Who pays for the wedding ? 🧐🤔

My FH and I are pretty much paying for everything by ourselves.

My parents offered to buy my dress and his mom offered to pay for the bar. So whenever someone offers we let them help but it is mainly us. I also feel like since we are paying for it we don't have to worry too much about their opinions on everything. Of course we want there opinions on some things but ultimately we have the final say which is nice.

My FH and I are paying for everything ourselves. We are even getting everyone's travel and accommodations cause we are able to.

The only thing my mom contributed was buying my dress as a gift ($500), no idea why she wanted to but I appreciated it nonetheless.

My parents are helping us with our wedding. They are paying for most of the wedding and we are paying for the rest. If someone is willing to help along the way, that would be wonderful. It is mainly my parents and us paying for the wedding.

The couple is responsible for paying for the wedding unless someone offers to contribute. Traditionally, the brides family pays for nearly the entire wedding. I've seen tradition call for the grooms family to pay for things like the rehearsal dinner, florals, alcohol, groom's attire, bride's rings, honeymoon, etc. But regardless of tradition, no one is required to follow these suggestions and the bride and groom should anticipate paying for their whole wedding unless family has offered otherwise.

My parents gave us a flat amount that they were willing to give towards the wedding. We could either use it to pay for a wedding or take the money and run (honeymoon, savings, down payment for house, etc.). With the budget I've made for our wedding, it will cover about 70% of the cost and FH and I are covering the rest.

If parents are wanting to be very traditional, here are a couple sites that give inputs (one is WeddingWire, one is The Knot)

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/who-pays-for-what-in-a-wedding

https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-budget-who-pays-for-what

Traditionally "back in the day", the bride’s parents hosted and paid for the wedding (these are not the same thing), because the bride was considered “property” or “chattel” for them to “give away” to the groom.

Obviously, this is not the norm today. My parents are paying for my ceremony and reception, partly because they are able to and they want to help me and my FH start off on the right foot. I've also told my parents and my future in-laws...I'm not asking for any financial help, but if they want to offer it, I will graciously accept. Most couples are paying for their own weddings today, but if your and your FH's parents are offering, maybe sit them all down together and see who wants to help pay for what.

This is easy. It is your and your FH wedding. You two pay for it, unless someone offers to pay or help pay for it.

We are paying for our own wedding. FH and I have lived together for 3 years and own a home so our finances are combined already, so there is no "he pays for this" and "I pay for this." Since you will likely combine finances to some extent after getting married (if you haven't already), I think you should decide on a fair way to split up wedding costs early on. As far as family goes, if they offer to contribute, that is wonderful and you can work with them to decide if they want to just contribute cash or if they want to pick specific things to pay for. FH's family has offered to contribute some money, but my own family cannot afford much and I do not expect they will offer, which is perfectly fine.

I am in a similar situation as well! We got engaged on Christmas Eve and had a family meeting this past weekend to discuss expenses. Luckily, both of our parents are opting to split costs and not go the traditional route of who pays for what. My Fiancé and I will pay for cost of gifts for the bridal parties and our parents, as well as hotel fees for our officiant/dj/wedding coordinator. I have opted for a day-of coordinator and will be paying for her services. I will also be purchasing attire for our flower girl and ring bearer, as they are traveling from across the country. We will also foot the cost of the majority of our DIYs. Money conversations are the WORST.