Who to write thank you notes to

Everyone who gave you a gift, for sure. I would also send one to your friend and acknowledge her card. I would consider your wedding a semi-destination wedding and (personally) would stay at a hotel if I were a friend of yours, plus the travel time. All that costs money...money that she may not have been able to spare to give you because she used it to get to your wedding.

ETA: Honestly I don't think you can EVER go wrong with giving a thank you card.

Me!!! Just kidding. But not really. There is nothing that makes my day like getting a thank you note (bonus with pix) from my couples. Your venue coordinator and maitre d'; the limo driver who held your dress as you got out of the car, the bartender who made you the perfect dirty martini, the delivery kid from the florist who made sure everything was where it needed to be. You'd be amazed at what a positive effect your kind words will have on people who sometimes only hear from people who are pissed.

I'm planning to thank all in attendance, even those local who don't bring anything.

Write thank yous to everyone. At the least you get a hand cramp but its a nice sentiment thanking people for making a trip to your wedding.

Write thank yous to those who

1. travelled far

2. gave a gift

Anything else is overkill IMO

Alright, thanks everyone! I'll take an "Oprah approach" to this and say "You get a thank you card... you get a thank you card... thank you cards for all!" Including vendors too! Good thinking! I like that

I would right a thank you acknowledging the card and thanking her for sharing in your special day