Who to ask to help with your wedding?

I'm from the Midwest too and I haven't seen a wedding with ushers in a long time. As for greeting the guests, I've seen fathers do that at church weddings. I've seen staff or a DOC do that at venue weddings. It's been years since I've seen a guest book attendant.

I'm in the Midwest as well. Believe it or not we aren't one large homogenous social circle with bad manners.

We did have ushers at my daughter's. The church specifically requested it so we complied. FWIW the parents of the bride and groom were all in the narthex and did greet guests. We didn't plan it that way it just happened.

I wouldn't ask my friends to do anything like that. Especially something that can easily done by a DOC or even a sign. Let them enjoy themselves. Most people can figure out where to sit or where to put their presents or where the guestbook is.

Why did you ask when you already made up your mind?

Guests know how to walk to a chair or pew and sit down. You need to give people tasks. If you're really worried, hire a Day of Coordinator.

Hire a DOC. Greeting guests is something you and your FH do either by having a receiving line after the ceremony or visiting tables during the reception.

Ushers are pointless and yes, I consider them rude. Any job that you hire someone for should not be given to loved ones to do for free. Also, if you already knew what you were going to do, why did you ask?

Hire an event coordinating company. Simple.

Where are you hiding the guest book and card box that people will need assistance finding it?

I would really appreciate having constructive and positive ideas please! I like the idea of parents receiving guests as they arrive. Traditionally, parents are the hosts of a wedding so having them to greet guests would be great!

View Quoted Comment I didn't suggest that you ask them. If it happens fine but don't go around asking people to work your wedding unless you intend on paying them. We just happened to be waiting in the narthex of the church and greeted people because we were there.

Should I hire my bridesmaids too then? 😂 I guess I just have the wrong view of my wedding day. I'm sorry for even asking.

We ARE giving you constructive ideas. You're just not liking them. Your wedding day is up to you, but on my wedding day, my parents were with me, having photos taken, helping with finishing touches on my hair, veil, etc. And when they weren't doing that, they were enjoying themselves and mingling with loved ones, not greeting guests.

View Quoted Comment If you expect them to be doing work yes.

This "Where are you hiding the guest book and card box that people will need assistance finding it?" is not a constructive comment. That is the non-constructive comment I was referring to @Elizabeth.

View Quoted Comment Yes but you and your FS should be personally greeting them throughout the reception, not having a friend do it at the guest book.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you Becca,