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Traci
Expert November 2017

Who makes toasts at the reception?

Traci, on July 17, 2017 at 7:45 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 34

I always thought it was best man and MOH but a quick Google search is giving me all kinds of different answers. Is it rude if parents don't make a toast? Do FH and I have to make one? What is everyone else doing?

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on July 19, 2017 at 3:40 PM
  • WinterSweet
    Devoted July 2017
    WinterSweet ·
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    At our wedding, the best man gave a speech and toast and my MOH (my mother) spoke briefly. DH and I did not make a speech, though we did speak to every guest at least briefly during the day.

    It's whatever you/FH/your family/Bridal party are comfortable with.

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  • Imogen
    Dedicated May 2017
    Imogen ·
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    Anyone you want! We had both of us, my dad, best man and maid of honour (we kept everyone short so it didn't go long). I've been to weddings where both dads spoke, where neither the groom o the best man spoke, it's what works for you and your group.

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  • WED18
    July 1993
    WED18 ·
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    Back in the day it was only the Best Man, now it seems everyone under the sun makes a speech. My advice would be to limit the speech givers and keep them short.

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  • pammat
    VIP October 2017
    pammat ·
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    I'm hoping it'll just be the BM for us, but I'll check with my attendants to see if they're interested.

    Also, FH and I will be doing a SHORT thank you speech.

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  • Alison
    Devoted November 2017
    Alison ·
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    We don't have MOH or best man and parents don't want to speak so we're just doing a short, thanks for coming to celebrate and have fun!

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I think most guests will agree that the less speeches the better. Very often, the parents will do a thank you at the rehearsal dinner,and I've seen the couple say a brief TY. Other than that, just the BM and MOH.

    All the speeches don't have to be at the beginning; you could do your thank you when you cut the cake...

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  • Joy
    Super June 2017
    Joy ·
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    Anyone you would like to speak. At our wedding it was best man and matron of honor then my father. We kept all the speeches short

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  • ReallyAReeves
    Dedicated July 2017
    ReallyAReeves ·
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    We aren't even doing toasts! Neither of the BM or MOH feel comfortable public speaking and my FI and I were not into the idea since we are both pretty reserved and didn't want that moment to be all about us (sounds funny I know but we would both find the moment very awkward). All we are doing is his dad is welcoming and saying a prayer at the rehearsal and my dad is welcoming and saying a prayer at our reception!

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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
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    No rules. We're having my MOH and my FHs brother. My FHs BM is his 24 year old son who is not comfortable with public speaking (we asked him if he wanted to and left the decision to him). We will do a very short thank you to guests since we aren't doing a cake cutting.

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  • Diana
    Expert October 2017
    Diana ·
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    This can be tough because so many people WANT to give speeches and it's hard to tell them no. We will have 4 toasts (My dad, BM, MOH, and one GM) and we are asking them to keep it to 3-4 minutes. The DJ has their names and is not going to "open it up" to other toasts. Hopefully no one comes and grabs the mic like they did at my brother's wedding...people who don't have prepared speeches tend to ramble. My FH and I are going to say a quick thank you at some point but I'm not sure when. The cake cutting is a good idea! FH will give a speech at the rehearsal dinner.

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  • C&N
    Super October 2017
    C&N ·
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    This one is completely your call, I just caution against having too many people do speeches/toasts. Our bridal party is only kids, but we're asking FH's uncle to do one toast. He's like a second dad to him, so it's a nice way to honor him.

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  • Traci
    Expert November 2017
    Traci ·
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    Thank you all! I appreciate it Smiley smile

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  • Wanda
    Super February 2018
    Wanda ·
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    I don't think we'll do any at all. We're not having a WP. We may ask our officiant to do a short blessing prior to the opening of the buffet, and I may see if FH wants to do a quick "thank you for coming" prior to cutting the cake.

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  • The-New-Mrs-K
    Expert July 2017
    The-New-Mrs-K ·
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    At our wedding, it was the Best Man, a joint toast with the Maid and Matron of Honor, my dad, and my stepdad. His family didn't feel comfortable speaking in front of so many people.

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  • Malei
    Super October 2018
    Malei ·
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    My FH doesn't trust his BM to make a speech and my MOH is indifferent on making one or not so we probably won't have speeches. He's half Korean and I'm Filipino so we may have someone from each of our families (none are in our BP) do a traditional toast from each culture. The FH also has anxiety so the plan is that he'll stand next to me when I say our thank you's. That'll pretty much be all the public speaking planned expect for the MC.

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  • Sarah
    VIP July 2018
    Sarah ·
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    The set I've seen most is father of the bride, MOH, best man and the couple thanking their guests for coming.

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  • Ella
    Super August 2017
    Ella ·
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    We are only doing BM and MOH. i'm not a fan of a million toasts. if others want to speak, they can do so at the rehearsal dinner.

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  • LanaKane
    Super November 2017
    LanaKane ·
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    I was just asking my coworker this question. My FMIL apparently wants to give a toast and asked my FH if she could. I told him I thought only the MOH and Best man gave a toast and he was upset. I'm probably going to let her give hers but I didn't want too many speeches

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  • Christinanyc
    Master December 2016
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    At our wedding, the Best Man and a bridesmaid made a toast (my MOH didn't feel like doing one- long story).

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  • Must Love Cats
    Master October 2017
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    We're most likely going to have FHs brother,my bridesmaids (whoever wants to will keep it under a minute...I don't have a MOH), our dad's and us.

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