Who is walking you down the aisle?

I am just having my mom walk me down the isle because she raised me, ny father had nothing to do with me while growing up. He is going to be invited but I dont feel he has the right to have that honor because of not being in my life by his own choice. I am also going to have a mother daughter dance instead of a father daughter dance. You should do what you feel is right.

I think thats a great idea. My stepdad basically took me in as his own and I have no contact with my bio father. Growing up I've gotten almost closer to him than my mom. I want just him to walk me down the aisle as more of a gesture to him so that he knows he is my only "dad"

My father gave me away at both weddings. He hoped this time "...it would stick." lolol At 50, I really didn't want to be "given away", however, he is 73, so honoring his wishes was important to me.

As the mother of the OP, she knows how touched I am that she would include me in the walk down the aisle. Cate knows there is a large part of me that feels it should be traditional, like her father and I were never divorced, just having her Daddy walking her down the aisle. HOwever, the other side of me feels we should both do it. Either way, I would totally respect her wishes.

Walking your children down the aisle is an honor that is earned, whomever all of you ladies have chosen to do the job are obviously special people. Enjoy!

I think having both is a great idea and more common these days as well. My dad passed away when I was six...I grew up knowing I would ask my brother, sadly he passed away two years ago. So now I will have my Mom walk me down the aisle and I have a silver locket that I will place my dad and brothers pics in and wrap around my bouquet to have them with me as well.

My mom will walk me half way and then my mom and step dad the rest of way. My dad is deceased. But I know he will be there in spirit

My father doesn't want to walk me down the aisle so we are having my fiances good friend walk me down the aisle. I knpw its not typical but its my day and I love being around Adam and I am completely comfortable with our decision.

I have seen alot of people who had both parents walk them. Also some with just the mother, or someone else other than the father for whatever reason.

I have no contact with my father so my brother gave me away instead. It was so sweet, and we both were very emotional about it.

My dad is walking me.

However, I have seen it multiple ways with multiple different people..

I've seen people have someone walk them halfway, where another person is waiting, and that person takes them the rest of the way.

Girls who have men who have stepped in as a father figure but are no relation walking them down the isle.

Ladies, what it all boils down to is what your heart is telling you. After all, this is YOURS and your FH's day.. Not the rest of the family or friends.. You do what makes you happy and completes your day, and everyone else can get over it!!

It will be my mother walking me down the aisle. However, I warned her if she is a sobbing trainwreck then I am walking down by myself!

The more I think about it, I really want both my mother and my grandmother to walk me down the aisle. I am very close to my Grammie and really want her to join my mother in giving me away

Cate- My Husband & I walked with both of our parents. Let me tell you that all the parents appreciated that special touch. I think that I does not single any one of the parents. I too had a Catholic Wedding and the coordinator loved the idea of both parents to walking down the isle. Best Wishes. But I would definetely have both sets of parents walk down the isle!!

Cate- My Husband & I walked with both of our parents. Let me tell you that all the parents appreciated that special touch. I think that I does not single any one of the parents. I too had a Catholic Wedding and the coordinator loved the idea of both parents to walking down the isle. Best Wishes. But I would definetely have both sets of parents walk down the isle!!

I love all of the different ideas!

@Becky B i totally agree, it all boils down to what your heart wants. I think it all depends on what you feel happy with, and like i said before I am sure all the people who were asked to walk each one of you down the aisle is very honored.

For my ladies who are walking themselves down the aisle, like I mentioned above I love the idea of that also, it is showing everyone how independent you are!

Now i just need to double check with my priest to make sure both my parents walking me down is ok, it it isnt, i am not sure what I will do. I can't see him saying its not ok....

I have a similar issue, I have a biological father who wasn't in the picture very much as a child (although we have a good relationship now) and an ex step father that pratically raised me and choose to keep me as his "daughter" even after my mom and him got divorced. I didn't want to have hurt feelings by asking one or the other, but the don't really get along, so having them both walk me down wasn't a good idea either, so I asked my mom. She said that she would do it, but she was worried that her dress would clash with mine in the pictures. Then,my FH and I were talking about the flowergirls/ring bearer in front of my 2 sons. My oldest son (who had just turned 7) said he wanted to walk me down the aisle. So, that settled it. My 4 year old will be the ring bearer. I feel for your predicament and how you feel about your mom, but honestly, in your particular situation, I would suggest just letting your father walk you down the aisle if you are on good terms at all.

I think your making a great choice having both of them walk you down the aisle. I had my 2 daughter's walk me down and they loved it

@ Jennifer K, i love that your son is giving you away! That is wonderful!

I will most likely have both, and its because I really want both, my mother and father have both been apart of my life, and the whole idea is for the person to be "giving" you away, and i would want both the peeople who brought me into the world to be the ones to "give" me away. I really do love that your son is walking you down the aisle, he is an important person in your life and I am sure he feels honored to be apart of your ceremony! Thank you so much for your opinion!

@ Salita S, thats amazing! I would have loved it if my mom would have asked me and my sister to give her away! My mom always said that we are a package deal, you dont just get her, you get all three of us! I am sure your daughters were honored!

I think I'm going to have both my mom and dad walk me down. I'm way to close to my mom to not include her in this!

My father passed away 24years ago. I will be walking down by myself. When the Pastor ask who give me away, my mother will stand and say I do