Who gives this woman to be married. ...

Our officiant gave us the idea of having her say to the guests something like "do you support this couple in their marriage today?" and then all the guests say "yes!!!"

I think that's what we're going to do, it'll be really cute. My wording is probably not exactly right, I'm sure she has something more elegant that she told me she'd say that I can't remember right now lol

Who do YOU want to give you away? That's all that matters. If you want your mother and father to do it, no one should have a problem with it, and if they do it's their problem and not yours.

As for seating, I'm not really sure. Would they be comfortable sitting near each other?

I'm having that part left out. My parents are deceased, and I'm probably walking down by myself. If the officiant forgets and asks, I'm going to answer...ME! lol

It's still done and up to you if you want it.

Your mom should sit in the first seat of the first row, next to her husband, and then your dad should sit directly behind them (or a row behind that), next to his wife.

I think your step mom would understand *why* he would answer that way-- how can she begrudge you that?

I'm nixing this altogether. Nobody is 'giving' me to anybody. I'm choosing for myself and I won't 'belong' to my husband but rather take into a partnership.

As for how the parents sit, I would do your mom, step-dad, any grandparents if you have them or siblings, then dad, then step mom. If you have someone to site between them then great. If they REALLY don't get along, have them sit next to the aisle of the first two rows, one in front of the other.

My pastor is asking. but you can ask them to not do this

So far I had the first three rows as reserved. Was going to do parents in first. Grandparents in second and siblings in third. The ceremony should be 20 minutes. I think they should grow up and deal with it

This won't be asked because my parents are dead - my father's best friend is walking me down the aisle, but he'll just simply relinquish his arm to FH and that's it.

I stole wording from Doctor Who for this....mostly because I didn't like how they only address the father.... so it wil be (Name, FOB) do you consent and gladly give? and (Name, MOB) do you consent and gladly give?

I totally get the parents thing...not sure where to put them at the moment: I think what they would agree on is that I"m putting too much thought into this which is awkwardly hilarious.

Oooo Shannon I like that wording. Hmmmm

Front row (this eliminates exes sitting next to each other or next to a person who possibly broke up marriage, but both parents are in front row):

MOB (closest to center aisle)

MOB's husband

FOB's wife

FOB

I think they do... they did 10 years ago in my last wedding.

I'm going to choose not to say this. I'm a daddys girl and he is walking me down the aisle but for some reason I don't like the question.

If you do have it said no one should be upset by what you want the response to be, it makes sense. As for seating I would do father and gf in one row and mother and bf in another row... If you want the answer to be "Her mother and I" Then I would ask your mom to stand when you get to that point down the aisle (which is why I think the different rows would be good so your mom can be on the end). Just my opinion though. Do whatever works best for you!