Who to invite to a lingerie shower?

Seriously...3 showers?? That's a bit much and I would be irritated to have to keep buying gifts out of obligation , or I just wouldn't go. Those guests WILL feel overwhelmed and feel like they are forced to keep spending money.

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As I said, I don't want people to feel that way. I didn't ask for it. But they throwing me the shower because my bridesmaids have been slackers.

I'm not concerned about how many showers I have had. I just want to know about who to invite to it. Is it okay or not okay to invite people that came to one of the other showers? I feel like it's wrong to invite people that already came to a shower.

Another thing to consider would me how comfortable your guests feel. A friend just has a lingerie shower recently and received some toys for the bedroom. Her FMIL and FSIL were in attendance. The FSIL looked especially uncomfortable.

I agree with Mrs. Clark. I think 3 showers is excessive. Even if you didn't ask for any of them and you think your bridesmaids are being "slackers", you're not really missing out on the Bridal Shower experience. If I was invited to 3 showers (or even 2, for that matter) I would not attend all of them.

Maybe they could tie the lingerie theme into the bachelorette party?

People aren't being invited to 3 showers. My family threw me a shower and my fiance's family threw me a shower. None of my bridesmaids helped with either of them. Or offered to help. Two of my bridesmaids didn't even come to a shower. One was out of town, which I understand that. The other kept saying she would be there and never showed up. And still hasn't said why. I was thinking of inviting people to the shower that didn't get to make it to one of the other showers.

I have already gone out for my bachelorette party. One BM suggested what to do and then rest was left on me to figure out.

If you've had 2 showers, one for each side apparently, and you've had your night out, what's the purpose of this shower? Just because they are bridesmaids, it does NOT obligate them to do anything other than get their dress and be there the day of. My BM's did not help me but I had ONE shower, thrown by my mother and step-mother.

If you have already had 2 showers and she wants to invite people I would just invite your close friends and sisters if you have any. I dont think its too much if you family wants to celebrate just make it clear that its a celebration/get together. Just so your friends/fam dont get overwhelmed. It can get expensive to bring gifts to all those events so I would just party and hang with the girls in my life no pressure to them. Maybe you could give them treats like gifts or prizes that just show them you appreciate them. I mean they have showered you so maybe just make this one a chilled hang out with the girls with drinks and lingerie should be fun liquor and lingerie you cant go wrong lol

Here's an answer to your question...I wouldn't invite people who have been to the other shower.

I would invite just the people that didn't attend (or were not invited) to the first two showers. This way no one feels like they have to purchase another gift.

Thank you Future Mrs. Day! I love this idea! I feel like this whole thing turned into something it shouldn't have. I feel like I knew the answer, I just wanted confirmation that I was thinking right. I don't want people to feel overwhelmed or feel like they have to spend money. But a future family member is wanting to do something for me. Thank you again Future Mrs. Day!