Who is supposed to throw your bachelorette and bridal shower?

If BMs want to do a Vegas thing and MOH doesn't, the BMs can host the bachelorette. MOH doesn't have to plan it or even come. There's no rule that it has to be MOH.

If nobody offers to plan one, you can totally just do a girl's trip to Vegas. There's no need for it to be an official bachelorette or have someone else plan it. Honestly, it might be more fun that way! You wouldn't have to feel guilty about anyone paying for you or giving you extra attention; instead it would just be a normal getaway without the pressure of a bachelorette.

One star Ashley, your party that you're planning to celebrate yourself is going to look attention seeking. It's not an opinion, its a fact. There will be eye rolls. No-one will say it to your face though.

What @Iyla said. If the BMs' idea of a good time is more groovy with yours than your sister's, then they can throw it. It's best etiquette that your bridesmaids check in with your MoH though so that they don't step on her toes. You cannot, however, throw yourself a bachelorette.

WTHeck girls! Ashley, your question is a perfectly normal question to ask. These comments are SO out of line! First, just like everything else, wedding etiquette is changing. I just saw a commercial where a girl asked a guy to marry her and showed a special place she could take him. I still sat WTH! NOT THAT FAR WE HAVEN'T! but hey whatever. So from all I read and from my wedding, your best friend who you made known by choosing your maide of honor. Unless she's loaded, this does put a great deal of expense that she & bridesmaids already are forking out unless they got good deals. You could say tp her, hey if you want to organize a small batchlerette party, I understand if we just go to dinner, have some wine or whatever. All female bridal parties know of the word batchlerette party. She's your bestie but that doesn't mean she can afford it all. So I suggest you look up some ideas and throw her way. Of course you don't host your own. It's you and your girls. Get a great price on a hotel room and go do whatever and everyone pulled in the room on the early hours. A swimming pool, spa, whatever but do something. I wasn't a partier so we just hung out together. None of us had much money. I paid for most of my wedding with no parents. You do what yout have to!!!!!! Ashl depends on the financial shape of your bridal party. They should want tp celebrate your last days of singleness so just talk to them!