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Traci
Expert November 2017

Who makes toasts at the reception?

Traci, on July 17, 2017 at 7:45 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 34

I always thought it was best man and MOH but a quick Google search is giving me all kinds of different answers. Is it rude if parents don't make a toast? Do FH and I have to make one? What is everyone else doing?

I always thought it was best man and MOH but a quick Google search is giving me all kinds of different answers. Is it rude if parents don't make a toast? Do FH and I have to make one? What is everyone else doing?

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  • bobbileighba
    Expert June 2018
    bobbileighba ·
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    We will likely have my best friend and then fiancé and I will do a thank you especially since it's a destination wedding.

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  • Leah
    VIP July 2017
    Leah ·
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    My mom is going to give a quick welcome "speech" but other than that it'll just be BM and MOH. FH and I will probably do a short thank you speech after theirs but that's it. Our families don't like public speaking lol.

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  • SaraJ
    Super November 2018
    SaraJ ·
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    At my wedding, no one. I hate that part of weddings and always think it's very awkward and rehearsed. I plan to let those who want to speak do so at the rehearsal dinner.

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  • Catti Labelle
    VIP July 2018
    Catti Labelle ·
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    We haven't decided yet, but we will be totally ok if only FH's Best Man (one of his brothers) gives a speech. My stepdad is a minister in his church. While he hasn't yet expressed interest in giving a speech (we have a little less than a year away, so who knows if he'll ask), I have a feeling he'd be honored to give one. He's very chatty as well as a jokester, so I'm afraid he'll embarrass me and go on too long, especially if he's had a few glasses of wine. We'll see!

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  • JonesPartyof2
    Devoted July 2017
    JonesPartyof2 ·
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    My best woman made a quick toast and then my 2 best friends (who weren't in the wedding party) did a toast together (my wedding party was just a best woman & a moh who had no interest in making a toast).

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  • Traci
    Expert November 2017
    Traci ·
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    Thanks for all the answers!

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  • MnmsMonique
    Super June 2018
    MnmsMonique ·
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    Typically BM and MOH, but really who ever you want and whoever feels comfortable doing it.

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  • hannnnahhhh
    VIP May 2018
    hannnnahhhh ·
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    My FH wants to give the first toast after entering reception. Then during dinner it will be Best man, moh, then my dad!

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  • Mrs.Soon2Be
    Super August 2017
    Mrs.Soon2Be ·
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    We are having our MOH & BM as well as another best friend say something sweet, simple, & to the point. We want to eat lol

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  • PennysMom
    Expert September 2018
    PennysMom ·
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    There will be no toasts at mine. Barring anyone feeling the need to address everyone on their own that's is.....

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  • LaKesha
    Super May 2017
    LaKesha ·
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    Best man and MOH did ours

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  • RAG
    Super November 2017
    RAG ·
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    For my friends wedding I was the only one to do a speech. It was very short. Maybe 2 min. For my wedding the BM, MOH will do a speech and possibly FOG. I don't think my dad wants to do a speech and that's fine. We will thank everyone when we cut the cake

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  • Jennifer VR
    VIP April 2017
    Jennifer VR ·
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    It is up to you really - I have been to a wedding with loads of speeches and all I was wanting was for them to be over so I could eat and chat.

    I think a nice balance is someone for the bride (MOH or FOB), someone for the groom (BM or other) and someone for the couple (Bride or Groom - for the thank-you's).

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Traditionally the father of the bride, best man, and maid of honor give toasts at the reception - but it's all optional! As everyone has said - in terms of toasts, less is more Smiley smile

    https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/who-gives-a-speech-at-a-wedding

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