/Refill and Pedicures. I only had 3 ppl and 1 was my daughter.

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  • Rosered
    Devoted January 2019
    Rosered ·
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    Agree with PPs. If you ask casually enough then it shouldn't be assumed that you will pay.

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  • Amy
    Dedicated December 2017
    Amy ·
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    Thanks all. I didn't mean a week before as in 7 days before the wedding, but during the week previous to the wedding, so like Thursday.

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  • Christina
    VIP September 2017
    Christina ·
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    I just told my friends I was getting my nails done for the wedding and asked of they wanted to come with me.

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